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Q: I need to do some research on people who are blind- that is, how they sense the world, how they can write (can they use the internet?) How do they read music? What do they think about things that can only be seen, but that they have never been able to see? Any help or resources on this subject would be much apreciated- and fast!

When someone is lacking one sense, their other four senses are hightened. They become more powerful and more useful in everyday life.

This website might help a little: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sense

Good luck!

Q: well i told my boyfriend that i have had sex before but i havent. if we do have sex, is there any way he could tell that i am still a virgin?

oh and what does it mean when somebody "pops your cherry". lol

When you "pop your cherry" it means a layer of skin, called the hymen, has been broken. This usally happens during the first time you partake in sex, but it can also occur from numerous other activites. For example: using a tampon or a type of accident when the skin accidently breaks.

Honestly, I don't think having sex right now is the best idea (for you). I personally think sex should be shared with someone you love entirely. Since your boyfriend doesn't even know that your a virgin might also mean he doesn't know other details about you. I know you don't want any regrets your first time. (This is just an observation and I might be totally off.) Good luck!

Q: can anyone give me a list of axed tv shows that have been on in the past 2 maybe 3 years? thanks so much

Hope this helps!...

2006-2007 Series
ABC
Day Break
The Nine
Justice
Runaway
Angela's Eyes
Lovespring International
Saved

2005-2006 Series
Alias
Commander in Chief
In Justice
Invasion
Night Stalker
The Evidence
Love Monkey
Threshold
Killer Instinct
Reunion
Conviction
Heist
"Inconceivable
The Book of Daniel
The West Wing
Just Legal
Bedford Diaries
Charmed
Everwood
Pepper Dennis
Sex, Love & Secrets
South Beach

Q: ive been wearing a ton of mascara lately. i dont feel pretty without it. but now ive noticed my eyelashes are thinner and WAY shorter. no matter how much mascara I wear it seems like they just fell out.

is this possible? how do I get my long pretty eyelashes back?!

Maybelline Mascara XXL will make your eyelashes look longer and thicker.

But honestly, if you want the real problem taken care of... Cut back on your mascara usage. Save it for the nights you go out with friends, etc. Don't use it when it's not necessary. Good luck!

Q: Oook this is kinda sad but i've never kissed a guy and i wandering like what makes you a good kisser. And i heard there were like diff kinds of makin out and ways to do it. Got any info for me?

Thanks!!

No one thing can make you a "good kisser." I guess, the only deciding factor is if the boys you kiss enjoy it. Honestly, you have no reason to worry about being good. Don't focus on technicalities, just go for it and have fun. Let things happen... because unplanned kisses are the best. If you desperately want some tips, even though you probably don't need them, you can check out kissingbooth.com! Good luck!

Q: ok, first of all, why the heck would anyone want to shave "downstairs"?!? are you suppost to? do guy's like it that way or something?

i'm just unsure, you see a lot of questions on here about shaving down there! any advice would be apreaciated,

p.s. i'm 15/f

thanks

"Why?!"

Shaving can make your body a lot cleaner and make you feel more comftorable.

"Are you supposed to?"

Shaving or not shaving is a personal prefrence, and it should be left up to you and only you!

"Do guys like it?"

Most guys do like girls their with to shave, but then again it all goes back to personal prefrence. Everyone is diffrenet. Just remember, if any guy says he will only be with you if you shave... He's completely not worth it.

Q: My best friend is very selfish and always takes advantage of me and i dont like it, and i have like no other friends anymore because i was always trying to please her (shes kinda high maintenence) and shes hard to talk to about this stuff because shell get all mad and defensive and wind up manipulating me to make me think that im the bad person, but really everyone tells me how shes bad and now she wants me to do drugs and get tattoos and other stuff that i dont think i wanna do... but i have no other friends..so what do i do.

This is crazy, I have a friend who is going through the exact same thing. Minus the drugs & tattoos. First of all, I hope you know this "friendship" isn't healthy. You should never have to try and please your friends. I know you're worried about her getting mad and starting drama, but you have to learn how to deal with confrontation. This doesn't mean be a complete bitch back to her, but remember to stick up for yourself whenever necessary. Start distancing yourself from her... Slowly but surely your friendship should fade. If she is persistent and keeps trying to get in contact with you... Simply ignore her phone calls and avoid her during school or wherever. As for new friends, making them will be easier then you think. Even though the answer "Join a Club!" is a little lame, it's true. You can meet people with your same intrests. Be friendly and strike up random conversations with classmates or whoever. Good luck!

Q: someone said somethin about putting toothpaste on their pimple and it clears the pimple up is that true

It works for some and doesn't for others. I guess it all depends, but that is the case for all acne products. Differin has worked really well for me in the past. If you need, like, an actual cream... I would recommend that. You can get it through your dermotoligist.