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Q: Ok I have this friend who has to be exact all the time and when I say something and it isnt exact she always corrects me.I know its not a big deal and its probably really mean for me to say this but it just bugs the crap out of me!! Please help!!

Talk to her about it! Tell her that it's bothering you. If she still correcting you, I don't think you should call her a 'friend'. Go up to her and tell her that it's very annoying and she should stop doing it. Hope this advice helps. Goodluck!

Q: I'm really bored. A lot of my friends are at camp. What can I do besides watch TV. Anyone know any fun websites for quizzes, or games, or other fun stuff? Thanks!

If you still like disney:
disneychannel.com
(they have fun games)

mtv.com (find out what new on music television)

myspace.com (create one or invite friends to talk to)

aim.aol.com (chat with people on AIM [aol instant messenger)

xanga.com (create your personal jounral and DECORATE it with pretty designs!)

If those don't help. I'm sorry. But goodluck!

Q: What are some really easy ways to make money besides babysitting?

Try putting up a lemonade stand. Cut people's grass. Clean people's houses. Just about anything! Try thinking of what people need and help them out! Or, if you're old enough, try apart time job somewhere simple. Goodluck!

Q: what are some other cute places to shop besides abercrombie, hollister, american eagle......etc.

Try Urban Outfitters, Pacsun, and Nautica. They sell really cute and trendy stuff so try those stores. Goodluck!

Q: my mom has almost no style at all. she is only 35 she SHOULD still have some fashion sense! ok but yea, her body shape makes it hard for me to find anything she would look good in. shes kinda short..about 5'1 and she has a "beer belly" like a guy would....just a huge gut. shes not fat all the way around. just her gut. so i can't get her tight jeans so she can look good. and i can't seem to find her any cute shirts that she likes unless they are purple lol. what style would make her gut seem smaller (like striped verticly, or ...idk a certain color or something)

Does your mom like how she looks? If she does, then why not leave it alone. Looks don't make the person. If your mom also wants to change, why not go to the mall and keep searching. Her tight pants problem, have you tried her wearing skirts? And if your mom doesn't like any other colors you have to talk to her about what you think would be better. Just because purple is a ncie color doesn't mean that she should wear it ALL the time. Have a talk with her. Hope my advice helps you. Goodluck!

Q: I am seventeen and people always think that I am a couple-few years younger. It used to not bother me, but now it does and I want to change. I am 5'6", tan, brunette, and I wear enough makeup without overdoing it. I dress my age, and sometimes older (not revealing, sometimes conservative.) Are there any make up tips or anything I can change to make myself appeal my age and maybe a little older?

Ask this to yourself: Do you like how you look and act? IF YOU DO, THEN THAT'S GREAT! You don't have to change just for others but if you think that new make-up and more trendy clothes will help you, then go for it! If you need some fashion tips and hair, ask someone in one of your classes so you two can go shopping and work on your looks. Don't be ashamed of being a little younger than others. So, hope my advice helps. Goodluck!

Q: Hey. I'm going into the 8th grade, and I am striving for a 4.0 this year for all 4 quarters and Final. I badly want to get into the Science & Tech program at this highschool I want to go to. In 7th grade, I didn't do as well as I wanted to, and this year I need to make up for that by getting a 4.0 for all quarters. How can I focus more on my school work and manage my time so I'm able to get all 4.0's? Thanks!

If you want a 4.0 you should really try to eat a good breakfast such as:
1. healthy cereal 2. juice 3.JUST ANY BREAKFAST FOODS THAT ISN'T JUNK FOOD AND IS HEALTHY FOR YOU THAT WOULD MAKE YOU FULL & READY FOR YOUR DAY.

To get such high grades, I suggest NO TV, music (unless it's instrumental sountracks, those help) TELEPHONE is terrible (unplug the phone if you have to!!!) AND to get high grades SLEEP A LOT but study!

Studying is very important but sleep is better because it relaxes you. Try not to stress a lot.
Goodluck!

Q: Lately i haven't been my self, i've been moody n upset. i have alot of friends that i just don't want to hang out with, a great boyfriend that the more i like him, i get more scared of losing him... i don't kno what to do. I can't talk to my mom, my friends or my boyfriend, because everyone thinks i mad at them. Someone please r there any websites that i could go to¿?¿?

You may be going through stages of puberty. Sometimes, mood swings happen to MANY people! Don't feel so let down because you have these great friends, a wonderful boyfriend and even though you come across shy sometimes you never know when you'll be happy again. Try thinking happy thoughts around you. Hop my advice helps.

Q: okay me and my girlfriend have been together for almost 5 months. i knew her a good while before, and fell in love with her before we started going out. she says she is so in love with me, and sometimes yeah, it seems like it i mean she brings me random gifts and calls me back right after we hang up. dont get me wrong she does many other good things too. but what im wondering is we broke up 3 times. i did it once, she did it once, and 1 time was a misunderstanding. each time i had to fight my little but off to get her back, shes so stubborn she wont even put forth an effort. she kinda seems like she just watches me try. well either way im in love with her so im forced to deal with it. whenever i try to get us back together, she just ignores me. its not fair, i just spin my wheels and she doesnt notice how upset i am, or she does and doesnt care. im in love with her and want her back but it hurts. she promised shes never leave but she did and now its really hard to get her back. i promised i wouldnt let her leave but she just doesnt care what i say. what do i do? she broke up with me this time... i mean how do i deal with this? dont say to stop talking to her cse its impossible and dont say try to get over her cse everything reminds me of her and it would be impossible nonetheless. please help me

thanks
-ger

Love comes and goes. You never know if your girlfriend is the 'right girl' for you. Ask her if she feels the same as you do and if not, you should try to move on. There are more fish out there in the sea so don't feel bad. But if she does feel the same way and she truly loves you, try talking to her and make her understand how hard it is for you! Don't worry because you never know what will happen. Goodluck and hope my advice helps!

Q: Wow guys OK i have a probelm. My "best friend" is a boy stealer. Every guy i have ever liked has started liking her. And everytime i confront her about it shes like "Oh i didnt do anything to make him like me". But everytime she talks to a guy shes real flirty soo they start to like her.And it gets on my nerves a lot because i like this guy named eric and she always talks to him on aim and myspace and even the PHONE! i meen does she not get it??? and so his best friend thinks he is starting to liek her and sooo i am really pissed at her...becasue she was like i dont like him an dhow can u let a boy come between us .i know she does you shuld see the messages on myspace..but am i being too overreacted here or what?? please help i rate high!!!

14/F

If you really have problems with your bestfriend and she won't listen to you, why not give her a taste of her own medicine. Do what she does to get Eric's attention. You're just letting her stomp all over you, don't let that happen! If she won't listen to you and lies to you, you shouldn't call her a bestfriend. If it's true about the boys liking her a lot, it's because she's optimistic and open. Be like her and play the same game so you won't feel so left out. Flirt with some guys, and especially flirt with Eric to grab his attention on you and not her. You should also tell Eric your true feelings some other time when he's your friend because you might lose him. Hope my advice helps.