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Q: i have kinda of curly frizzy hair and i straighen it everyday. Im going to florida in april and im not gunna have time to strighen my hair everytime i take a shower. is there antying, such as shampoo, conditioner, cream, spray, anything that would make my hair straight, if not just a little straight? also is there anything i can put in my hair when its wet that when it drys there would be pretty curls and not fizzy ones and can withstand the heat?

thanks

Guess what... I have your answer!! There is this amazing shampoo, called Herbal Essances Dangerously Straight. No, I haven't used it, but my friend used it (very thick, frizzy, kind of curly hair) and on the first use it really did work, she had just straightened it a tiny bit after that. But she barely had to straighten it.

Q: 15/f

Why is it that whenever a person tells another person a secret or something ...some kind of news.....and that person is close to the other person...and no matter how much you BEG them...and PLEAD NOT to tell the secret...they still ALWAYS do.

What does this mean? Should I stop telling people secret stuff?...I mean....How can I NOT?....I tell my own SISTER stuff....and she spills the beans.

How can this be stopped?

What should I do if I crave to let my emotions and secrets out? Because there's a lot building up inside of me over time. And I can't be trusting of ANYONE anymore...since like all of them (the people) basically stuck a fork up my ass. And backstabbed me with a dagger.

:(

Just to add onto someones answer, its a great idea, but like she said if you dont have a pet...well, you can tell a stuffed animal :)

Q: 1/14 okay so my birthday is in august im want to have a kick ass house party. (yes it will be boy girl... duh. :))

lets just say people expect a lot out of my parties, so it cant be lame. but i suuuck at planning anything.

also, i really dont want to spend a fortune on this party. i can spend some, but dont say anything like "GET AKON TO PREFORM!" cause i dont have that kind of budget. (:

i would really appreciate any or all of these questions answered. thank you soo much in advance.

(im okay with music, so dont worry about that.

-any good party ideas about
+food
+games
+other things to do
+entertainment
+unique invitations
+formal informal
+gift bags? if so with what in them?
+about how many people total?
(big house and pretty big back yard! + pool
and like, little fort/tree house thing)
+dancing or no?
+movie or is that boring?
+my room - off limits?
+how long
+what time-ish?
+invite acquaintances or just good friends?
+even number of guys an girls or does it
matter?
+slow songs or no?

ETC ETC ETC

ANYTHING YOU LIKE ABOUT A PARTY, LET ME KNOW!

it would be good to get some info kinda quick just so i can start planning now.

thank you sooo mcuh you guys. im sure this will help a lot.

xoxo

I don't have ideas for everything sorry, but heres what I do have-

For food, you can have chips, crackers, sodas, pretzels, candy, pizza, etc.

Games you can do 7 minutes in heaven, spin the bottle

As for entertainment, you can have the TV on, or have a movie playing, and you mentioned swimming so people could swim.

You should probably make it informal.

I'm not sure about gift bags, but if you want you could invite everyone in your grade since its a big house.

Definatly have dancing!

Have a movie on, but dont make everyone watch it unless they want too. After a movie is over put another one in.

Yes your room and parents/sibs rooms should be off limits since those are personal. UNLESS you allow someone in there yourself, then no one should go in.

Probably about 4 hours is an average party length unless its a sleepover. The time? I think like 6-10, or 5-9.

Invite anyone you are friends with and aquaintences! If you want to have more friends, inviting them to your party might bring them closer :)

Probably an even amount of guys and girls could work, but they don't have to be perfectly even (ex 10 less guys than girls)

And you dont really need slow songs unless you want to. It's not the best advice and I tried to answer as much as I could. Hopefully someone else can give the rest of the info and add onto mine. :) Hope I helped

Q: okay, so the title made no sense, but deal.

how do you get money on IMVU besides someone buying you money?

You can buy it yourself, but for free ones if you click on earn credits on the right, and then you click on new products, you can get 50 free credits every 24 hours. Also, if you type up lucky in the search bar and go to her page and look for a link saying free spin game, you can have a chance for 17, 132, or 500 credits. You can only do this once every 24 hours also. They also have a treasure hunt where you can give a shot at winning, which you can do however many times you'd like.

If you just want the page to where all the links are, go here:

http://www.imvu.com/catalog/modules.php?op=modload&name=phpbb2&file=viewtopic.php&t=67364

Q: uhh how long is a guys penis when he's 16?

