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Q: i have this friend, and he is a guy. And in this one class, we are always talking and smilieing and laughing. He is in all of my other classes, and he doesnt even pay much attention 2 me, except 4 that one class.He is always with his other buddies, and flirting with really pretty girls. How do i get him 2 notice me?

I know alot of people like that, I just dont take it personally. You see it works like this-they are friends with you and probably friends with the "popular people" and when hes with them he just cant really risk them not liking the fact that he is friends with other, maybe nicer, girls. Just be his friend but he ever starts to be mean to you just, dont tolerate it, tell him hes being a jerk. Hope I could shed some light on the situation -Kelly

Q: My room is like a mess. When ever I clean it gets messy again what should i do?

Whenever you do something thats messes it up just put it away/clean it up. no offense but that is a GAY question. -*Kelly

Q: Today in English we were reading some story about something to do with someone having a disability wanting to play golf. He had trouble walking and had to use a cart to get around to the hole while everyone else had to walk (obviously I wasn't paying much attention). But, towards the end of class my teacher brought up a good point about what the word "fair" meant to us.

Her question was, "Is being fair treating everyone equally, or giving lea-way to those with disabilities so they can be like everyone else.

I was wondering what it meant to you guys.

Well to me it means: should I treat everyone the same whether they are cool/uncool/smart/challeged/etc. or do you treat other people special for the reasond above? and to me personally-treat everyone eqaul, no one is really better than someone (nicer maybe) but not BETTER for example if your in the crowd at school that just kinda lays low you shouldnt have to treat the more outgoing ones special, thats just who they are you should love em' for it no matter how bad YOU think it may be. just like they shouldnd treat you different. YOU JUST GOTTA GIVE EVERYONE A LITTLE RESPECT! HOPE I HELPED -Kelly* :)

Q: is there anyway i can get a guy to know that i like him without being obnoxiously flirty? im really shy so flirting isnt really an option for me. i rate high! i dont want to just come out and say that i do like him because he could just be like "i dont like you that way" and i couldnt handle something like that

Well my best advice to you could make it or break it: tell a friend that nows him you like him and see if she can find anything about (if he likes you, if he has a g/f, etc., etc.) I know its pretty stupid but it just might work. and for the if he doesnt like you part I would just move on cause chances are its never gonna happen if he doesnt want it to. -Kelly :)

Q: there is this guy at my school and i like him and im not sure if he likes me but everytime im around him he ALWAYS looks at me even if i walk by.. and i really wanna know how i can start talking to him more and him talking to me bc when hes around me hes really shy and doesnt talk but when i see him around other people he always talks so my 2 questions are..

1. Does he like me/how can i find out if he does

2. How can i get him not to be shy/talk to him more/him to talk to me more

Thanks SOOOO much.. I rate 5's for good advice

Hmmm....well to answer your first question your gonna have to talk to him/have him talk to you, and for your second question just be more outgoing around him and he may just do the same. guys are weird like that, sometimes you just have to make the first move, i hope it works out -Kelly :)

Q: My friend and i have a bet going. We already know what i will do if i lose, but if he loses, we do not know his punishment. Got any ideas?

Ummmm you could shave his head! or how about he has to ask some really bitchy girl out?? whatever you do make sure you tell me!!

Q: Every time I get out of the shower my hair is frizzy, poofy, and just a pain! No matter how much i straighten it, it never hangs down flat like other girl's hair! Its always poofing out, or has waves in it! I need help my hair always looks bad!

** I rate 5 on EVERY GOOD COMMENT !!! =D **

Well I would recomend a "revlon hair straitener" (it works wonders) But if that doesnt work Im no help cause my hair has ALWAYS been the same way -Kelly

Q: Wet Seal has been my favortie store for a very long time, but recently they just shutdown a whole bunch of them, including the one in my area. Does anyone one know of any cool stores with fashion/clothes like Wet Seal?
Thanks!

you should definetly try FOREVER 21! glad i could help

Q: Dear Kelly,
I have a boyfriend and its really wierd. Because i really like him, yet i desperatly want to be single, but i would like never dump him. He's really nice and doesnt do much wrong, almost perfect. except one thing that always extremely bothers me... He goes so fucking fast in a realationship. Im not one to go on and make out when im only 11 or 12. I know he's had other girls who may have been fine with it, and obviously assumed I was like them. But im not! And now its horrible because im loosing my childhood, and i hate feeling like im growing up. But how do I tell my boyfriend that in order for us to stay together and for me to feel comftorble around him, we have to slow down a lot??
Sincerlly,
Romantically Panicked

Well it sounds like you really do love him but if he cant respect you enough to take it slow maybe it just shouldnt be, but if your'e sure you want to stay together, talk to him. tell how you feel about your relationship, you never know it might just work out -Kelly