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Here's the deal.....I have already asked you that question about me and this kid liking eachother but his friend was in the way...remember me? Well, to make things worse, he has now found out that he is moving. His friend is finally over me and we now can date freely, but since the guy I like is moving, it is making things worse. Me and this guy have been talking and he explained to me that if we went out it would kill to move later on. So we decided not to go out. However, we are still majorly in love. We act like a couple, and do things as a couple, but we just don't call ourselves a couple. I don't know what to do. It is going to hurt so much when he moves away and I don't know if I will be able to get over it. This is how he feels, too. Is there anything I can do to help him? I think it is worse for him than for me. Whenever I try to help him or make him feel better, I end up making him feel worse because he knows he will have to leave me sometime or another. Help! I have tried focusing my attention on other guys...but it doesn't work. Any suggestions?
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It's going to hurt, there is nothing you can do... it will get better as time goes on and you both will be able to help and move on whether you think so or not... best thing to do is live in the now... enjoy time together to get your minds off moving, and when that day comes, keep in touch so that the pain is less and you can drift away slowly...
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I think I'm addicted to the internet. I'v been on for at least 6 hours today. The thing is though, I don't know if me being on this long partly has to do with the fact that I hardly go on all week becasue I don't have the time. Is there any way somebody can help me. The time is 12:07 am right now and I got on at 8:30 (probably only taking a 30 minute to an hour break)
I feel so crappy! (link)
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Don't feel so crappy!! I'm guessing 99% of the people her are sad pathetic Internet addicts, and proud of it to... at least your not to the point were your weekdays are devoured too... like me ;) Just remember you are not alone! Millions are just like you... Don't feel bad...
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OK there is a guy at school that everyone thinks i like, and the fact is I dont know
I enjoy spending time with him and he's nice, but I dont know if I like him that way >:( (link)
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If your not sure if you like him, chances are you don't, at least not in that way... you sound like you like him as a friend... believe me if you liked him, you would be more sure about it. You would know you like him. You would feel it. Signs you like someone... 1. You can't get them out of your mind 2. After you talk you think some of the things you said were stupid 3. While you talk to them you stumble 4. Them touching you in any way makes your stomach feel like it's fluttering... there are more, but those are some solid ones...
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It's obscenely early in the morning, I've not yet gotten to sleep. How do I GET to sleep? (link)
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Warm Milk, tea, relaxing music? close your eyes and try not to think of something, go run so your tierd, a hot shower, anything to relax, and/or tier your body and mind...
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Lately I've been chatting a lot with this guy. He's a friend of a friend. Anyway, it's been about 3 months now and we have loads in common. We decided to go see a movie together(not a date) next weekend. Trouble is, he's very smart, and when I'm chatting with him I always feel like I'm too stupid for him. When we meet, I'm afraid it might show even more, that he might start talking about things that i don't have much say in and he'll find me unworthy of his time and won't want to be friends anymore. How should I act, or should I plain out cancel the meeting and just stay friends on msn? (link)
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Aww don't cancel... I met the man of my dreams off of AOL... If something like that ever was to happen, first off be honest, let him know you don't understand, that does not mean your by any means stupid or unworthy, to him that just might mean you just might not be as well rehearsed as him in that area... also that way he'll know what to talk about with you, if he really likes, and knows a lot about, say something like cars, but you don't know anything about it, and are less then interested, really, let him know you don't understand. There is a lot out there to talk about, and I'm sure if he is aware you don't know a lot about something, he wont get really into talking over your head... for example I really like horses, but when I'm around people that don't know much about them I avoid talking about them so they don't feel left out... and if you were to ever feel like you were for some reason less intelligent, think about something you know a lot about, and he may not... that’s an example of something your more learned in... You are never below someone, and its a fact that most people spend more time in a relationship (this includes friends and family) thinking up ways that they are inferior... relax, you can't just not live because your scared of what others might think! Be brave and know you ARE worthy of his time...