No one can answer that question for you. It's different for *everyone*. but probably like 5 or 6 inches

Q: I called my mom an assh*** and an idiot because I was upset with her and she took away my computer for the whole Saturday, she stole all of my money I'd been saving up for years and won't give it back. (It was about $130.00) and she slapped my head three times. while I was doing my duty in the bathroom. Oh yeah, and she hasn't stopped yelling at me for an hour and I can't do anything this whole weekend. Did I deserve all of this being taken away? Did she overact?

And I told her sorry but she doesn't believe me. I need to hang out with my friends! But how can I?

First of all, what you said was wrong. You should NEVER sware to your parents and call them an idiot because that is just plain disrespectful. Your mom brought you here, so you shouldn't be so rude.

However, what she did wasn't right either. She stole your money and slapped you. Its okay for her to say you can't do anything over the weekend but taking your hard earned money and pretty much abusing you by slapping you is completly not right. So yes, in a way, she over reacted.

if she doesn't believe you then you maybe could tell her how bad and guilty you are feeling. If you say sorry with additude then it will definatly not work. Tell her you think that taking your money and slapping you was a little too much and that you think that being grounded for the week is good enough punishment. Make sure you aren't giving her additude while saying it or she might punish you more.

Q: okay so i am new at a school and i have been hanging out and eatting kunch with the populare ppl but i have no idea if they really like me or not..i mean there no going to tell me if they dont so is their anyway i can tell??

If they wait for you at your locker, they talk to you in between classes and maybe during classes, they invite you places, call you, tell you who they like, etc. They might not do that yet so keep putting effort to being their friend, but don't try too hard and give them space so they don't get annoyed. If they already do what I told you, then they probably like you. Hope I helped!

Q: What is the best AIM version and what other stuff should I download to go with it?

Usually I would like the latest version, but I don't like the latest version of AIM so much, it freezes my computer and stuff so I used my favorite version instead, v. 5.9. Its probably the best one you can get, since 6.0 is really confusing to use in my opinion.

Theres nothing you really need to download for AIM. AIM comes with backgrounds, smileys, IM sounds, icons, and lots of things, so you don't really need anything else I couldn't see why you would.

Q: Do the Parents actually have to go in with their kids into an r rated film...or could they just go with them and say "Yah these are my kids they have my permission to go to the movie". and i dont want anything like ooh just sneak into the movie....thanks abunch

You need to have an adult WITH you during the movie to get into an R rated movie.

Q: My birthday is on March 10th and I'm getting a Coach purse for my birthday. I was thinking about getting this one: http://www.coach.com/content/product.aspx?product_no=9394&category_id=256 and I was wondering if it's a good price for Coach and if it's cute to buy..? Thanks soo much!

P.S: sorry about that other question, i accidentally deleted the link!

Definatley cute! And that price is very good for a coach purse. Sometimes designer purses can be up to 500 dollars even more! So yes, you are definatly paying a good price for that.

Q: how do i get rid of like red bags. like there bags.. but there red. ... i think you understand what im saying.. like those red lines under your eyes and stuff.
help. =]
thanksss

Thats puffiness, what you need to do is take the swelling down so you take something cold and hold it on the bags to reduce the swelling. Also, if it is still noticeable you can put concealer on to make it less noticeable. Hope i helped

Q: whos the artist that has the lyrics to "you stole my heart" as the title? It begins with a D i think. and the music video had like tarot cards in it? sorry if this is confusing,but thanks in advance!

Dr. Sin. All you had to do was type up "You stole my heart" lyrics in google and a ton of pages saying the title and Dr. Sin would have came up...please search google before asking here.

Q: i was thinking for my non school uniform day(red nose day), i was going to wear them footless tights with a nice skirt but i was thinking would red footless tights look nice with a black skirt??

anyone got any ideas??

thanks xx

Its cute, but black leggings with a denim skirt would look better.

Q: My clothes are pretty plain. I wear jeans pretty much all the time, and usually a single colored shirt or a henley type shirt with a different colored cami underneath. I don't really have any accessories so I don't bother with that. I mean I'm sure I don't look like a fashion disaster or anything but nothing I wear is really special or exciting.

