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There is a casual dance coming up and I don't know what to wear. I want to wear something that will get me attention from the guy I like.
Should I dress girlie or t-shirt and jeans.
I need to know what to wear to be noticed as hot, but not a slut. I am a 13 year old girl so I don't want to wear anything to revealing. (link)
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Hmm for a casual dance where you want attention, id personally go for a girly type of look, something like:
http://centerhairstyle.co.cc/2011/04/summer-short-dresses-2011-teens-clothes.html
Allthough, that is something I'd wear at my age, as your much younger than me I would try to find a dress that's about knee length or a bit shorter, and some sandals work nicely with all types of dresses. Just remember to try and find an outfit that compliments you, which can be hard since your body hasnt fully developed but there are a lot of clothes that are designed to make you look good, just try things on and make sure you feel comfy in what you wear.
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Well, all of my friends at dances or just in recess always tease the guys. Like, OOH THE WAY YOU SWING FROM BAR TO BAR JUST TURNS ME ON! and they stick their butt out. So like, tease flirting. But the guys always get turned on.. and well i dunno how to do that. i always feel awkward, like not confident enough to do it. Like they might say ew,and reject me even if i'm teasing. and even if i get over it, wont it be weird if all of the sudden i get a boost of confidence, and they notice? (i'm 12 in 7th grade, AND NO THATS NOT TOO YOUNG) (link)
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Well, no, it's not too young to be wanting attention, but it is rather young to want to turn them on and the evidence for why it shouldn't matter at all is simply the way your friends go about doing it. I'll be honest here, generally the girls that tease and flirt a lot with flimsy sexual responses.
Guys tend to use this age to learn what they want and the girls who get their attention are more often than not the "slutty" ones, that, in a few years, the good guys out there wouldn't touch with a stick.
but if you still want to join in with them, just contribute to the conversations every now and then and say flirty things to your friends too eg. slap their asses when they stick them out for the boys. that will probably work on boys that age
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I feel like I'm totally messed up from too much time on the internet during childhood & teenage years!
I feel like I've learned a lot of things because of it, but I also feel like I've missed out a lot and now have pretty poor social skills. I've made better friends online than with people I know IRL, ugh. But nobody ever really invites me to things or w/e IRL and I do have some activities, but just, yeah. And I'm also a terrible procrastinator. I'd do so much better in school if internet (music, forums, news articles) wasn't distracting me all the time.
How could this impact me in the long run? I'm worried. Like pros and cons wise. I really want to make up for this loss of life experiences when I'm in college. Like I haven't even been close to getting a boyfriend or anything. I don't relate to a lot of my peers on experiences like going to parties on the weekend with people from school, sleepovers, etc. It's also cause I'm one of the new people in school, so it's just very horrid. I haven't even been invited to any event (birthday, hang out at house) in more than a year now. When I first came to my new school people were nice and things were good and now it's like everyone's ignoring me. I dont get why people lose interest in me quickly.. I'm an interesting person, a good friend and everything.. I don't understand what I do wrong all the time.
Like I could literally spend all day online and not get bored. It's not that I don't want to do other things.. trust me, I'd love to actually have friends IRL with similar interests and etc., or do more activities, but until I get a car I'm dependant on my parents for activities so I can't do so many, and actually finding a legit friend at my school is even more of a reach. i moved to this town about a year ago, too, and while things were better friend-wise at my old school, since i lived there a long time, i still had issues. it's just worse here. like no joke this school year has been the worst year of my life. i've also been having really bad procrastination problems that essentially have ruined my year. and idk what to do and dont have anyone else to talk to but random people on advicenators.
Like my life from age 8-17(now) has been extremely internet driven
i just hate having no friends. i feel so alone like all the time. i just fantasize what it would be like to have a good friend with things in common at school and everything so i dont have to be by myself and feel so negative. its just been too long, ugh (link)
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Hey, I know what it feel's like to end up being more popular online than in reality, I was never liked and the internet became my escape. So I'm going to use my life experiences, to help you, (hope you don't mind that, if you do, just skip to the last two paragraphs).
