I'm a 41 yr old female and i was wondering.. What do you do when you have an online crush that you are falling in love with? They are in another country. I think about them every day. I never met them in person & know that It could be the "idea" that attracts me. What do you think?
The idea and feeling is nice but you have to be realistic! I believe in fighting for what you believe in. I'm a very firm believer in love no matter how many times I've gotten hurt I continue to get back up and try again. Have you talked to him? Have you expressed any feelings towards him. You most guys on the internet aren't what they are like in real life. I had this huge crush on a guy online and turned out to be the total opposite of who I thought he was. I thought he was this chill guy but in the end he ended up being a total drama king. Maybe what you see in him you want in someone else that's nearby or close by. Or maybe you really do like him and you want to get to know him better. Go with what your heart tells you but be realistic and think about what you want! Good luck!
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Okay first off I am 20. I have two children. I am a stay at home mother. No smoking drinking or anything. My pain in my hands are if I am folding laundry my hands hurt so bad like an ache that I cant finish the laundry I have to do it later. I can look at it and feel the pain. If I get cold my wrists, ankles knees hurt so bad. Tonight has been the worse even to the point of my bawling. I can usually can a hot bath and the pain goes away. Most of it has gone away but it still hurts and tonight I had my husband wrap my legs in a blanket and he said my legs wasn't even cold. My legs sometimes jerk a little on their own. I don't have health insurance nor can I afford a doctor appt. Yes I have tried to get health insurance threw the state they say we make to much. but after our bills we barley have enough for gas. I know you are not doctors but maybe you are someone or know some one with the same symptoms.
It sounds a like it like arthritis to me, my friend had similar aches and pains with her knees and her legs. She has had it since she was 13. Another part of it sounds like a circulation problem. You say when you get cold that your wrists start to hurt. My feet get really really cold due to bad circulation which in return brings a lot of pain into my feet as well as cramping and even sometimes my feet freeze up. I guess the best thing to do would to be take some aspirin and maybe use a heating pad those tend to help. I would suggest doing the best you can to find a clinic in your area or finding out more about a doctor. I'm not a doctor but the symptoms you are experiencing I have definitely heard of. I hope you find out what's wrong and I hope you find a solution. Feel better!
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My boyfriends name is matt what is a cute nickname to call him?
You can't really pick a name for your boyfriend it just kind of happens. Don't analyze a nickname just let it happen. I call my boyfriend usually the cliche names such as 'sweetheart' 'babe' 'baby' 'hun' or by his name. If I'm angry I'll call him by his full name
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ive been going through some rough stuff with my ex/boyfriend. kind of complicated, its been very on and off and its been taking a toll on me. whenever we get into a fight or experience troubles, the thoughts hang over my head like no other. i go out and do things but i cant get the pit out of my stomach thinking "were gonna break up forever" or "this is it for good". how can i prevent thoughts from hanging over my head like that
Well first things first...if you are on and off than that says there is a problem. Maybe what you need to do is sit down and talk about what you really want. Maybe you have an insecurity that is keeping you from feeling confident in this relationship. I would sit down and talk about what exactly is going on. I was the same way with my boyfriend and finally I realized he loves me and I love him and he's not going anywhere. Sometimes we need to think positively instead of looking at the negative all the time.
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Boyfriend and I have been together for two years. Lately things are not what they used to be. He doesn't make the effort to do anything for me anymore. He will sometimes drive to my house which is thirteenth minutes away but that's once in a while. We text each other and he will ignore me somewhere in the conversation. I'm so sick of it, but it's only hard because I love him.I think most of us girls like being taken out once in a while, and he doesn't do that anymore. I think I should probably break up with him because a part of me feels like he wants to let go of him because he once talked about being trapped. I have weird feelings that he has found someone else. It could just be paranoia but idk. He goes out of his way to make plans with his friends and I come last. It hurts a lot. I honestly don't mind him hanging out with his friends but I think I deserve some time too. I don't know what to do at this point. I was going to wait it out and see how much longer he ignores me and then if he keeps at it talk to him and set him free.
