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I'm Erin. This is my advice column. I'm suuuuuuuuuuper open, and I'm always here to answer and help you with your problems. Yeah, many people say I give out good advice and it works. So, here I am now, making one.

Don't be afraid to ask.

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erin, ok, so i don't know you, but i read your advice and it's really good. so.. alright, here it goes.
this guy is basically my best guy friend, but he's sorta like obsessed with me. he even cut himself when i jokingly said i hate you. and i really love this guy, because he's a great friend. but, its starting to kinda creep me out. he's always like your my favorite girl in the entire world, and i love you all the time. and he's being like dead serious. he even says stuff like that when i have a boyfriend. i don't really know what to do about it. thanks for your advice.

wow. if you say that jokingly and he cuts himself... he really does have a problem. i understand that its getting creepy. just tell him NICELY that you KNOW your his favorite girl so he doesnt have to remind you all the time.

that has happened to me when i have a boyfriend too. just say the same thing. and if he doesnt stop, then he probally has a problem and SHOULD get help. b/c if this gets any worse he could stalk you, and even hurt you if you reject him.

thanks =]
erin

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ok, so my best friend is a guy, and we've been friends since like 5th grade. and my other best friend and him went out, and when they broke up it was a big deal. and now, suddenly im starting to like him. and he always acts like he likes me back, but you can never tell with him. i dont want to tell him and him not like me back then it be awkward, or have my other best friend hate me if we go out, what should i do?

well guys are really confusing. he might like you back... ask him if he likes you back, or have someone else do it. and if you guys like each other and he asks you out, talk to your friend and ask her if she is okay with it, because you dont want to hurt he feelings.

and if she says she does feel hurt, then give her some time. ask her a few days later or even a week.

thanks =]
erin

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hi erin its kaitlin hutchison ahahaha nice pic of u, brandie, and jessie ehh uh umm should i spend my money on buying a horse or sumthin else cuase im like totally stumped on this one yea its dumb i kno but i dont think you wanna here the others see ya around
~katielynn~

heyy kaitlinnn!! haha thankkkkss. well if you want to take care of your horse and everything, and if youll ride it and stuff, then SUUREEEE. why not? haha, only if your aloud to though.


erinnn.

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erin barrett,

ok this is rele uncomfortable. but ok. i have had a gf for about 3 yrs now. but it doesnt feel right whenever i touch her i feel weird or when we kiss it means nothing. but the big one was when we were drunk and had sex. and then i knew i didnt liek it. well i broke up with her 2 weeks ago and now like everyone hates me. because they think all i wanted was sex then i didtch her when i got it. but thats not it. i found out i like boys more. yes girls are attractive but boys just r the same as me. i want my life partner to be a man.but when it got out that, thats why i broke up with her my life has been hell. boys have been shoving stuff in my lockers like star wars pamphlets and live savers and condoms that glow in the dark and everyone makes fun of me. my ex even told the teachers! and counselers. so i had to talk to my counselers. all the girls wont talk to me if i walk down the hallway they jump to eaither side.but i mean. i dont liike seeing girls stuff. boys are my intrest.


confused about sexuality liking.

thanks erin barrett i thought you could help cause a boy told me about your cousin. thanks.

okay wow. well if you are proud about your sexuality, then it really shouldnt matter. but if you want a man as a life partner then yuo will eventually find one.

and most people who are gays or lesbians do get made fun of more, and you are really just gonna have to keep your head high and get through this tough time b/c sometime it is going to stop. and thats really immature that people are doing that to you.

but you will just have to keep getting through this and show them that you dont care what they think about you, b/c you are who you are. b/c there are probally gay and lesbian people in your school, but they havent admitted it yet.

and yes, i support my cousin all the way, and i dont care what people think about me supporting him b/c hes family and i will love him no matter what. but if you need anyone to talk to i have a screenname, and you can iM me and we can talk about it. erin leigh 011.

thanks.
erin.

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ok so i liked this girl her name will be "jane", so jane was really cool and i told her i liked her but then she said she liked me to but she didnt want to get hurt and we talked about it for awhile, but the next day she left on vacation and when she got back she was all weird and she kept freaking out on me for little things, and i think i got over her but i do still kind of like her, and then i just started to get to know this other girl her name will be "sally", so sallys really cool and shes like my type of girl and i think im starting to like her and shes really down to earth and she doesnt freak out over small things, should i move on to jone and just get over jane?

well if you are happier with sally instead of jane. then i think you SHOULD get over jane b/c you asid that sally is your type of girl.

thanks =]
erin.

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welll my freind and my other freind were like bestfriend but now they hate eachother and im in the middle of it ones forcing me to not like the other and the other is accusing me into doing whatever the one wants me to do.. so what do i do bc i love em both to death

well dont be in the middle of it. say you want to stay out of it without hurting there feelings. say it nicely.

if ones forcing you not to liek one, then tell her that you can have other friends besides her.

and if one is accusing you of doing whatever the other girls wants you too, myavbe she doesnt trust you.

but its really hard being in the middle of everything and just tell them that you perfer not to be in the middle.

thanks =]
erin.

