about

I'm a qualified colour therapist and I'm doing a course in psychotherapy and councelling. i have the letters SNHS after my name which means i have a diploma from The School of Natual Health Sciences.
I have life experience in mental health, agoraphobia,bullying,parents divorce.


advice

my friend showed me some cigarettes with hearts on the end, but i can't remember what brand they are. does anyone know what brand these cigs are? or where i could find them?

http://i264.photobucket.com/albums/ii165/BABBYg/ohcute.jpg

thanks !

They are called 520 Cigerettes.

I couldn't find any website that sells them, they are imported from Tiawan.


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Who knows the best video editor that lets to delete scenes, add effects and you know stuff like that and is also free? I want to make youtube videos.....

I use Windows Movie Maker to make videos for youtube, it's easy to use and does the things you wanted it to do

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I am a total worrier
But the one thing I worry about is sex really.


So here are some questions

1) What position are you usually in if your being fingered - what should you do ? where should your hands go?

2) And if your making out and you want to actually do it and he puts on the condom - doesn't that like kill the mood a little?? Like your all in the mood and then its like wait, let me put one on..how long would it take?

3) Can you tell me of how it feels for the first time? What it's like?

4) Being fingered ; does it hurt?

5)Do guys ever look at your body naked whilst your having sex. I never go into relationships because I hate my body and I wouldnt want someone else looking at it

I don;t know if your asking because your planning on having sex or if your just curious, so i'll say this first. If you have never been fingered then you are deffinatly not ready for sex :-)

1. If your being fingered it's usually while your standing up against a wall (usually this is if you are outside).
if you in the house then laying down whith the guy next to you but leaning over you.
Or he can be on top of you while fingering but this can be a bit uncomftable for him.

2. It doesn't kill the mood because you know the reason he's putting it on is because you'll be having sex anytime soon.
If he's never put on one before it can take a few minutes but the more experience he has the less time it takes.

3. When you think about losing your virginity you think you'll feel so different and grown up afterwards...truth is, you don't.
If your in love with eachother then it will make you feel closer, which is lovely.

If your doing it with someone and there's no love there, then afterwards you may feel abit "oh, is that is?", "i wish i'd waited", and feelings of guilt and abit dirty (personal experience).

4. When i was first fingered it did hurt, quite alot, but he was rough and not conciderate, so again, it deprends how much he loves and respects you.
Having said that, it was more a pleasure/pain thing.

As you get wetter though and more used to it it will hurt less and less untill its all pleasure.

5. They do, but it depends on the position. If your on top then he can look at your breasts, or you can lower yourself so he can just see your face, or you can kiss and his eyes will be closed.

If he's on top then he'll only be able to see your face.

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in the movie titanic 2 [which never made it to theatres] where leonardo dicaprio was de-frosted, was 2002, how come he was young there? how did that happen... and did leo really act it out in the movie.. i dont get how it alll happened! AND I REAAALLY WANT TO KNOW.

There isn't a Titanic 2. It's a spoof trailer someone made using clips from all diferent Leonardo DiCaprio movies

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In one of my classes our only assignment over winter break is to finish this worksheet of 17 rebus puzzles. If you don't know what those are theyre like word-play puzzles.
Like for example one of them was "amUous" and the answer was ambiguous. Get it? am"big U"ous? Yea. So I got most of them but I'm down to three that I'm not so sure on. In the photobucket picture number 3 I think I know it but I'm not sure. I think it's receding hairline? If you think I'm right then please say that but if you think you have something that makes more sense by all means let me know, haha. But number 1 and 2 I'm completely stumped on. For 1 I was thinking like order in the court or something like that but I said that to my teacher and he said that was wrong. Anyways, if you can help me answer any of them THANKS! :)

http://i553.photobucket.com/albums/jj393/steeiler/rebus2.jpg

There's the link.

i think number 1 is Caught Out.

Number 2 is West Indies (W in the middle stands for West, and it's surrounded by D's)

I'm sure your right about number 3.

:-) x

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ok i am a girl. i have never had an orgasm from sex or masturbation or anything like that.

this is totally weird and i dont know what is what but the other night i woke up in the middle of the night and i honestly felt like what i would think an orgasm felt like that....i have no idea...then it happened again last night...can any one explain?

