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how do u flirt with a guy you like...i have no idea and i really like him (link)
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I'm 15, but this might help :) Joke with him, be sarcastic in a funny way, look at him, but then glance away quickly and giggle, or "accidentally" brush his hand with yours while talking. These are just a few tidbits to help ya out. Good luck :)
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There's this guy I've been friends for a long time,he's like a brother to me and we used to get along great.Now all he does is annoy me.He is boring and completely unlike he was before,but that doesn't bug me as much as what I'm about to say.He knows I don't like hearing what other people say about me(those who hate me) and that I don't care about it and he constantly keeps telling me that even though I couldn't care less...I usually just wait until he finishes,fake a laugh and move to another subject.Today,however,I really got mad and just turned my back on him,said bye and left.Could he be doing this on purpose?We've been best friends since childhood,I just don't know why he would do it...no matter how many times I tell him to stop bothering me with such nonsense he doesn't stop and continues telling me what others say.I just don't care and he doesn't get it... (link)
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Have you started liking other guys or have a boyfriend? He might secretly like you, and be a little jealous of somebody. Or maybe he knows a guy that talks nice about you all the time and likes you, and he doesn't like that. I'm not saying this is the definate reason, but it could be a suggestion. :) I hope this helped!
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so there is this guy i like. and somebody told him i liked him. so he is going around telling everybody. im pretty straightforward and i would tell him things like he has pretty eyes. well he told some ppl that i told him these things. i dont understand why because i dont think he likes me like the same way i do because he do he doesnt show it. i would ask but he is supposely mad at me. but that was b4 someone told him i like him. i would just let things happen but school is almost over and i like him lot.but this is my situation. (link)
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I'm a straightforward girl too. I never hide any of my feelings, so I'll tell you what I'd do. With me, the curiosity would get the best of me, and I would straight up ask him if he liked me and be done with it. It sounds like he likes you because if he wasn't proud of the fact you like him, he wouldn't have told his buddies. Guys act oppositely sometimes than they should, but just remember that they're just big goofballs who don't know what they're doing in the game of love sometimes. Best of luck :)
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Well I used to talk to this boy that has been my friend for 8 years and when I say talk I mean he was a suggestion of someone I would go out with well that stopped lie 4 days ago when I heard he said we didn't talk no more but he didn't let me know that and he tried to talk to my friend which did leave me heartbroken and I know we wasn't going out so I wasn't mad that he wanted to talk to someone else it's just the fact that somebody was my friend but he didn't know that...I know what the problem was...our conversations were boring its like we didn't know what to say to each other all we did was say hey and ask each other what we were doing and that's it... conversation over...well lets cut to the chase...I just wanted to know how could we have a conversation because it seems really hard for us...like I can have conversations with other people but him and its the same way with him...so could you please help me actually have conversations with him because I still want to be friends with him and be cool like we used to be but I really need help...please and thank you :) (link)
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I'm notorious for being a really interesting conversation holder by a lot of my friends(:
what I do, is I start being random. Like saying: Charlie the Unicorn! out of nowhere. It always strikes up a convo. Sometimes I'll ask what someone's doing and claim what I'm doing is waaaay better; then they're curious and wanna talk more. OH, and especially when texting, add smilie faces. Sometimes those spark interesting ideas as well. Hope this helped! :)
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the right thing to do to break up with someone is to do it in person but like what do you do as an allday type thing? do we go to the movies or to one of our houses or what?
how akward will it be finishing off the day since i would have to drive him home and he lives 50 min away. i dont think my heart could take it to see him sad especially for that long.
how and what do i do? (link)
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It depends on what he did. If he did something to really hurt you, it shouldn't phase you if he's sad or not. He hurt you, so why should he get that satisfaction right? But if it was something minor and you just want to silently break up, I'd suggest going to the mall or somewhere impersonal so it's not a true date. That might make it a little easier for both of you. Hope it works out for ya :)
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so i like this guy. and i guess he could just tell that i liked him. he went to one of my friends and was like i think blah likes me. and my friend was like yeah i kind think so too. and he was like yeah me too. and then he went to my other two friends and told them that someone told him that i liked him. i do like him. i think he went to my friends to confirm it. i do like him but i dont think he likes me because if he did he would talk to me. and he doesnt act like it. i would ask him but im to shy to do it and i dont like to get rejected straight to my face. and i dont want my friends to get into it. so what do you think? (link)
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Being a girl, I definately have had this issue. The way it sounds, the guy does like you, he's just trying to get all "the facts" before he decides to do something really bold. I'd say send him little signals, and if he doesn't catch on, i know a full-proof trick: no matter how hard it is, try giving him a little cold shoulder. If he does like you, he'll start talking to you :) hope this helped!
