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I recently started dating a guy with a very very close family. I am 22, he is 24, and still living with his parents while he saves up to buy a house. The problem is that I'm starting to see signs of his parents making too many decisions for his life.
First of all, he is christian, and quite religious. Me and him have made the decision to wait to have sex, at least for now. I think this is a personal decision that is between me and him.
He stays at my house sometimes, and has already slept in the same bed at me while staying at my mothers house, at my house, and at my sisters house. There is not a problem with this because we are both adults, and are very capable of making out own decisions.
But, recently he told me that he doesn't think he should stay at my house anymore because his parents are already getting suspicious. He has already told him that we're not having sex, but, apparently, they don't believe him, and are trying to stop anything from happening.
Another thing is that I'm planning a trip to Florida, and he really wants to go. He is allowed two weeks vacation from work, and would only need one week. The problem is that he works for his father. I would not see a problem if his father told him "I don't think I can give you the time off, because I need your help here" But, instead, he said "I don't think you should go because you need to save your money"
This guy is 24 and is capable of making his own decisions on where he sleeps at night and what he spends his own money on.
I'm wondering how I could make this clear to him, that it bothers me, without making it uncomfortable. I do not want to make things uncomfortable for me and his parents, him and his paretns, or me and him. Any advice would be much appreciated. (link)
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Wow where to start. Well you helped me so I will return the favor best I can. Well first thing I would do is try to do is maybe take his mom out to a lunch and have a 1 on 1 talk with her about how things that are going on make you feel. Tell her how much you love the guy and just how happy he makes you. Let her know just how much better things would be with her trust and support by your side. Then what you need to do is maybe sit down with your man and tell him exactly how this stuff is making you feel. He should be able to understand it but if not id say its going to be hard cause the religion is big believe me I know how serious it makes some people, but if he understands hes going to have to sit with his parents and explain how he feels having you in his life and how nice it is. Sry if this isnt making since im talking to a friend whos 2 month old baby died today from heart problems when she was born. Thing is he is the key in this. He needs to put a foot down and show his parents hes ready to be serious in life and that hes an adult now. I honestly dont think they realize that cause I still live at home at 21 and my mom still yells at me for nothing and asks a million questions when a girl calls lol. Well im sure my advice sucks cause im not in the greatest of modes at the moment but u have my aim we can talk there sometime. Enjoy your trip for florida.
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theres this guy i like.. we tlk like were goin out like baby .. u kno? well he kinda has a rep like tha kinda guy that uses grls i guess? i kno he hasnt had a gf in alongggg time cuz he doesnt ask a grl unless he rele wants to b with em.. other than that he juss has hook ups.. he seid he was goin ask me out buh i dont kno what ot think.. will he play me or will he actually commit? .. i asked him if he juss wanted to come to have sex with me.. cuz i kno he trys to buhh i never do anything with him cuz i dont want him to see me as a ho cuz im not! and tha only way id do anything with him is if im his gf .. andd i told him that buh i guess now hes thinkin im not interested in him at all cuz of it.. i dunt know! (link)
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Well here is what I think but I dont know your in a tight spot. It seems to me that he's depressing you and that already isn't good at all. If there is someone else out there you do trust I think you should be after them first but reading about how this guy is it seems things aren't going to work out. Im sorry to say that but I dont like girls getting hurt. And it seems to me he is only for sex. I hope I help you somewhat if not im sorry.
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