First of all, most of my childhood was spent alone without friends, and when we got access to the internet I soon found myself playing MMORPG's, that was a kind of socialisation I never got, which helped me to a degree.
The thing I found most useful to my "addiction" was the ability to make the same mistakes the friends I did have were making without the same consequences and that helped me a lot, it also gave me much more confidence, as I had never had a boyfriend or been given any male attention, to suddenly be told I was beautiful on a daily basis was fantastic! And raised confidence actually helped me in school, like having the confidence to ask question's or check my answers.
The downside is, as you have realised, the lack of face-to-face interaction, parties and popularity were something I was void of until I stopped using the internet so much, people didn't know who I was and I had a reputation for being the "geek" that played games and never had a relationship, but eventually one friend accepted why I used online games etc. and slowly more people began to be my friend.
But the best thing I found, was based around forming relationships, as my current boyfriend said it's rare to find a girl whose going to university soon and not even kissed anyone, my experiences online taught me enough to at least act like I knew how relationships worked.
In conclusion, there are pro's, you learn a lot of things, can gain confidence and have an escape when life becomes too stressful, but, it's important you don't become so addicted that you spend every waking second on a computer/laptop, once you start socialising properly and going out now and then, people will invite you out more often!
Procrastination: I'm also the same here, and the only advice I can give to you is to go somewhere that has nothing to distract you, take the books for one subject and write notes for 15 minutes, then distract yourself for 10 minutes and after that, ask someone to test you on the previous notes you wrote that way you can get enough time to trick yourself into thinking your avoiding work, and still doing something at least!
(try to avoid places with the internet, or force yourself to be in a room with no computer/laptop)
hope that helped
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I am female, 16 and have my permit. I want my licence so bad, I want to go out and do things without my parents. Now, I'm not afraid to drive as much as I'm afraid that I'll get hurt or worse, hurt someone else. I don't know why, but I think about that and I feel like I never want to get my licence. But I want to be able to drive on my own I just have a big fear holding me back and I don't know how to get rid of it! Any ideas to help me get over this fear and just go do it, just go out and drive? Thanks (link)
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Trust me, I know EXACTLY how you feel! I passed my test a few months ago and have been driving since, but I still have this problem.
The best thing you could do, is go with a professional driving school (I went with the AA being in England)this way, you can learn, and theyhave control of the car too, so if you mess up they can save everyone, like superhero's! They also will let you know when you are ready to do your test.
Other than that, just be confident and careful, stick to the speed limits, stop when your meant to stop and be aware of everything around you and you will be fine, feel free to inbox me for advice.
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what is the emancipation proclamation in simplest terms? (link)
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I forgot the date, but it was in the 1800's I believe or late1700's. It involved Lincoln who was the president of the time deciding to free the slaves, this was met better in the North where they were treat better anyway than in the South. It led to a Civil War that the North won and gave slaves their freedom in de jure (in law) but in reality, the slaves had been left with nothing they were still slaves to the people who owned the lands they worked on, it is not until the 1950's that american blacks began to get more freedom thanks to the likes of Martin Luther King.
I am a british student, so I can only give you what we learn from my school, it may not be entirely true to the level you need, but to my knowledge, this is what happened.
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Me and my boyfriend have been goin out for two months now and are both seventeen years old and are in a long distance relationship. the other day i popped my cherry when i was thinkin about him and we were sexting. I told my god-sister what happened and she said well at least yall can have phone sex now. Me and him really want to have it but just dont know how to start off. we are madly in love with eachother and want to do it. i really need some advice on how to start it or even how to do it. I think it will help our relationship because of the fact we will so far away. We both really wanna have phone sex. Please Help (link)
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Phone sex can be done on the phone via talking, texting or using instant message services on the computer really. Typically they start with just a normal conversation, that leads into something, for example (if you are typing) you could say "I lean over to kiss you and..." of course it does require some imagination to really work, but the basic idea is to just tell your partner what you want to be doing to them as though you are doing it.
It's roughly the same on the phone, but there is less talking and more moaning. just make sure nobody will hear you or walk in on you and you can be as creative as you like.