It sounds as though you had an orgasm in your sleep. It happend to me once too when i was 15, same thing, hadn't had sex before or touched myself, just woke up in the night and it was happening. The only thing i could think of what caused it is that maybe i was having a naughty dream.
I know teenage guys experience it but i never knew girls did too. I'm so glad it happend you too though, i've never told anyone that before but sounds like it must be a puberty thing.

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i bought the sims 2 double deluxe and the sims 2 pets. and i was browsing the interent for items that i can add onto my games. but i dont really understand how to get them there when i play. so can someone pleasae help me?

and some good websites would be helpful as well.


16/f

I had alot of trouble with doing this too but i've finally got the hang of it, since you are new to it, i'll explain it really simply, step by step. Not cos i think you wont get it, it's just i know i needed very simple baby steps when i was learning how to download.

Ok first you need to make 2 "Downloads folders", one for the actual files that you will put in your games, and one to just download the origionals to so you can sort them out.

Step 1 - On your computer desktop background, make a new folder. Click your right mouse button, press new, then folder. It will put a new folder on to your desktop, then you can name it something like "Sims Downloads".

Step 2 - Go to Start menu on your desktop, then Search. In the search bit, type in EA Games.
Click on Sims 2, then click on your right mouse button again to make a new folder and call it "Downloads".

Now you are ready to download things.

Go to a Sims 2 downloading website, for example Parsimonious http://www.parsimonious.org/furniture2/living/k8-Palace_Dar_Zina.shtml

Step 3 - Right click on the object you want to download, and click "Save target as", save it to the downloads folder you made on your desktop.
Once it's downloaded,open the folder.

Step 4- Right click on the new file that you have just downloaded (it should look like some books stacked up), click on "Extact here".

Step 5- Right click on the files that were just extracted (they should look like white pages of paper), click on copy and paste them into the downloads folder you made in EA Games/Sims 2.

They will now show up automaticly in your games, so if you download a sofa, it will show up in the sofa section when you are furnishing your house.
If you download hair or clothing, they will show up when you are making your sims.

*personally, i wouldnt recomend downloading "houses or lots", they have messed up my game alot in the past, so much that ive had to uninstall the whole thing and start again.

These are the websites i use;

http://www.parsimonious.org

www.modthesims2.com

http://www.lianasims2.net/

www.xmsims.com

www.aroundthesims2.com

www.thesimsresource.com

Hope you can work it out now, have fun :-) x

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Okay, i've known this girl christie for so long that i can call her my sister. I've known her since 6th grade, and since then we've hung out basically every weekend and every day during the summer. I'm apart of her family.

then this girl casey comes along [i introduced them, i was friends with casey first before christie] and she ruins our friendship/sisterhood.

well, im best friends with christie again, but not with casey. christie is having her sweet16 in december. shes putting casey on her candles BEFORE ME. that really pissed me off and i just wanted to LEAVE her house. casey is candle 7, im number 8. I told her that it pissed me off and she said suck it up. I told my sister and she said its not a big deal, but deep inside it hurts me to death that she thinks about casey before me. and her and casey havent been hanging out as much. casey is going into 9th grade, and christie and i are going into 10th. Don't you find that annoying? Imagine if your best friend dedicated a candle to someone you introduced to them first.

Is it okay that im feeling this way? jealous.. i think thats what i would call it. i told her that i should be before casey, but she just ignored me. and my friend bekki was also over and she said she doesnt know what christies deal was for that, and she found it bitchy too.

i need alot of help. i was thinking about leaving after the 6th candle goes up for the bathroom so i dont kill the girl. and come back intime for me to be called up for the 8th.

At the end of the day, it's Christies birthday and she can do whatever she wants, you getting mad at her will just push you down the list.
Your probably after Casey because you and Christie fell out with eachother.

I think your sister is right, i can understand why you are jelous, but theres nothing you can do about it, you are Christies bestfriend and you are one of the 16 candles, so just enjoy the party and don't say anything else to Christie, you dont want to lose her friendship again.