I am getting bored at how plain my clothes are. I don't like to stand out too much so I guess that's why they are so plain. I don't even know where to begin with accessories, and I've heard plenty of times they make the outfit but I'm clueless.

Where should I shop to find clothes not so boring but not to stand out too much, and that isn't over-the-top expenisive? What kind of accessories should I look for and where? Should I shop for entire outfits or just find tops, bottoms, and accessories here and there and put them together?

Aeropostale is a GREAT place to shop.

www.aeropostale.com

they always have great sales and their clothes are greatly priced and its a popular store--and the clothes aren't over the top. I get most my tops there! :) Hope I helped

Q: My best guy friend led me on & I was completely hooked, then he just cut off all communication with me. He basically dropped off the face of the earth. It hurt like a bitch, and I've been crying for 2 months straight.

How can I make him feel BAD for all the hurt he's caused me? I don't want to do someting equally as bad to him, because believe me, the pain he's caused me is something I could never wish upon another person. I just need some ways to make him feel BAD without actually telling him he should, thank you!

Don't show that you are upset. Make sure he thinks you don't care--so whenever you see him, pretend to be having the best time with a friend. He will think his no communication thing didn't work, he will start to feel bad and might even approach you or something. Hope i helped

Q: i want to curl my hair for a party tonight. i have 3 sizes of curling iron. small, medium, and big. i have absuloutly no clue how to curl my hair. i want it to last all night!! i have long hair (to my waist) so it always drops. how do icurl my hair? wich size iron i mean? and how do i make it stay? thanx sooo much!!!!

Wash your hair, ring it out with a towel. Then when its NOT dripping, spray some hair spray into it and curl your hair. You should use a big iron because big loose curls are so cute now. Then after you curl it put in some moose so its not frizzy and give it some volume. :) Then hair spray it one more time. This should make it stay. Hope I helped!

Q: how do i get a backgroundd on my advice page..
not the ones adviceanator gives you.

thanks :)

You have to have a paid account to do that

and thanks for the 3, I really deserve it for answering your question

Q: My stomach has been killing me today.

It feels like the stomach flu, but I am uncertain

Going to the doctor is out of the question.

What are some things I can take/do that will make me better by tomorrow?

Well the person below me gave you food that wont make you throw up, but sometimes throwing up is all you need to make you feel better. But, if you are like me, who is scared of that (I seriously am haha) then eat those. Try taking aleive. My stomach was killing me today but I took only one pill and in about 30 minutes it went away. Also, get some rest and drink water. Hope I helped

Q: what are some good ways to flirt

Joke with them and laugh at their jokes, touch their hands playfully, be cute around them, smile.

Q: for startersIm going to say this as apropriatly as i can

I was sexualy asaulted by 6 guys && then a couple months later i was raped and my brother said "If this keeps happening people arent going to believe yu they will just think yu are crying wolf"

well recently i was partying with some friends and i was drunk so i wanted to have fun but not have sex and i made that clear to everyone. me being bisexual i was all over my friend thats a girl. Well these two guys were looking on and one of them had already fucked my friend that night and the other liked me. well some how the guy that liked me ended up grabbing my friend and fucking her. The other guy grabbed me and i told him he cool lick meh down there so he did and then he put a condom on and i pushed him away and told him no i wasnt going to have sex with him And he said stuff like "let me just touch it i wont stick it in" and i told him again im not gona have sex with him. So he touched it nd told me he wasnt gona stick it in and then he tryd to nd i tryd pushing him away saying stop but he just pushed me down and told me to chyll out i tryd pushing him away again but he wouldnt listen nd so i just layd there nd he started having sex with me nd i was crying. after he was done i got up and ran off upstairs.

What should i do? I dont even know if this is wrong it just makes me feel wrong and dirty. Is this wrong or not?

Yes it is wrong. You shouldn't keep going to those parties. Those are -targets- for being raped! When you are drunk, like you were at that party, you weren't completely in control so you were more easy to get and be raped. If you keep going to those parties, at least don't drink. Then if a guy even lays his hand on you kick him in the balls and run. :) Hope I helped

bio

my name is Jay and I'm only 13 years old but I've been through a lot. I might not give the best advice but I still try. I don't sugarcoat my answers but I'm not mean. you can drop a question in my inbox any time you'd like, and I'd be more than happy to answer because I love to give advice and I try my best to help people.