One thing you need to understand that a relationship as it develops it isn't always going to be the way it was when you first started dating. Things change and so do priorities. You realize as your relaitonship goes on there are decisions that you need to make as well as thinking about your future. In the end its what makes you happy. You don't sound happy with him. Have you two really talked about what's going on and how you feel about how he's acting? Maybe this is a sign that you need to move on or maybe not. I've been with my boyfriend for awhile and I can tell you it isn't romantic all the time. I love him to death though. Sometimes you are going to hit bumps in the road in your relationship. Its how you handle them and how you support each other through them. It sounds like you maybe have made up your mind and maybe you need to do whats best for you. Good luck!
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(male,gay)Well,I have a boyfriend,we've been dating for almost two years and a half,but he hasn't presented me to his family as his partner,they do know me,though,but just as any other f***g friend of his,is he ashamed of me?We have been through this like a thousand times but I guess I'm just pretty tired of speaking and speaking all the time without coming to any solution,What can I do?This has already jeopardized our relationship 'cause I'm seriously thinking about dumping him,'cause I'm not a criminal,thanks in advance for your help!
It sounds like he isn't ass open to being gay in front of his family as you may be. Maybe he is scared about what his family may think about him being gay. Now to you it might be easy to just say 'tell them already' but maybe for him its not that easy. Now that you have that information you have a decision to make. In the end its up to you and how you feel.
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I'm always feeling happy and then sad eventually,I'm going crazy,this is not ok,I know,so what can I do?I don't think I'm that sick though, since I haven't felt like committing suicide or anything nor have I had feelings of madness,so how could I balance all this?please don't tell me to go to the dr. I will,if I see this doesn't change,and gets even worse,thanks:)
None of us here are doctors so we can't diagnose you. We can recommend things like going to a doctor. It could be anything, it could be depression or maybe you could be bi polar. Now googling these things isn't going to help you. Its better that you talk to your doctor or maybe find a therapist. Do you go to school? Maybe talk to your guidance counselor and he or she may be able to give you some advice or point you in the right direction. Good luck and I hope you feel better soon!
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im going threw all that now i want to die i dont have the one i truly love everyone hates me im worthless
I know you feel hopeless and you feel unwanted because you can't be with the person that you want to be with. Maybe that person isn't the right one for you. And that doesn't mean your life has to end. You are allowed to be sad but no one and I mean no one is worth punishing yourself over or even killing yourself. Sometimes we get into a state of mind where we feel there is no answer and wonder how the hell you are going to go through all this hell and come out fine? Be positive. Try and think about what you can do to make the best of this situation and learn from this. Maybe it just wasn't meant to be.
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How can i stop being so lonely. I have no guy options what so ever. I want a boyfriend i want to be happy. But I am so lonely. I see couples every single day as i work in the mall and it hurts to see everyone happy but me.. Help?
I love how people assume that getting a boyfriend will make you happy. That's not the case at all actually. Happiness comes from within. How do you expect someone else to make you happy if you can't even make yourself happy? Think about positives, stop focusing on the negatives. I'm sure there is a lot going on in your life to be happy about. The grass is always greener on the other side, my dear. And just because those couples look happy doesn't mean they are. Go do something that makes you happy and take care of yourself first.
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I love mg boyfriend more than anything. We have been off and on for 2.5 years. Im 20 hes also 20. We are long distance now. Well for the past couple months he has been horrible about calling me/texting back etc. It drives me insane. People im not talking like every hour..sometimes i dont hear from him for a week...or more. Now we are like in the process of getting back. So maybe that has sometbing to do with it.. But this weekend he came and visited. I told him i was so sick of the not knowing what was going on and was sick of him talking so much about the future and marriage when i was so unsure if we would make it till next week. He kept saying he would get better and couldnt lose me. He said he wanted a happy and healthy relationship too. Well its a week later and ive yet to see any kind of results. Im warn out of worrying about him and rethinking why he could possibly be ignoring me. Why does he say these things then act a different way? Is it just time to call it quits since even when i talk to him nothing changes?