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i swear life is out to get me i just got over a bad mood and now i am in a huge fight with my firend and he said he didnt wanna talk to me and he hated me whate should i do? (link)
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Leave him be for a little bit, give him a week or so to just cool off, let him figure it all out, then after he feels better you can mend things, but in this cooling off time still be nice if your, confronted, smile at him so he doesn't just think your done with him... you could also talk to him, and try and resolve your problem diplomatically
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Ok, so my boyfriend and I broke up awile ago. And it was sort of a bad break up. And he's gotten a new girlfriend. But, he still acknowledges me. You know? But, he won't talk to me first or anything. I have to talk to him first. Oh and by acknowledge, I mean he like still looks at me...like a lot. It's odd. And as soon as one of my friends notice him looking, and he notices them noticing, he turns his head right away. Like he's trying to hide it. I mean...what am I suppose to think? (link)
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it's obviouse that this kid is crazy... well anyways, he probably is hurt still, and confused... his new girlfriend is probably just rebound girl... and he very well could 1. still kinda like you, or 2. be giving you looks of death. Eather way i think its best you leave him be for awhile, if your break up was bed, ignor his looks and don't keep trying to talk to him, let him heal, then presure to mend a friendship.
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I know this may sound very stupid, and I knwo there's nothign us girls can do about it...but just let me vent...
Am I the only one who thinks it's irritationg that only girls go through periods, having the baby (even though its a blessing, but it hurts), and they are the one's who are mostly aboused by men adn get made fun of sometimes for doing certain things that men are usually known for doing most of the time, even thuogh women can too. It just makes me so mad, becasue the boys rub it in our faces and the only thing that hurts them is when they get hit in the wrong place. I'm sorry this is just stupid and I don't have anything against the males about this but I just wanted to get everything out and see if I'm the only one who feels this way.
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May every male have kidney stones ;) only then will they feel our pain... yes it is annoying, however while we have periods men to have monthly periods of time that there hormones are irregular and there for they too get a form of PMS. Well anyways the thing is a woman, rather than beating each other up work to mentally mess with each other, we call each other fat, spread roamers and abuse mentally. We don't get abused in our relationships more, no sir, we just get abused physically, but men get abused mentally. We may think its not fair and equal, and that's pretty true, but just think, we don't have a penis clouding our judgment, we live longer, and we have overcame a whole lot more adversity as far as getting our rights then men did... so there...
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There's this boy (let's call him...Bug) and I have this friend (lets call her...cool)
Well, I used to have a big crush on Bug last year and I told one person and that one person told a lot of other people (which I don't really care because I wanted him to know) Well...Bug is just so cute, even if he is a jerk. I started liking him last year. I didn't find out he was a jerk until this year though.
My friend, Cool, was at her locker this year, and Bug came up to her (and I was right next to her at MY locker)and Bug was like "Hey, Cool, will you go out with me baby?" and both Cool and I knew he was only joking and being an @$$.
Cool just gave me an embarrased look and then I didnt say anything but big was leaving and he called Cool a HEFFER! and I was just steaming becasue yes...my friend is kind of big but its not something that she could help becasue she is big boned. Everyone calls her the black barney (not to be racist, but a lot of them who cal her that are black too) and it gets me so mad that they call her that. Anyways, I gave Bug such a cold look, and this is when Im pretty sure he knew that I liked him. He looked at me kind of sadly and then when we were walking past each other in the hall...I bumped into him hard on purpose and he just looked at me.
Then all the rest of the days I would just give him such a dirty look and roll my eyes. And Im so mad becasue my friend transferred schools because of him and his friends making fub of her on the bus.
The problem is though....I think I still might like him. He keeps giving me looks (not necessarily looks that he likes me or that hes interested) Its just makes me so confused and I don't know what to do becasue even if I DO still like him......I dont want to.......or at least I think I dont.
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ummm forget the jerk... avoid hiom think about how cruel he was to your friend... you like who you do for what ever stupid reason, just keep reminding yourself he is an ass and move on with your life...
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ok ive never had a boyfriend and i really want one but i think its because peopl ethink that im fat... i really dont know what to do because ive tryed everything to loose weight but it jst wont happen and i have so many thing going on in my life and i just want someone whos there for me please help me...... (link)
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if you really are big and nothing seemes to work you might have a hormone imbalence or something like that that causes you to gain weight, if your really concerned talk to the doctor but if your not severly over weight i doubt thats why you don't have a bf...
