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Q: Mkay so Im 14/F
Freshy in Highschool
Im not teased AT ALL about my weight
Im about 208lbs?
Question: HOW do I get a flat stomach?
How do I get ride of thigh fat
& arm flab?

I really like this guy
I wanna change for him
& dont give my crap about that
Just give me advice

Thanks in advance
first, it's gonna take rock solid will power...and you might be surprised how much running will actually do for you..you won't notice at first because it'll take time for your metabolism to adapt, but after about 2 or 3 weeks you'll start to see steady results..DIET: no sodas, only water...no fast food, greens, even if you hate them...lean meat: chicken(has 0 carbs and plenty protein for lean muscle), low fat ham..cheese, but not too much..its all good on salads..cut back on bread..for BREAKFAST: 2 eggs, a slice of toast, or make a ham and cheese omelet. good luck and do some more research yourself.

Q: yesterday, my boyfriend and i had sex for the first time. we were both virgins. we used a condom, and it did not break. i dont even think my cherry was popped all the way. but when he took his cock out, he had a little cum on it. it touched the tip of my vagina. were not sure if it even went in, we just know it was right there. he did not fully "bust a nut", he just 'came' a little. is there ANY way i could get pregnant? were so scared. i think half of this is because we are both virgins and we dont know a lot about sex, but it wouldnt hurt just to make sure.
if you're really worried about it, go to a clinic and get the morning after pill..it's called "plan B"
and also ask for birth control pills..i recommend "yaz"

Q: Thanks for ur answer. But tell me after i get divorced..will i be able to stand infront of the world. because i dont divorce i will be mentally sick and dead because of that girl. my family is also sick n tired on this girl. so wat will happen in future? should i be able to go without women in my whole life? please advice!!!
well the bible did say that you should not divorce someone or else you are forcing them to commit adultery..but in your case, no one has to know..have you filed for divorce already or is it illegally..what has she done to make you and your family suffer...well i don't know what will happen in the future, it's really up to you..you can go without women, but nobody wants to be alone forever