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long...sorry :(
I'm a brand new freshman in highschool.
over the summer i grew up and i (thought) i became way prettier, nicer, and more outgoing
lately, it seems like i'm a total FREAK. it seems like EVERYONE is making fun of me while i'm standing right there. every time im by myself in the hall or a class and i hear someone in a group of people laugh i get nervous and i just want to cry and try to make myself as invisible as possible.
i think it all started awhile ago with this little thing on facebook called honesty box (where you ask a question like "what do you really think of me?" and people can answer anonymously)and someone wrote "gross." and then we talked back and forth and basically they pretended they were my best friend (even though my actual best friend was with me while it was happening) and even though they didn't say anything actually insulting, (they would say things like "so, hows school?" and "i love you so much your too funny!") i could tell it was some girl making fun of me with one of her friends or something.
now i think that everybody thinks i'm a freak or something. i'm one of those people who TOTALLY over think things. but ive also picked up on people who are ACTUALLY talking about me while i'm right there...like pointing at me subtly and saying something to their friend or when a bunch of people all look at me (not very subtly) and then burst out laughing
the really weird thing is is that i have like two different people in me kind of...one is shy and quiet and awkward and just wants to break down crying from all the anxiety, and the other one is confident and happy and flirty. the second person comes out on the bus to and from school...thats where i get TONS of attention from everyone. there aren't really any wicked popular girls that the guys can talk to i guess, so they all joke with me and tell me im really good looking and stuff like that...and i always feel so happy. i just wish it was like that all the time.
i dont really have much of a question, this was more to get it all out there...
i guess my question is why would people make fun of me while at the same time im cool and beautiful on the bus? i just really don't understand it. and also what can i do to stop overthinking things? and how to NOT be made fun of like that? if youve got anything else feel free to say it..
and please dont hesitate to say what you really think because i need to know
thanks :) (link)
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This one kind of hits close to home for me. I got made fun of by a group of "plastics" in middle school because I was (and still am) happy and fun 24/7. They always wanted to knock me down because I was so outgoing and hyper all the time. I learned how to stand up for myself. The best advice i can give you is this: Mean girls and guys THRIVE on fear and making people upset. If you show them that poking fun doesn't phase you, they'll eventually move on to another victim! Hope all goes well!
Your friend, Hollywood(:
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So, recently have been having problems with some of my closest friends; one of which is my best friend of 3 years.
One of them, who is not as close, gets angry with me about nothing, then when I bring it up, he calls himself an idiot and tells me not to listen to him when he gets angry with me. But, it happens so often, I'm not sure what to think anymore.
Another is dating a close friend of mine. He spends a lot of time with my best friend, and once I caught them holding hands in a haunted house. He still hasn't broken up with my friend and insists that nothing is going on.
My best friend is always hanging out with another friend of mine and with my other friend's boyfriend. At a school Halloween dance she spent all of her time with another friend and barely looked me in the eye. I've been sick lately, though, and she called me yesterday to tell me that she hoped I felt better soon.
Please, someone help me. I've tried talking to them about it and it's not working. Thanks to any and all that give my plea for help any thought. (link)
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For the first friend, I'd say that for just a little while, give him some space. He might be going through something in his mind that no one really understands. He'll come around. :)
For friend number 2, I'd say to keep an I on him. The way you describe the haunted house issue, he seems like a player to me. Just be careful not to get too involved.
Finally, for your best friend, tell her that you feel like she's been avoiding you. If she says that nothings wrong, you can try one thing. Just be careful with this advice: you can try to give her the 'cold shoulder' bit. If she can't tell you anything, just show her how it feels to be ignored. She'll get the message(:
Hope this helps, and good luck!
Your new friend, Hollywood(:
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theres this guy i really like and i want to know what are some ways to seduce him haha like how can i be more sexy and make him really want me? (link)
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All I can say is "Be cute!"
My guy, for some reason, LOVES it when I play hard to get, use my pouty face, or be sarcastic. Just be a flirt, and if you still flirt with other guys, give this one a little more attention than the others. He'll catch on ;]
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i just recently was dumped by my boyfriend. We decided to be friends and im okay with that. But today he gave me a hug, and when he did he asked (kinda whispered in my ear) if i hated him. i said no(we were still hugging). then he kinda 'embraced' me and looked in my eyes and was like, promise? and i felt my stomach drop and i got kinda weak in the knees and it freaked me out. I didn't know what to do so i said 'okay were too close' and i backed away. i think he was kinda offended by that. I honestly dont think i can trust myself to be that close to him yet. i had the urge to kiss him, and i can't do that anymore. He sent me an email asking what was up with it. Do i tell him the truth? Also what do you guys think of the situation.
Thanks a bunch
lonley_girl (link)
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To me, it sounds like you're still in love with this guy. And the way you describe how he acted during the hug, it seems like he still cares about you too. Maybe after you've had some time to heal, (only if you want to), ask him if you both can try again and rekindle that old romance(:
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