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Okay, I'm a very very shy girl. Like extremely shy. How do I get a kid I like to notice me?...I think he's seen me around, but he's just so cute and the way he walks is so graceful. I can't get him out of my mind...it's something that I just can't help. It's not an obbsession, just a huge crush. Believe me, I don't waste my time being obsessed with boys. THEY'RE JUST BOYS! (no offense) But this kid is just the perfect person for me...and I'm young but I think I', old enogh to know when somebody is almost "the one"...at least for now...
So, does nebody have advice on how to get this kid to notice me? (link)
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You have to swallow you pride and fears and talk to him, many people have this thing, guys especially, its the famous "if I stare at her enough she'll fall in love with me" its not true, unfortunately the only thing that might get you is a restraining order... often it is the guys that are also too shy to talk to the girls... everyone feels awkward and will say things they regret when there talking to someone they like, during the "ice breaking" time. the only way to get this guy to notice you is to make yourself noticeable... make sense? It’s fairly self explanatory... if you never talk make eye contact or flirt then you will never be noticed by anyone... you need to get some guts, tell yourself over and over that you can do it!! And do it, talk to him flirt with him… It’s your only hope...
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how do you ask a guy out with out ruining a friendship (link)
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You ask him if he "might like to go somewhere just the two of you, like a movie or something"... and is he says no then say "ok" all perky like you didn't just get turned down then continue on with the conversation like nothing ever happened...
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Should I dust my room when I can see cobwebs all over...well..everything? (link)
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Really I highly suggest you do, that is before the cobwebs turn black, and you die of eating spiders and breathing that black cobweb in... Woohoo!
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ok well here is the deal i hate these things because they are all alike but i need to no
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ok my friend and i are semi close and he isnt really that cute but today when i passed him in the hall in the morning his eyes caught the light just right and i literally stoped and just stared at him and i mean last year he would make my knees go weak and melt every time i looked into his baby blue eyes (they are like brad pitts eyes in interview with a vampire when he is a vampire not before) and he has the most gorgeous lips but i have to say an ugly nose lol any way the other day i told him his sister told me he had little pink piggy's on his boxers and after i told him hes like well i do see and he showwed me cuase he was wearing them that day and omg i cant stop thinking about him but what i want to know is it love cause i am only in 9th grade or crush or nothing oh and jsut to let you all no io posted before and the title of that post was snibble it was under love relationships (link)
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I can safely assure you it's not real love; more of a crush, or a form of infatuation. Real love is knowing someone, and their flaws, but accepting them for who they are. It's a feeling of great caring, hopefully mutual, with some from of physical and emotional intimacy. Since he is a mere friend at this time the physical and probably much of the emotional intimacy is missing to make it real love. There is nothing wrong with infatuation or crushes on people for a while, as long as it’s not so overpowering you end up throwing out your life friends and future for this person only to find once the “glitter” wears out he’s not anything you thought, which by your story I can't see. If you want my opinion I'd say ask him out, get to know him, you might make it real love, and his less than perfect nose won't even matter anymore ;)
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my best friend for over eight years (i'm only 13) doesn't wanna be my BFF no more. i don't really understand. she said it has something to do with me acting too smart around other people. what the fuck is going on with her??? (link)
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Often throughout most peoples life friends come and go, even you and you closest bud may drift apart. It can happen many ways, another person can step in and steal the "lime light," big arguments, change in where one lives, change in interest, or really a reason that can't be explained or understood. When this happens its best to, while you may not want to, let them go... In your case it sounds like she's more or less irritated with you, and more often than not with in some period of time things are resolved, and return to pretty much normal. Just remember whether it works out or not, relationships come and go and you should not need to change who you are in order to be friends with someone, be yourself, try and be happy, look at this as an experience rather than a night mare... Good luck!
