Hello, call me Abby =] I'm eighteen and a senior in high school this year. I've always had great advice, I'm just not so great at following it =P Feel free to ask me anything, I'll do my best to give you an answer.
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I use to read on here gurls sayin they think there pregnant and im like man why dont they just get testedd yeah while i think im pregnant now! and i have noo money for a test. I slept with this guy the Dec 10 or sumthing and i still havnt got my period.When i get up to get ready for school i always fell like im going to throw up. I have yelllow discharge, and i keep having these pains right in my crouch ! , and its like stinging pains , and im really scaredd. cause i cant tell ANYONE who the dad is , and i cant ask my friends for advicee cause i cant tell them iv slept with this certain guy .. cause they all hate him but i dontt ! (link)
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Your in a very scary situation.
I don't think a advice website can clear your problems, but I can atleast try to help.
It sounds like you've got an STD. Usually pregnancy in it's early stages don't involve discharge and pains. But Im no doc, so you really really really really need to get tested. If you can't afford to do that yourself, go online and find a free clinic in your area. It is IMPERATIVE you get tested, because if it's an STD the longer you wait to get treated, the worse it may get. And if you are pregnant, the longer you wait until you find out, the more harm can come to the baby who needs care.
If you can't find a clinic, try a older friend, a family member, guidance counselor, anyone you can truly trust, and ask for help. This is NOT something you can do on your own.
You need to stop worrying about what your friends or might think, because if you are pregant, that pales in comparision. Your health is the most important thing here, so don't let anything stand in your way. And if your friends are your true friends, they will stand by you no matter what.
Your family will stand by you also. They love you and want what is best for you.
Tell the guy. Be straight forward. Ask him if he has had any STD's. That can help you determine if you might have gotten anything from him.
What I am really saying is, you must be proactive and take responsibilities for your actions. Knowledge is power, and you must know before deciding anything else. Like, if your pregnant, will you keep the baby? will you give it up for adoption? Will you chose abortion? How will you support the child? Will this certain guy be a father figure?
You must get tested to know any of that.
So please, do whatever it takes. Get tested.
May God be with you in your time of need.
-DearAbby92
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ok so i met this guy at a debate tournement and he lives an hour away and he gave me his number and i want to call him but i dont know wut to talk about. i dont know wut to do please help me. (link)
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(brace yourself, heres a looong answer)
This is a tough one!
We've all been through it, or will go through it, and I speciffically mean the nervous-ness, the jittery hands that threaten to drop the telephone, the fingers that wish they dialed the wrong number, and the urge to hang up after you hear hello.
Well, that won't happen to you!
First off, consider yourself lucky. You scored a guy's number! And, you being the one with the number, lets you have the upperhand and can control when you call him and he'll be the one waiting by the phone.
Talking to a guy can be hard, especially one you don't know very well. But this is your advantage, because that means there is so much you can learn about him and vice versa. Think about things you talk about with your friends. Think about things going on at your school. Think about funny stories you can tell this guy. A good laugh always breaks the ice. The possibilities are endless.
Make a list. Write down topics, questions, and even your answers if you want to be really safe. If you and this guy have a connection, you'll find that you won't even need the list.
Keep the conversation positive. Learn about him and let him learn about you. But don't be to negative, or say anything too controversial, because that can be a major turnoff from the beginning. There is nothing wrong with you two having your differences, but dont assert that in the very beginning. And, a light and fun convo will make both of you happy, and both of you wanting to talk even more.
IF YOU REALLY REALLY REALLY are dreading this call, try these alternatives:
-If you got his cell, send him a text. Texts are easy, quick, and a non formal way to talk. But it's not very personal, so don't expect to connect over cell phones. And you'll wrack up quite the phone bill.
-Find out his screen name. Talking on instant messenger is my perfered way of communicating actually, because you can think exactly what you want to say and can control your respond time. No blurting out the most stupid things or tripping over your words. (unless you have bad typing) Talk with him like that for a while, and bond a little bit. But do not become dependant on it, because a relationship based purely in cyberspace never works out when it comes to real life. You have to be comfortable around each other no matter what.
No matter what, relax. It's really not that hard, and just gets easier. And even if you do mess up, or find out that guy is a jerk, you should be so proud for taking a risk and putting yourself out there.
So be confident, and have fun most importantly! That's what this is all about, right?
And btw, don't try hanging up after hello. Most of us who left the 90's have caller ID.
Lot's of Luck,
DearAbby92
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