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Q: f/13
I always get my homework in on time at school, except I am always awake till 11:00pm finishing it, which is too late for me. I also do more than I am expected to do, which is why I often get good grades. I still want to maintain these good marks, but I want to get my work done faster, go to bed earlier and have some free time in between.
Any ideas?
Please Help!

you may just be able to think better when you work at night and take your time.

Q: I've been deluding myself into thinking I could be an author, and now I'm starting to realize that I shouldn't have bothered.

Someone, tell me how to break myself of this delusion permanently, so I will no longer try and just move on to simply living life.

Don't give up. If what your really want to become is an author go for it. It's hard to find a topic worth writing about. Place your self in a quit setting with music you like? a certain smell of candles? etc. breath in the air close your eyes a visualize what you want to write about. im sorry this isnt answering your question but giving up on someuthing you truley desired is wrong..

if you really want to give up research careers that intrest you pick on and focus on it. study a ton of stuff about it online eventually becoming an author will slide out of your mind.

Q: ok, so i liike straightening my hair because i dont like the look of it curly. But when i straighten it it like groups together and is really thin, is there someway to make it straight and look somewhat natural. and could it have something to go with the heat level on the iron?? cause when i use it i turn it all the way up, is there a better setting??

try after you get out of the shower. try blow drying your hair. brush it out make sure its not wet and straighten it in slow sections. when you done brush it out again.. there is also this like greyish silverish bottle at wal mart i cant remember the name but it deals with straighting your hair. sometimes naturally drying your hair works better brush is or comb. and wait for it to dry.. my brother uses a comb he says it works better than a brush.

Q: I just bought a new phone. Its an LG KU990 (viewty). I installed the disk which came with the phone which runs the program called LG PC suite which helps copy photos from your phone to your computer. I have attached my phone to my laptop twice to copy photos I have taken from my phone which worked fine. I have some new photos I would like to put on my laptop but when I tried to copy the photos they wont paste onto the folder on my laptop. what is going on?

i dont understand you question to well.. if they are already on the computer but wont go to the file try dragging and dropping them. or opening in another file and saving it to the file you want.

MORE:::: maybe try sending them in a picture message to your email.im not sure about downloading on to the computer.. or re installing that disc

Q: Making a complicated story simple, I love chewing gum in school. It's against school rules, but I do it anyways, and never get caught. So in my last class of the day, American History, I have 2 friends there, my friend Gina and my friend Alessandra and I always give them gum. This annoying kid behind me, Pauric, always wants some too, so being the nice person I am, I give him some. I ask to go to the bathroom, come back, and my gum is gone from where I keep it and I know he took it since he always asks for more, and my friends saw him. I want to tell the principal since he'll get in trouble, but at the same time, I'll get in trouble since gum chewing is against school rules. Any suggestions?

Thanks (:

(so much for keeping this short!)

honetly the only advice i could give you is the advice the other person you commented this had given you. if you do get caught you could argue that it helps you concentrate better if you decided to go to the principal.

Q: well about 2 months ago i took the depo shot and they said you cant get pregnant on it so me and my fiance started having sex without protection about a month ago . the past week or so my stomach hasd hurt , sometimes it has sharp pains and sometimes its jsut aches , ive also throw up at least once a day - mostly at night . my back has started hurting about a couple days ago .

my stomach is looking swollen but its not getting hard or anything . maybe im just putting on weight or i could be pregnant . i wanna take a test but i just had a period about a week and a half ro 2 weeks ago so it might be too early to show on a pregnancy test . is it too early to show ? could i be pregnant even tho i took the shot ?

Yes you can still get pregnant while on the shot. all types of birth control there are still a chance of you getting pregnant. They are signs. but you maybe getting the signs because your worried about it. just relax. i know how you feel im nervous as well.. i think i might be pregnant. im going to use a ept prenancy test. you can take one now (2 come in a box) it will most likely show up neg. but it may help you relax. them take the second one two weeks after you take the first one. im taking my second one on the 29th. discharge is also a sign. your stmoch might not get tight for a little while if you are. swallow is because youd be bloated becauseyour hormones are going wild to adjust back pain is normal. and throwing up is usally the first sign women get.. good luck.

Q: ok so my best friend...we will call him Cole. Well he and I were hanging out at another friends house then we all started to lay on the bed. well all a sudden we strted to get closer and closer and then he grabed my hand I didnt think anything of it because he had done it before. Well then he started to bruch my hair back and blow in my face and rubing his nose on mine and I wanted to kiss him but I didnt. Then he finnaly kissed me. He tried hiding it from our friends but it didnt work then he sat up and gave me a bracelet and then kissed me again. Well then today a friend was over and he was all over her and I got mad as heck. Then after she left he came over to me and started kissing me and brushing my hair back then he fed me. idont know how to take it all is it a friend thing or does he care?

you need to ask him. be like you are my best guy friend or how ever you would like word it. ask him how come he kissed you why is he actting like this. ask him why he was all over your other friend. only way to know for sure is go to the source. good luck.