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erin,

i have liked this boy for 3 yrs. and we went out 3 times already. but i always broke up with him because i was afraid. because ive never felt like this for a guys before. but see i was w. my best friend lets say Marge and i was tellin marge how much i liked him and all these story of the times ive had with him and all this stuff. and about 1 week later shes going out with him. WTF?!?! like seriosuly. she met him once! and then they go out theyve known eachother for about a month. ohh and guess who introduced her to him? umm yeah me! thanks. ughh this is soo gay. cuz like i love hangin with marge but whenever i hang with her she always brings him up and ive told her that i hate when she does but she just says oh well. he doesnt like you he likes me. and she always hangs with him whenever im with her. and i tell her im uncomfortable and shes like oh my god! whatever and flips out and i rele wanan be her friend. but liike hes done this beofre like if i brake up with him he goes out with my friends to make me jealous. ughh. i dont know. i like him so much. and now this "event" is comin up where she wants me to go to but hes gonna be there, and i dont know what to do. cuz i have a choice family function which i rele want to go to or this "event" which i rele wanna go to which one will i regret?? i dont know help me plezz this is destroyign my life!?!?????!?!??!


thanks,

crush and best friend problemss.

well first of all, what were you afraid of when you broke up with him? and for marge to do that to you, that is NOT what "best friends" do. that is really wrong to do. and yeah, i have been in one of those situations where you introduce one of your rfiends to another one and they are obsessed with each other. and maybe marge always brings him up when you hang out just to make you jealous b/c she knows that you like him alot and she knows that she will probally never have what you two have / had. If he breaks up ith your friends just to make him jealous, then he still really likes you.

and to choose which event, which one will you feel more comfortable at? at this "event" will other friends be there? b/c if Marge ditches you or something... you dont just want to be alone. and if you go to your family function then you have NO worries about this guy or Marge, and you can ALWAYS rely on your family... not always marge. im sorry i cant tell you which one to go to, you have to choose that one.


and when she just says oh well, and he likes you and not me... that shows that she isnt really a friend to you and she doesnt care abotu how you feel. you could try to talk to her about it, and again if she doesnt listen then say that your friendship wont work out until she shows you some respect. but if you dont want to talk to her about it and just keep letting her do this to you, then her AND other people will just push you around.


thank =]
erin

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My friend and i have been bestfriends since we were little. We have known eachother our whole lives and now it seems we are growing apart. I really dont want to lose her because she is my "secret keeper" and one who i couldnt live without. What should i do?

well if you are growing apart maybe you shoudl talk about it. she shoudl understand b/c you have been best friends since you were little. if you arent hanging out as much maybe you should call her more and ask her if she wants to hang out.

and you know, maybe she feels the same. you never know. try to talk to her more about it.

thanks =]
erin

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i have a daughter that i love a lot and this kid ***** thinks shes gorgeous but she already has a boyfriend and i think we need some mother daughter bonding =D

hmmmmmm, well call your daughter sometime SOON and hang out with her before maybe she has to go to summer camp or other parties =]

thanks =]
erin

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So I am going out with an amazing guy, lets call him "Bob". He is probably the best boyfriend I have dated. But the thing is.. I still like two of my ex boyfriends :/ Their names can be "Tom" and "Joe". I don't know if Tom likes me :/ He told me he doesnt like anyone right now. And he thinks no one likes him. Joe is probably the worst choice I could pick, but I still like him. Then theres "Carl" [thats not his real, name of course] and everyone says he likes me, and I like him too. But he is my current boyfriends bestfriend. As for "Bob".. I actually dont like him more than a friend. I don't know what to do, and i dont know who to pick. Help?

wow. okay, well first if you dont like Bob that much as a bf anymore, then maybe you shouldnt be going out with him. As for Tom, maybe one of your friends could find out who he likes, and if its not you, then maybe you should try and get over Tom. and if Joe is the worst pick, then you shouldnt really choose him and probally get over him. and Carl. well, if / when you break up with Bob, give him sometime, like maybe a week or so for him to get over you. and maybe during that week, you could get to know Carl better.

And maybe after a week or find out if Bob is okay and if he is over you. and if he is over you, then maybe you and Carl could start dating.

thanks =]
erin

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how do i meet the right people

maybe by going to a community pool, or even vollunteer things.

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i love poop. all i do is eat poop. what should i do?

you probally have a problem if all you do is eat poop.

and thats not good for you. go see a doctor or a pychyatrist and get meds or something.. b/c thats not good.

erin.

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There's this guy that i went to camp with and we have a dance every year there and somebody told me he liked me so i asked him to dance with me and he said he liked me alot but i found out he had a gf and lived an hour away from me! i still really like him, what should i do?

well one of the two could be happening.. he could just be SAYING that, or he means it. he has a gf, and he is a teenager boy, so you never know.

but if you see him every weekend and if you are into long distance relatioships then you could try to go after him, but his gf might get intot he way.

you DONT want to break him and his gf up. you can be a flirt, but not too much.

and if you two do end up dating, you might want to realize that logn distance relatioships might be tough, and it will be hard to see each other and everything. soo think about whats really the best thing to do.

try to get to know him more, b/c you only had ONE dance. hang out with him when you go camping next and find out who he really is. b/c he might just be saying those things b/c he thinks your hott and he wants to hook up with you.

thanks =]
erin

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no one likes me like a bf wat should i do

well i mean, there gonna be alot of girls in your life that you like. and the ones that dont like you as a bf, probally have known you for a while and think of you as a brother or something.

all you can really do is maybe try to meet new people and get to know them. and maybe they will see you as a bf.

or maybe you havent just really found "the right one" yet. or maybe that girl hasnt noticed that "your the right one" yet. but you know, looking for a serious relationship takes time.

soo all you should do is just look around, try and meet other girls than the same old.

thanks =]
erin

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so theres this girl i just got to meet and i like her a lott. buut shes already got a b\f and theyve been goin out 4eva and idk wtf to do

well thats good that you like someone, and that you are good friends with her. but since she has a b/f, the only possible thing you CAN do is be a good friend.

cause i mean, dont try to break them up. but i mean you dont know how she feels about you. maybe if her and her b/f break up... maybe you guys can try to get together.. but DO NOT break them up, thats the worse thing you could do.

thanks =]
erin

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