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Im 12, and my boyfriend is 14, hes has sex before, and for a while ive been thinkin about it.! everyone says its worth it, just to get it over with, But im not sure, I mean ive done things, but im not sure about sex ive done everything other than sex, but i dont wanna upset my boyfriend..what shood i do?x ]
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First off, 12 is a very young age to be thinking about this sort of thing, I understand how you feel as grown up as all the rest of us, but truth is, we never grow up fully and we still all look back on decisions and think "why did I do that?" I still do it now (though I'm still young at 18).
Secondly, regardless if he has had sex before or not, you have not and he should respect that it is a big thing for a girl to do, my boyfriend currently waited almost half a year until I let him do anything at all and he had quite a few sexual partners! if your boyfriend leaves you because you say no then I am guessing he wouldn't be a huge loss to you as there are many more boys that understand.
Also, unless you know this girl he has had sex with, he could simply be lying to sound more like a man (this is common for a lot of men).
In the end, it is entirely your choice, though you should not do anything unless you feel comfortable, and if your afraid to say "no" you don't sound too comfortable, just think it through carefully, once you have done it you can't go back.
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i recently got on a (3 days ago) diet and have only been eating breakfast and nothing more. my periods a bit irregular; last time it started monday the time before that wednesday and before that thursday. so im not sure if i should get it tomorrow. and can the weight loss delay it? cause usually i already feel it in my tummy that im getting it and now im not. i am sexually active but me and my bf always use a condom and it never ripped or anything like that.. (link)
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In short, yes. alot of things can affect the regularity of periods
if you recently began using medication of any kind (including the pill and other types) irregularity can be a side effect, weight loss and stress also affect this, if you are now underweight one symptom is periods stop all together (common with anorexic sufferers).
Since you and your boyfriend have protected sex and you are having periods then pregnancy isn't an issue and the most likely cause is the weight loss. If you are still worried though the best thing to do is either talk to your mother or make an appointment with your gynaecologist
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ok so i have had my period and i humped my bed and im rly rly rly rly rly scared can i be pregnant????plz help u dont understand!? (link)
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No there are only two real ways f becoming pregnant
1). through treatment like IVF
2). through having sexual intercourse with a member of the oppisite sex.
But if you have your period you are more than likely not pregnant regardless.
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The title says it all i guess, it's a little embarrassing but i want to know, i've heard it's normal though. I'm 100% NOT addicted to it or anything and i hardly ever watch it but i like to masterbate to it, is that bad? thank you for the answers (link)
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Nothing is wrong with it, it's what its there for pretty much. There are the basic thoughts that porn is only for young teenage boys and old men but that's just not true alot of people watch porn, though few girls would admit to it for that reason.
So long as you don't become addicted then there isn't any need to worry about watching it
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My boyfriend had several partners before me, I had only one, I feel so intimidated and unconfident.I have even had someone come up to me and told me I looked like his ex, which made me feel even more like a replacement, or a just another disposable girl. He cried for her after he dumped her, then claimed that he was about to break up with her.
Is there a way to build my confidence and accept his past that is the complete opposite of mine. (link)
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Hey, The first thing is everybody has a history and it is very difficult to find people who haven't ever had partners before, so don't let that part upset you too greatly, also these partners he did have may not have been too serious so unless you have any reason to worry (such as he has been accused of 'using' all his girlfriends previously)it would be best to try and forget about them, after all, they are the past and you're the present.
As for feeling like a replacement, the example of "looking like his ex" is usually common, people tend to go for the same look, so all it really means is he thinks you are attractive =], of course the best way to know if your the "replacement" from this girl is probably to think of these questions:
Was she the girlfriend directly before you? if she was then I understand how you could feel threatened by these statements, just look at the other questions
were they together for a long time? (6 months or more)? a long relationship is more likely to have an effect, short relationships generally didn't work and are easy to move on from, all though, even if it was a long-term relationship, it could have just run stale.
How long after the break up until he began dating again? If he waited a few months at least then the chances of being the rebound are pretty much non-existent, it would have given him time to move on and see you for you and not for the things you and his ex have in common.
The best thing to do, is ignore what other people say and as long as he does not mention these ex girlfriends in every conversation you two have then just enjoy being with him, if you are happy then leave it be :)
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