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is there a specail meaning to the song Gasolina i've been wondering this for a long time i know its an old song but what does it mean..because if it doesnt have a meaning its pretty pointless.

ill rate all 5's to people who arnt smart asses.
thanks [ xoxox ]

Yeah, i know what you mean...

I think like the other person has said it is either something sexual or gasolina is someone's name and he is singing about her, i am not too sure really

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i read the advice you gave to todd and i thought it was very interesting. you recommended that he learned a bit about body language. i think that that would help quiet alot in my life to, so i would like to do the same but don't know how. could you please tell me where and how you learned the things about body language that you've learned. did u learn about it through books, on the net or in another way. please reply ...thankz
xxx ange xxx

Well, because i am only 14, i thought it would have been really strange if my parents saw me reading up on body language. So i looked mainly on the internet.

You can find a whole load of web sites about body language by just searching "reading body language" on www.google.com

You can learn some basic stuff from here, but if you want to look further into body language it will have to be from books, in other words you are going have to pay for it wether it being books or an internet site. But yes you can find the basic skills on the internet. I plan to read a few books about body language in the future.

Good to know ive helped :D

Sanj

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i juss got an ipod nano for xmas & im still confused about how you put pictures on it. does anyone know how??

thanks!!

Well, i have an ipod video, they both run through iTunes i think

if it is the same way, you plug it in, when your ipod shows up in itunes, right click it it will display its options.

go to pictures and it should have an option of where you would like to update your pictures from..select the folder press ok and it should upload the pics onto your nano

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Hi everyone!

My name is Todd, and I am a 15-year-old teenager. Well, my question is whether or not I should take the next step. Let me explain.

About close to a year ago, I met this girl, Andrea, in my Freshman year, and she and I didn't date, but we were good friends. We were both the same age, but I was about a month older. Through the months, we knew more and more about each other from our last names to what candy we like.

As strange as it seems, I've never had a relationship, much less my first kiss. I am trying to see if Andrea likes me or not, but more than a friendship. Some relationships can be harsh, so I don't want to try that, but I just want to know if she has the same or at least similar feelings that I do for her.

I am always glad to be around her, and sometimes I hang around her more than some of my other friends. I've also noticed that when I am with her at lunch, she wants these other girls at the table to go away, since they're annoying, but I'm not sure if it's just because she wants to be alone with me or something, since she and I usually sit alone.

As far as hanging out goes, she and I have hung out at my home once, and we've seen each other at school. I've been trying to hang out with her more, but she has a dysfunctional family which makes it tough for us to hang out on weekends. She is also depressed, so I try to help her through it.

I have been trying to show her that I love her by telling her that I care about her, how much I do care about her, and by doing things for her, like buying her gifts or getting things for her. Whoa, lot of "her"s in that one. Well, anyway, she never freaks out, but she always smiles and sometimes nods her head up and down a little bit. She might say things like "that's nice" or "thanks", but I never really can tell if she is nervous or anxious. I remember when I told her that I did really care about her, she smiled but she kind of laughed, and she said "I'm sorry for laughing...".

So, I would like to ask if I should take the next step and try asking her out. My parents have said I shouldn't because of her family, and some of my friends have said to go for it, just because she's single.

Thanks for reading this.

Todd

Well Todd,

I have read what you have to say, i am 14 years old, and i can see exactly where you are coming from, i have sort of been in a similar situation.

From what i have read, you and this girl definatly have some sort of connection. What happens from here can lie in your hands, you see for the past few months i have been reasearching many different things. One thing that i found very useful was body language, if you master the art of readin body language it can help you by knowing exactly what the other person is thinking or feeling without them having to tell you. I suggest maybe a little look into reading body language can be very useful to you. It may open your eyes to see what she is really feeling.

It is obvious from what you have written that you would like to take it to the next step otherwise you would have never written in asking for advice on what to do. I believe that your parents, her parents, your friends or anybody for that matter shouldnt control what you do and how you feel about her. If you feel as if you want to take it a step further then go for it, just dont do it because someone has influenced you. I am saying this from experiance, it can end badly, trust me.

I think it is good that you are always there for her in her time of need, this is crucial if you are going to gain her trust, no i am not saying you should just be there to get with her, but be there for yourself, like you would not like to get anything out of helping her..if that makes sence.

As you have mentioned disfunctional family, this can cause a problem. I know many people whos families have got in the way of their relationships, just make sure you know that you are able to deal with any problems that this relationship could cause you from the other family. It is always best to be on the good side of the family, as it can have many advantages. Rather being on the bad side can get you into trouble and having a girls parents on you case while you are trying to get their daughter isnt exactly the best way to go about it, so just make sure you know what you are doing

In my lifetime, i have liked many girls, but very few i have felt really strongly about, i have acted how i thought neccesary, and went with whatever happened. Till this day i still look back and try and learn from everything that i did wrong. I have found that telling a girl you like her can sometimes work for you, but only if she feels the same way back, otherwise it can go a little wrong from there. Even sometimes jumping ahead of things and asking someone out straight away can work in your favour or can go against you. I have also found using body language in this case can come in very handy, from this you can see if any attraction is going on between you and you will be able to send out the right signals. I have come up with a 7 day plan to get a girl, :D. Took me a while but still needs to be tested properly. Another option you can take is slowly try and "woo" her. Like make suttle moves indicating that you like her. If it is going to happen then she will respond back and you both will end up going out. But obviously you know her alot better than i do so you have to deicde yourself how to approach the situation.

I strongly reccomend looking into body language though. Hope i have helped

Sanj

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