Q: I'm trying to use windows movie maker to make a pregnancy video for a friend who lives out of town and is due in early November. The only pictures I have are those from her baby blog. As a SURPRISE gift, I'm making this scrapbook/video (so I can't really ask for more pics or go snooping to get them). I have roughly 15 or so pictures of her showing off her developing baby bump. I'm not going to give/show her the movie until after the baby is born so I can get a few slides with the baby.
Anyway, I'm lacking in the department of background music. I don't necessarily need a song about pregnancy, but if the movie starts with one picture of the engagement, a few developing baby bump pictures, 2 pictures of her kitten (their first "baby"), 3 more bigger belly pictures, and then a few post-birth pictures, what's a good song to play in the background?

Like I said, it doesn't have to be about pregnancy. If it does, great, if it doesn't, I don't care as long as it makes sense with the pictures.

Sorry for so much detail, I just don't know of any pregnant/baby related songs & need some serious help! Thanks in advance! :)

I Do (Cherish You) by Mark Wills?

engagment? maybe some pictures of the mother and father to be.. or maybe you can find a baby picture of each of them. good luck

Q: i need a job for my age of 13 were can i get one?

i was 13 and i had family who knew the person. but at the fair grounds.. giving pony rides. all you can do is under the table type of jobs.. working with a family member something like that. or if your family knows some one.

Q: Hey so idk if this guy i'm with is a good kisser..and i havn't hooked up with a ton of guys so i don't really know what a good kisser is
so here are a few questions..
are your lips supposed to be like stacked on top of eachother like his bottom lip..my bottom lip..his top lip..my top lip?
are you supposed to like take turns going into eachother's mouths or do your tongues just meet in the middle..?
what do you do with your tongues?
When your head is turned sideways how do you still like lock lips?
If you want to just tell me every tiny detail about kissing that would be cool lol
He kinda does the same thing with his tongue so how do i get him to change?

you get him to change by taking charge. tily your head he should follow and tilt his the oppisite way and kiss him yes tounges should meet in the middle. and they just like wrestle with each other. lips should be pretty much touching bottum to bottum top to top.. thats my opinion good luck

Q: 15/f
My boyfriend wants me to come over to his house and i have never been to a guys house before that i have dated and i am REALLY nervous. At school, i don't get to see him that much so i'm not that nervous. What do i do? How do i not be nervous? Please help!

Dress in clothes that make you feel comfortable. Be your self. If his parents and or siblings are there tell them Hi or How are you? RELAX good luck!

Q: ***I'm 13 Female***

Okay, so in my math class by my desk is this guy named Nick and this girl named Karlee. Karlee thinks I should date Nick and I don't want to. I don't want to date him and she won't leave me alone! I'm getting really mad at her, and she says everything out loud in a loud voice, so my friends know all this, and I'm going to go crazy sometime soon. And the teacher hears her and just smiles... I'm really mad and want to do something about it but I'm lost.

Any advice?

Thanks!

Tell her (not in front of this boy Nick) that you don't like him and you would like for her to stop and leave you alone about it (try saying it in the nicest way possible). If she doesnt leave you alone ignore her. If it gets worse tell your teacher the problem and ask her if shed mind if you switched seats.

Q: hi :) me and my gf hav being seeing each other for 5 weeks, we enjoy sex with each other and she loves giving me blow jobs. at first she always pullout and cum on a tisue but now she wants me to cum in her mouth and on her face all the time, im not complaining ;) it just seems wierd, an thoughts on the sudden love of cum ?

She may have been nervous at first. Now that she is getting used to it she may like it.

Q: Dear, Sweet LiL Angel
I have a girlfriend, we've been together for a few weeks now, but she has already made it evident that she has secrets about her life that she is not comfortable with telling me. I was not too worried about them until her friends mother, (who she lives with) let me in on a big secret, but made me swear not to tell my girlfriend that I know. She told me last night because me and my girlfriend were fighting over sexual issues. The problem was, that I was kissing her, and touching her, and we were about to have sex, but all she wanted to do was kiss, and she was very reluctant to have sex, or touch me, but all she gave was a lot of far fetched excuses. This irritated me because this has been going on for the past week or so with her. After our fight, we still haven't truly made up, but I had time to talk 1 on 1 with her friends mother. I explained my situation, knowing that she is a very open person, and would have no problem offering her advice based on how we have talked about practically anything and everything since I have met the woman. But I did not expect what she was about to reveal to me by a long shot. We were sitting there in the living room just me and her, and she tells me that my girlfriend has some medical issues that she has been reluctant to tell me, and that might be the missing piece in this puzzle here. She then goes on to tell me that my girlfriend has heart issues, and explains them to me... I did not know how to feel about this, but it didn't seem life threatening, so I was still relaxed. Then she goes on to tell me that my girlfriend has Hepatitis C. This is a very serious condition; and I could be at a great risk of getting it from her. Since last night I have not been able to collect myself, and I've just been a wreck because now I feel like a jerk for pressuring her into sexual relations, when she was resisting, not because of me, but because she wanted to protect me, because she doesn't know if she can get me infected with the same dangerous disease. As far as I know, her knowledge on the disease is limited. Now I can't relax, because I want to tell her how sorry I am, and how I can't even explain how I feel about it, but on the same note I don't wanna blow her friend's mom's cover by saying how she revealed my girlfriends best kept secret. For this would hurt the relationship between myself and her friends mother, and she might not tell me any information ever again. I also feel upset towards my girlfriend for not telling me but I don't know what to do?!?
There's a whole bunch of emotion going on with me, I know I still love my girlfriend, but how do I handle this situation? Please help, the quicker the better..