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fifteen/ female
My mother suffered from agoraphobia (fear of wide open spaces) for years. That was in her twenties and thirties, but she had me after that when she was forty-one. She was afraid to leave her house and talk on the phone, and she had social anxiety disorder, obsessive compulsive disorder, she was bipolar, depressed..all of these different illnesses.
Ive inherited some things from her, but not all of them. And I have a sleep disorder.
Well school starts in a bit less than a week for me and Ill be in high school. I LOVE to go to amusement parks, shopping, the mall, carnivals..you name it. Well not carnivals theyre icky x]
But when Im in my house, I get nervous. Really really nervous. I might shake a bit and sometimes Ill cry. Its mostly when Im either in the kitchen or the family room..and itll seem like Im looking through a fisheye lens and the room feels sooo much bigger than it really is! So I usually have to spend my time in my bedroom or outside. I think I feel more comfortable cuddled up in my room with the lights down real low, or just in the computer room because theyre the smallest parts of the house. Is it possible that I inherited Agorophobia from my mom? If I did then why can I still go out in public? Oh but sometimes when Im out in public my eyes get real sleepy and I have to walk looking at the floor, though.

You cannot inherit agoraphobia, but you could have inherritted or just picked up on anxiety traits that are in your mum.
I was always a nervous child, and with some family memebers i was like you, scared, shakey, teary and just wanted to get away from them.
If you had agoraphobia you'd have a panick attack everytime you even thought of leaving the house, you sound like you have some social anxiety, which does need sorting out before you end up like me and not be able to spend any time with people.

I know it's you who asked the question, but i am going through all those mental illnesses right now that your mum went though (from age 17 and i'm now 24). Would it be possible for you to ask your mum how she overcame those things and led a normal life again? I'm getting out now but only for an hour at the weekend, i can cope with that and im building on it, but the social phobia is crippling as i cant spend time with mine or my partners family which causes alot of problems.

Sorry for asking you xxx

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17, UK, England

I have been set an assignment to do over the summer, I have lots of it complete, but I want it too be perfect so I was wondering if anyone here has any ideas of what else I could write about to improve it...

My project is about Hever Castle (an historic castle in the south of England, Kent)

I need to investigate..

- what products and services the organisation sells.
- what type of promotions they use and why they are appropriate.
- How they meet their customer needs.

Any ideas of what else I could include? I am already writing a little about the history of the castle as an extra, but I want to do something more to do with the promotional side of things, as that is the unit we are focusing on right now.

You could try and arrange an interview with one of the staff and ask them what you need to know. Take a dictaphone (sp?) with you and maybe give the tape to your tutors as part of your project aswel as the written interview.

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Ok so first of all I'm a girl and I'm really confused right now. Since I can remember I've always been straight but now I'm second guessing. Well here's the deal:
I masturbate all the time and I get a little turned on when I see nude pictures of girls.
So what does this make me?
HELP!! =/

Female bodies are more attractive than male bodies, so it's not suprising you get a little turned on by seeing them naked.
It doesn't mean your bisexual at all.

If you've thought about having sex with a female, the you may just be bi curious.

I've felt the same before, i knew i didnt want a girlfriend though, it was just a fantasy. Everyone has them.

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Everytime my boyfriend and I perform foreplay or intercourse it is really uncomfortable. It feels like his penis and fingers are hitting something.

He isn't even going really deep, it's probably only about an index finger deep before I feel the pain.

It can't be anything do to with his size because my previous boyfriend was a much smaller size yet I felt the same discomfort.

I decided to "explore" myself a little, to see if I could maybe find a way that is less uncomfortable, but I just can't work it out.

Im sick of this getting in the way of thngs, my boyfriend keeps worrying, because he thinks he is doing something wrong no matter how much I tell him it's not him.

Does anyone have any idea's what could be causing this?

It sounds like it could be vaginismus, it is where your muscles contract making sex very painful or impossibe.
I had this problem since I was 16, it made sex impossible, it's only within the last month that i've been able to enjoy sex (i'm now 24). It still hurts sometimes but not as bad. It used to make me cry in pain but now i can get enjoyment.

I suggest you buy some "toys", small one and medium and get used to those, very gently.

