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I know this may sound like a dumb question but I have dark reddish brown hair and really fair skin (like the skin of most redheads) it has pink undertones and it's freckled. Most brunettes I know even if lighter skinned aren't as light skinned as myself...? (link)
If it does not affect your day to day life, then no need for any concern.


So my bf & I met when we were both 18 & got together a couple months later. I had cheated on my previous bf with him, but I felt so bad about that I told the very next day (we just kissed,& it turns out to be my current bf's first kiss), & when I told him he asked why. After my first boyfriend & I broke up after 3 months on & off. Less than a month after we'd been broken up, I started dating the guy I cheated with-who turns out to be my steady bf since late 2010. I took his virginity in January 2011, & all was well for a while. Then he started lying over stupid things (where he was, that he had to go home, who he was with-said he was with his friend Kyle, but he was with a girl he "used" to like,& talk shit on me)..or "forgetting" to tell me things, & making the same promises over and over. It doesn't help that he never seems sincere & using uses a sarcastic or mocking tone, & usually extremely critical of me. I do love him so much,& he's my first,& we have had a lot of good times, but I don't know what to do anymore. Help please?? (link)
If you are not happy with him anymore, leave him. He's just bf, not husband. Relationships, if becomes painful, try giving a break and see if it works. If it does not work then,move on.


I am an 18 year old girl and I have just gotten my heart broken I fell extremely in love with an 18 year old boy who is immature and doesn't value me the way he should. I literally love him more than myself and proven that to him in so many ways but doesn't see that we recently broke up and I am destroyed because I have given everything up in the hopes that I would have a healthy amazing relationship with him we've been together for over a year and a half. god put him in my path he is my soul mate.. But I need him to realize that he needs to value me as the young lady that I am and I need him to grow up. I have faith in God but I am feeling so hopeless right now that contemplating death sounds like the most ideal solution. What can I do to fix not only my emotional state but the problems in life that follow? (link)
Are you married? If not,he's not your soul mate. And don't think of dying as it's not a solution.
Just move on. Maybe someone even better awaits you.


i have lost my virginity how i can get it back? (link)
Do not bother if it doesn't affect any other relationships. There is no way you can get it back.


My bf & I have been together for 11 months. He has quite a temper on him & Sometimes gets really angry & calls me names. It's wrong but because I'm scared of his temper, I sometimes hide things from him or not tell the truth. Usually about small things to spare his feelings (like if he got invited to a party or not)

I've tried telling him about this before but he just doesn't seem to understand that he's part of the problem. I've tried not lying/hiding but he just gets so mad when I tell the truth. Now he won't forgive me & will only do so if I post a status on facebook callingg myself a liar. Is this still love? Is this still worth it? I forgive him for all the awful things he's said to me/called me,.why cn't he forgive me (link)
If you really love him, you shouldn't hide anything from him as it affects trust.
Ask him how the facebook post will solve the matter?


I have been with my boyfriend for almost a year. I love him to death but I have some concerns. He lies a lot not just to me but to everyone. I will find out stuff he hasn't told me through mutual friends. And because of his lying he is losing a lot of friends. Another concern is that my family and friends are not fans. They all say he is a nice guy but I could do better. My dad refuses to even meet him. He is 25 and going back to school the end of this month and just not seems to be getting his shit together. He hasn't had a car for months and it is always on me to pick him up and drive places. If the roles were reversed he would do the same for me but my parents are not ok with the current situation. When I am with my friends I want to break up with him but when I am with him I can't imagine myself without him. I am so 50/50 with this relationship. I don't want to leave him but I feel that it has to be done. Anyone have any advice or input? Does it seem like I am doing it for the better of me or to please family/friends? Should I see if anything changes? So stuck. (link)
The guy lies means you cannot trust him. Trust is most important if you want to grow in a relationship.


what is a painless way to die

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Why not find a way to live? Pain will always be there but suffering is optional.




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