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is it really bad that i think i'd rather go on a ski trip over thanksgiving than go home to see my family? they drive me nuts. (link)
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Families are really good at driving you nuts, I can't stand talking to a lot of my relatives but when I have no other choice I suck it up, and be decent, try and not let them get to me and enjoy the time i am spending. It's not too terrible, but really if your asking if what you want to do is abnormal or terrible I don't think so. If you want to know what to do.. I'm sure it's really your decision, what you feel is fine, going somewhere with out family is fine to, it’s you life to live not theirs...
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Ok, I had a boyfriend let call him (troy) but anyway I really like him but i broke up with him to have sex with someone else. he stop talking to me for a year and now we just started to talking again we are closer than ever. he said that he would take me back if his two friends give him a good reason to go back with me. But i don't understand what he means? I think he cares about me but don't like me. Because i fall asleep in the cafeteria and no body woke me up. BUT HE DID. So does he like me or what? (link)
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Honestly if I was him I don't think I would be talking to you again let alone like you, what you did probably ripped out his heart, kicked it around a bit, peed on it, and then left it there. It was a pretty poor use of judgment, I’m sure you know that, especially now. Well he very well could have feelings for you still, but I suggest until you figure out your own life and expectations, talk to him more and figure out his, you pursue the relationship...
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Alright, so I finally got this serious boyfriend. But, of course after awhile, I forgot how lucky I was to have him,(yes I was lucky, he's wonderful, despite his flaws) and I started flipping out about the most stupid stuff ever. And he couldnt' take it anymore and dumped me. He was so sweet about it, (well as sweet as you can get dumping a person) he even cried. He told me that he cried every time we fought. And I was completely shocked. He kept how he felt from me because he didnt' want me to be upset. And I went psycho trying to get him back, but it just pushed him further away from me. And he blocked me on AIM and told me never to talk to him again. And now he has this new girlfriend. And he says he's really happy. But, yet I mentioned a guy in my online journal, and he sort of went on and on about it in his journal, indirectly. All of my friends think he wrote what he wrote because he read mine and got jealous. He still glances at me in school, to. But, when he notices one of my friends noticing him looking, he hurries and turns his head. I mean, he seems to really like her, but yet it seems like he has feelings still for me. I don't talk to him..well, hardly ever. I don't know what to do. I am so lost. Someone, please please please help me. I still love him, and its been months, and it still hurts. I have matured. And I realized what I lost...I just want him to know that, and I want him back. Sigh. -Amanda (link)
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Well you seem to have a situation. First off in ever single relationship you need to have communication, if he can't tell you his feelings and you seem to wait until your problems become a full out argument before you express them you are going to have major problems, and there is low probability that your relationship will work out, as you found out... You need to move on from this relationship. Feelings still being there is inevitable, it sounded like you really cared for each other, but best thing you can do is try and understand. He looks at you and thinks about what might have been, or is reminded about what use to be. You need to let him go. If you can renew your friendship, do it with time, fist thought you must fix the problem at hand... You need to realize and understand what makes a good and bad relationship. It's of utmost importance to trust your significant other; if you can't then your relationship is not healthy... You also need to address issues between you two when they first rear their ugly head before it becomes bad enough to start an argument. You also need to realize that you are not the only thing in this person's life, that you are only a part and there for their world should not revolve around yours, you need to work together, not be controlling. You need to not have unreasonable expectations, this person is who they are, and you should love them for that not try and change it. You will probably not get him back, don't expect him to come running to you, and don’t chase him down, look for someone else you will both be happier in the end...
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i need to think of some good cheap ways to stay warm on a camping trip this weekend. it's gonna be really freaking cold, and I don't want to buy and expensive -80 degree sleeping bag because i don't go camping all that often, but i'm afraid i'm going to freeze to death. what should i bring to keep me really warm? i know about wool but are there other really good fabrics to be sure to wear? (link)
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Down jackets! or down anything that’s warm, polar fleece and flannel work well to if layerd... carhartt... ahh the wonders of working out doors in the winter for 3 years...
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do pop tarts qualify more as a "breakfast" or "junk food"? i'm aiming for breakfast here, don't let me down. (link)
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I think they qualify as a breakfast food, i see lots of people eating them in the morning
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