Be there for her. That's some hard stuff to go throw. I know you are a guy and have sexual desires but watch a movie with her and just hold her. she has to know 100 % inside of her head that if she told you that you wouldn't leave. obviously you arn't going to but its going to take a while since you guys have only been together a few weeks. Just Show her that you are there for her.. in the mean time. try google.com and search her condition see if you can find ways to have sexual intercourse while being safe. Good Luck.

Q: Ok, me and my boyfriend are both 15, almost 16. I'm a virgin, and he's not. I really want to have sex with him, but dont know how to bring it up with him without seeming like a slut. Any ideas?

Your a virgin your not going to sound like a slut your going to sound courious. Just let him know how you feel and depending on how long the two of you have been together is a big part of it.

Q: okay so im 17 my boyfriend is 21 weve been together for going on 9 months now but the whole time during our relationship ive meet his parents once is there something wrong with that???i dont think it would bother me as much if i didnt know how him and his ex were like they broke up when he went off to college 2!! years ago...and he has had other relationships since then and before me but i found myself the other day on his moms myspace and seen comment form his ex then i got on his and ive never took the time to read his stuff because its the past it shouldnt bother me but there was so many over n over n over again and its like im tryin to compete with her and ive never even meet her n theyve had nothing to do with each other in over 2 years ..why is this upsetting me and i feel as im not as good as her to him???

because you are comparing your self to her and you think your not good enough. dont feel that way. just let him know that you you feel you should get to know his family a little more.

Q: how do i get rid of it? i've had it for like a year now. i always use acne stuff on it in the shower but it just doesn't work.

back scrubber in the shower.. and oxy cleansing pads before going to bed.

Q: what does it mean when you have dreams about the boy you like? and is it normal or is it weird to have dreams about them

it is normal. you probaly really like him and while you are laying down you start thinking about him and then you fall asleep.. its normal.

Q: hi okay so, ive been going out with this boy for a while and we have mad out and stuff and we talk dirty about oral sex and stuff and were hangingout soon and i wanna give him head, but i wanna make sure im doing it right. ive never done it before but i wanna make him happpy ;]
so i tryed looking stuff up online and this is what i know, dontttt use teeth, use your lips and tounge alot and your thoart? that part i dont exactally get...does it just mean to put his dick like really far back into your mouth when your sucking...like in your throat. helpp me please, k thaaanks :)

teeth are sometimes a good thing if you really lightly slide it up (not a lot though).. yes deep throating its sticking it down your throat pretty much gagging on it. while sliding your mouth up and down your lips tight around it and your tounge sliding up and down it as your mouth does.

Q: today i went to nyc, for a fashion thing. our teacher let my whole class walk around as long as she took down everyones numbers. so me and my friend were walking around and i was having a ciggerate. i heard someone call my name behind me i was like who could this be and it was my teacher! she was like jaime put your cig. out right now. afterwards i apoligized for smoking, and she said its okay its your body but im gonna go outside and just blew it off. she is kind of oblivious. so i was wondering if she told the school, and they try and suspend me, could i fight against it? because she did leave us in the city aloud to go anywhere. by the way i'm 15. i don't have a bad reputation with getting in trouble at all. im pretty sure im on her good side. but i just cant get suspended for this. =/

well you were on a school trip and you are underage. if you teacher had told you she was going to just blow it off. than she might not say a word about it. she probaly understands plenty of children your age do it. she may assume you do it because other kids do. or for stress related reason. what ever your reason is. calm down. you aremost likely worrying for no reasons. if you are on your teachers good side. im sure she just blew it off. there are nice teacher who arn't that mean.

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My name is Ashley. I am 22 years old. Ill be celebrating my 3rd 21st birthday June :) . I had my first child at 15. I got married at 18 and had another child shortly after. They have two different fathers. I am currently going threw a divorce. I moves states after we seperated ( ugly seperation) but I had no family in that state. I left everything except my beautiful babies and our clothes. I found a job up north and things are going good. I am dating. I have been in abusive situations. I am going to college for psychology and sociaology. Im here to listen help and give you advice ive been in alot of different situations and can relate to a lot.