Guys are not good with the phone. It's just a fact. My boyfriend is not fond of the phone. He'll call me but it will be for a short period of time. My boyfriend also likes space. Just because a guy doesn't call you often doesn't mean he doesn't care. I can understand how it would bother you and how you would want him to change. I'm been with my guy for almost 5 years and we have had our ups and downs. My advice is maybe scare him a little bit and then he'll realize what he's missing. Maybe you ignore him for a week or so, or when he cares ignore his phone calls. The other thing you can do is just move on and if he says no than tell him you already warned him about what he was doing wrong. Maybe that will make him think! Good luck!
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I'm twenty and he's eighteen. He's still in high school and I'm currently out of school, working. I've known him since I was twelve and I use to be good friends with his sister(she's the same age). He asked me to be his girlfriend a week ago and I said okay because the way he asked was really sweet. I also care about him a lot, he's been a friend to me a long time. He's a descent guy. I don't feel that we really have a chemistry and I believe I have more relationship experience than he does. Since I have said yes to being his girlfriend, I have been really stressed and I've been feeling really weird since the day. I think it's very strange for me to date a younger guy that's in high school. I need a second opinion, I don't think I have it in me to say no or end it. I also wonder what his mom thinks or feels about it, I've known her well also over the past decade. Thanks in advance.
If you aren't feeling right about it chances are this isn't a relationship that you want. When you think about it when you're 21 and you can go out he won't be able to. I found when dating younger guys it was very hard because of the immaturity but also because I felt guilty going out anywhere. I had a boyfriend when I was 21 and he couldn't go out...it made things hard. If it doesn't feel right chances are it isn't. Good luck!
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my boyfriend and i have been dating for about a year and a half. and his dad doesn't seem to like me. because he has told me that his dad said "she just wants to take you for a ride" and last weekend he sorta said that i should go to our lady of peace (a psychiatric hospital). i've asked him why he doesn't stand up for me and he says he just wants to keep the peace. my opinion there's a difference between keeping the peace and not standing up or defending your girlfriend while someone who talks badly about them. should i just give up?
That's not right! He needs to stand up for you or else what is the point? You need to talk to him about this and tell him this shouldn't be allowed. And if he doesn't change than I would consider leaving him because why would you want to be with someone who isn't going to stand up for you? My cousin was dating this guy whose mother was so cruel to her. She would make my cousin feel like crap. Finally my cousin's boyfriend told his mother to knock it off and stopped talking to her completely. My cousin and her boyfriend later on got married but to this day he still doesn't speak to his mother. Not saying that you should suggest that they stop talking but if you really love someone you will stand up for them! Good luck!
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Okay, first off I'm a lesbian. And my girlfriend is bisexual. We've been off and on for about a year. She flirts with guys a lot and that didn't really bother me at all until a guy came up to me and asked "so, who broke up with who?" i didn't know what to say. I really need some help. I dont even know those guys. I just feel so useless... like i'll never be good enough. Any advice? Please.
You're hurt and it's understandable. I think what you need to do is walk away from this situation and move on. Don't put yourself down because the relationship didn't work. You shouldn't feel useless or like you're not good enough because you are good enough and you do deserve to be with someone who is going to treat you right. Clearly this girl hurts you so why go back to her? I understand you love her, but think about it what would you tell your best friend if she or he was going through the same thing? You can grieve and be upset you have the right to be. Think about what you can take from this relationship and move on and start dating. Confidence is the key!
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I am 20 years old and my boyfriend is 46 years old! We have been to together for a year and a half! My parents don't wants us together! They don't think he is financially stable enough, to old for me, and they don't like him!! So I'm not sure how to break up with him cuss he is very sensitive and possible might hurt himself?
Well are you breaking up with him because your parents want you to or because you want to? Do you love him? Could you see a future with him? You need to think about yourself and what you want. If you love him than you should continue the relationship and if you don't see a future than I would say move on. Yes he is older than you but who am I to judge? When you love someone you love someone. You can't help who you fall in love with. If you want to work it out with him than you should if you truly love him. As for him being sensitive you can't help that. You can't help but hurt someone when breaking up with them there is no way out of it. If you think he may hurt himself than I would contact police or may contact a help line. If you know any of his family or friends I would contact them and tell them your concern.