The posistion that worked for us was me on top, although in the past it hasn't been comfy but it seems to be the only way to get started for me personally.
Don't just sit on top like they do in the movies, sit first to position it, then lay your chest on his, the lower your body it the less it hurts (or in my case anyway).
Missionary was impossible cos of the pain!!!

You could also see your gp, as he might have more of an indication to what is happening, and maybe see a gyno.
There are some cone type things in different sizes that can also be used to help this problem but ask your gp first.

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I was just wondering how do you get rid of stretch marks I've had them since I was 10 and i really want to get rid of them.....if you know of some ways please tell me.

-Hopeful Gurl

Bio Oil, it's helps to reduce the appearence of stretchmarks, aswell as scars, uneven skintone.

The website here tells you more about it

http://www.bio-oil-direct.co.uk/

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ways to deal with a 19 year old who won't listen

is there any books i could get from a library near me to help me deal with him and his anger issues and basically making me have a lot of debts?

i'm not asking for advice, book titles please.

"Whatever!: A Down-to-Earth Guide to Parenting Teenagers" by Gill Hines

Youc an read a few pages of it online to see if it's for you

http://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/reader/0749927232/ref=sib_fs_top?ie=UTF8&p=S00J&checkSum=RpcR%2FSjwVpc58vwD7Mra%2FdXu4zbUstnHUFrbv6eLB00%3D#reader-page

It's got great reviews too
http://www.amazon.co.uk/review/product/0749927232/ref=dp_top_cm_cr_acr_txt?%5Fencoding=UTF8&showViewpoints=1

Here is a huge list of books with reviews on Parenting Teenages

http://www.amazon.co.uk/s/ref=nb_ss_w_h_/203-0352647-8668733?url=search-alias%3Daps&field-keywords=parenting+teenagers

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Ok my 3 good friends are coming over tommorow and I haven't seen them in awhile. Well I've been looking on the computer for good scary movies and can't find any. All the scary movies are cheesy and stupid. I really want to find good scary movies. I have seen most of the 8 horror films to die for and that was a joke. If you can help me find some good scary movies that would be great.

Thank you so much!

Halloween is a classic. It's the best horror movie in my opinion. The sequels are rubbish though.

Alot of "horror movies" though are teen ones so your right, they are cheesey. The best teen one is Scream. The sequels are rubbish though!

I'd stay clear of Nightmare on Elm Street, the first was really scary and freaky but the others are just a joke.

The exorist is alot of hype about nothing, i didnt find it scary at all and was so bored.

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my family is gone on vacation but i couldn't go due to school. i am really lonely and i keep getting sad. i have a lot of hw/studying to do, but i can barely concentrate i am so lonely. any tips?

I have this feeling alot too as i'm home alone most days, I always keep the tv on, even if i'm not in that room so i can hear "people" even if they are just on tv.
I also buy tons of magazines to keep me occupied while watching tv or having it on in the background.

If you want to, you could invite a friend round to keep you company or maybe sleepover.

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okay so in the bar where you type in the website...is there a way you can delete the websites???
thanks.

Go to tools

Delete Browsing history

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hey, i got sims 2 deluxe (pc)
and i want to get some free stuff like clothes for my game.
What website do i go to?

I get my Sims 2 Clothing, Hair and Decor from:

http://www.parsimonious.org/fashion2/casual/female_1.shtml

http://www.modthesims2.com/ (You have to sign up but it's all free once you have)

Clothes and great hairstyles http://www.xmsims.com/sims2/ehtm/main/index.htm

http://lliella.com/

One of my faves http://www.lianasims2.net/

This site gives you links to themed items, for example if your looking for medievil items or School items
http://www.a-simslife.com/themeslist.asp

I use all these websites and the best thing is that they are free, there are some items you cant have because they are donation items but you can still gets loads of great free stuff...and dont forget to download the meshes otherwise some items wont work.

Have fun :-) x

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anyone know how to get blood stains out of your clothes?

Pour salt over the stain, then leave the stained area in warm water, it lifts the stain out.

Much better if its a new stain though

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This might be a weird question but I need help finding a good username. My name starts with a K and umm...I like the color green, red, and blue, also black. I'm 13 too. I always have a stupid username and I would always want a better one. I want a really nice and cool username. Thanks!

True Blue is quite nice...makes you sound pretty and honest

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