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I don't think my boyfriend's mom likes me. I mentioned this once to my boyfriend but he said, "No, she LOVES you!" Go with what my boyfriend said or go with my gut? Can't you tell when someone doesn't like you?
I wouldn't worry about it too much. You boyfriend's mother probably just wants to make sure you are treating her son right. She just wants whats best for her son. It's probably like your parents making sure that your boyfriend is treating you well. I'm sure she doesn't hate you. Have you given her a reason not to like you? Have you been disrespectful? Have you pushed her? If you haven't then I'm sure it has nothing to do with you and just continue to be nice and respectful. Don't worry about it!
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I cheated on my boyfriend today, i really dont feel bad about it though. i dont know why i dont feel the need to tell him, the only thing i did was make-out cuz and he fingerd me only cuz he didnt have a condom. i sound so stupid i have no clue what is powering me to do this and i feel like i just wanna be bad and its not like this my bf treats me bad he actually is amazing i just feel trapped like i had a 4 year relationship 7 months ago and another one 2months ago. this guy is perfect like too perfect to let go so help me make sense of myself!
Think about how you would feel if your boyfriend did that to you. Think about how crappy and hurt you would feel that the person you are with is hooking up with someone else. It sounds like you really don't have the feelings for your boyfriend like you say you do. You need to tell him what happened and maybe considering moving on. Being in a relationship is between two people. It's meant to be faithful and you have to have trust. I'm telling you right now if my boyfriend ever did that to me it would break my heart. Mind you I don't even have my eyes on any other guy but him. Of course I thought some guys were cute but I knew nothing would come of it because I love my boyfriend. My boyfriend knows me like no one else does. It sounds to me like you don't really want to be in this relationship that you would rather be single. If that's the case you need to be honest with yourself and with him and tell him what happened. Good luck!
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I need advice on boys. 13/f. So I've like this guy for about 5 months now right? And I know he likes me because my friend overheard him talking his friend about me. So now it feels kinda awkward around him. I get jealous when he hugs his female friends. We barely interact during class and outside of class. I'm tired of waiting for him to make a move. I want action! What should I do???!!!
If he isn't making a move then you need to. Coming on here and talking about how you want him to make a move isn't going to help. If you want something done sometimes you just have to do it yourself!
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I know getting over someone takes lots and lots of time but sometimes in order to move on we need to actually know that there is someone else out there for us. Anyway, I can't help but get angry over my ex's new girl in his life. The reason for our separation is a long confusing one which isn't even worth the discussion because I have faced the fact that it's over. But yeah, I don't think she likes me very much, I don't know why. But it angers me that she doesn't like me for some reason. I just don't want drama with anyone. I, at least, have a right to be angry at her, it's natural jealousy. And yes, I do still have feelings for him, but I can't and shouldn't anymore but I just can't help how I feel. I want to be over it and I want to move past it. I want to be like those other girls who can move on and not think about their past truly. I want to be able to not feel sad or mad whenever I hear about them or even see them, either together or separately. Please tell me something! Anything! Anything that will help me get over him. I'm leaving my hometown, where he stays permanently in a few months and I know I'll be rid of him then, but until I go... I just need something to help me get over the feelings I have inside. I just want to feel happy again and I can't because I keep thinking of how happy he seems to be and how unhappy that it's not with me!
You're right getting over someone takes time and there's no way of rushing that. The reason the ex girlfriend doesn't like you is probably because you're a threat to her. You had a relationship with her boyfriend and that scares her and makes her jealous. When we get boyfriends we become very territorial. My boyfriend and I have been together for a long time and there are two exes that I'm not crazy about. Now in the beginning of our relationship I use to worry about the two of them trying to contact them. Later on I realized that he was with me for a reason. The girl is most likely jealous of you and there's really no way you can change that. What helped me get over my ex was to think about all his bad qualities that things that pissed me off. And now I can't even stand talking to him he kind of annoys me at this point. It takes time... just starting thinking about YOU more than him. Good luck!
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Do ya'll think I would look good with snakebites?
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yes why not.
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What if a nutcrakcers wants toes?
i would burn in him a bonfire for alittle, than put him into a woodchipper. =] MUAHAHAHA
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