Q: Now I have come to the final stage of my life, because all the decisions I have taken in my life is wrong. Also I can’t say all of them are wrong because I had some obstacles and it came from my family. Even I can’t go with my decision and also I can’t ignore my family. No one understood me in my life. I am having a good career but career is not all in life as I haven’t found a peaceful day in my life. I have lost all my happiness when I came to abroad. I have tried to get back to my country but my parents didn’t let get back. So I have decided to suicide in life. Everyone I know in my surroundings betrayed with me. I assumed if I get married I will be satisfied and finally I got married with a greedy girl 3 moths ago who has destroyed my life and I am getting divorce soon. I have tried to manage her but she was impossible for me now people in this bloody world will point out me as a bad one. I feel sorry for my parents as they have tried a lot for me. I think I am getting mentally sick. GOD please…take me off from this world….I need to sleep forever and ever. Please please please. But I will miss my little brother, he is really cute. I love him so much. Is it possible to get die while I am sleeping? I have hurt myself a lot and that’s why I don’t want to hurt myself anymore. I don’t understand, why GOD sent me to this world if GOD can’t let me live happily in this selfish world.
God knew you before you were born..he put you in this world because you have something to give..i was suicidal for a while but i'm fine now..i think you could live without a woman but if you think that's what you need..she'll come to you..make new friends, trust no one. evil put obstacles in you way, to test you..don't fall, keep going..besides, what if something good was supposed to happen to you right after you committed suicide..take chances...here's something i want you to read..it's really long but it's worth it:This is from me to you. This is the truth. How many times have my wishes and my dreams and my prayers for you hidden beneath my breath? How many times have i looked at you, heart in my throat, hands in my pockets, a smile on my face, just wanting to say..I HOPE YOU NEVER LOSE YOUR SENSE OF WONDER. What is hope? To want? To desire? To expect that what's envisioned may indeed happen? YES to all of the above. Is hope that gut feeling that it's worth holding out and hanging on for just a little longer? ABSOLUTELY. Is hope the core of the human condition? CERTAINLY. Can you have hope without faith and humility and wonder? THAT'S TOUGH. Just the thought that there's something bigger, something truer, something totally surprising out there waiting for us is...priceless. What would you be without hope growing deep in your bones, thriving in every inch of you? NOTHING. What does it take to hope? EVERYTHING. Hope takes never ceasing to be amazed...Wearing your soul on your sleeve...Holding your breath, waiting to hear "I love you, too..." Believing that tomorrow could be better than today...That you'll get a second chance...that you'll make a difference...that you matter. YOU GET YOUR FILL TO EAT BUT ALWAYS KEEP THAT HUNGER. Hunger is the wanting: to see more, to feel more, to touch more, to crave, desire, search out, find, hold more. And sometimes hunger hurts more. But go on, go west, young man, young woman. Plow the land, plant the seeds, grow the food for the whole wide world. MAY YOU NEVER TAKE ONE SINGLE BREATH FOR GRANTED. So breathe out and breathe in (and soak it all up). GOD FORBID LOVE EVER LEAVE YOU EMPTY-HANDED..but if it does, may it leave you patient and stronger, willingand wiser, tender and tougher. I HOPE YOU STILL FEEL SMALL WHEN YOU STAND BESIDE THE OCEAN. If you're ever lying on a beach with 80 billion grains of sand beneath you, 700 thousand ocean waves before you, 60 million stars stretched out above you, and you're still not at all impressed, I want you to think about this: The light you see reflecting from the stars is over one million years old. WOW. But then, just before you start to feel like a mere blip in the gigantic scheme of things, please remember this: Yes, you are small, but you're also irreplaceable and invaluable and miraculous. Those stars don't have anything on you. WHENEVER ONE DOOR CLOSES I HOPE ONE MORE OPENS. DOORS..Holes in walls that offer us a way out or a way in. Just putting your hand on the knob and seeing if it turns can make you weak in the knees. What if it's locked? What if it's unlocked? What if no one answers? What if someone does? What if the hinges creak and the heavy wood swings open and you're suddenly standing at the threshold of a brand new tomorrow? What if your horizon is nothing but blue clear skies? What if it's a raging storm? What if ? What if? What if? PROMISE ME THAT YOU'LL GIVE FAITH A FIGHTING CHANCE. A PROMISE IS ALL ABOUT FAITH. A PROMISE IS ONLY AS STRONG as your own faith in your own self, in your own god. So when you swear, in light of your strengths and in spite of your weaknesses, to struggle and follow through, you are doing a beautiful thing. AND WHEN YOU GET THE CHOICE TO SIT IT OUT OR DANCE..I HOPE YOU DANCE. Let the music move you, let the moment take your hand, let it lead you out into the middle of the dance floor and embrace you. Dive off the high board, Ride with the top down, Thrive like a wildflower, and sing (who cares what you sound like) with a voice all your own. I HOPE YOU NEVER FEAR THOSE MOUNTAINS IN THE DISTANCE..It's crossing your fingers when the map doesn't know truly north from truly lost; and it's up to you-you and your gut and your mettle, and your level of resilience, and your wealth of wisdom-to persevere. To get to the other side. To hope. NEVER SETTLE FOR THE PATH OF LEAST RESISTANCE. (That's too easy. What follows is too interesting.) LIVING MIGHT MEAN TAKING CHANCES, BUT THEY'RE WORTH TAKING. Ask Eve. Evolve. Take a chance, take a ticket, take a fast train to the coast. No guts, no glory. Chance (n.): a coin with two sides that one tosses into the air as many times as one wants. The odds remain the same.....It's risky breathing, let alone needing, trusting, reachng out. Life is the leap of faith, the bold declaration of Hope. ATTENTION THIS IS REALLY BIG STUFF! THIS IS THE CRUX OF THE WHOLE ADVENTURE! LOVING MIGHT BE A MISTAKE, BUT IT'S WORTH MAKING...love, love, love. You have to love, and if you don't get love right, you have to move on and forgive. And then you have to remember that you've forgiven, or else you can't move on. And if you don't move on, you'll surely end up...bitter.DON'T LET SOME HELL-BENT HEART LEAVE YOU BITTER (AND DON'T SAY I DIDN'T WARN YOU)...There are too many people too angry at a world that isn't in the least bit angry at them...WHEN YOU COME CLOSE TO SELLING OUT, RECONSIDER.. YOU (a haiku) one worth so much to me, to us, to life as such. A bowl of cherries. GIVE THE HEAVENS ABOVE MORE THAN JUST A PASSING GLANCE. Heaven(n.) : (1) a place somehow high above the clouds, yet deep inside your soul; (2) a place of complete peace, of total and utter happiness; (3) a place that is greater than the sum of everything you will ever be or could ever imagine to be; (4) a place we all want to get to, but just not yet.... no not yet. AND WHEN YOU GET THE CHOICE TO SIT IT OUT OR DANCE...(AS YOU NOW WELL KNOW) I HOPE YOU DANCE..I hope you dance because Time. Time is a wheel. Time is a wheel in constant motion always rolling us along. Tell me who wants to look back on their years and wonder...Where their years have gone. Ah, youth...new skin, wide smiles, clear eyes..the future so bright. If only we could bottle it, sip it now and again, and stay forever twenty-one, forever ten, forever five. I liked being five. But I'd also like to think that time and age are like cousins- they're relative. Who said you have to go by actual miles? If you didn't know how old you were, how old would you be? (me, I'm sticking with five.) I'll even argue that you can bottle youth. What you store it in is all up to you. (I suggest your heart.) If you can figure out a way to keep the energy and gumption and fire alive, you'll always stay young. And where there's youth, there's hope...where there's hope, there's wonder...where there's wonder, there's faith...where ther's faith, there's chance...where there's chance, there's love...where there's love, there's music...and dancing..So in my heart of hearts ..I HOPE YOU DANCE..I REALLY HOPE YOU DANCE..AMEN. WAIT...Promise me one more thing: if tomorrow you wake up feeling unoriginal or frail-hearted or faithless or tired of this world please start back up top..(or just message me) This book was written by Mark D. Sanders & Tia Sillers

Q: Ok so there is this guy that I dated last year but had to break up with him because of parents. They told me not to talk to him just hi bye stuff only. But i talk to him anyway but got caught txtn him so he cant text me but we talk at school. Anyway he told me that he loved me and other stuff, but my friend(i guess you could call her that) asked me if she should date him and that he told her that he liked her A LOT. So last month i told her to ask him if her still liked her because he told me that he didn't like her. She asked and he said yes that he still liked her. So I yelled at him and asked him why he lied to me. He said i'm sorry what can i do to make you still like me. Then he said I won't even talk to her. So i said ok. Well he asked me to kiss him like 2 days ago I said maybe. I never did but my friend asked me again if she should date him because he asked her again. So I told her he said he liked me. Then she asked him who he liked more and he said her. And I BET money that if i asked him that he'd say me. So I am really confused now because this guy lied to me and told me that he loved me and that i was the only girl he liked, but told her that he liked her more. I don't want to ask him but I AM SO MAD. Help me!!
let him go..guys like that aren't even worth it..i was in your friend's spot before and i was stupid for it..except he didn't tell my best friend that he liked her, he told her he liked me and she was crazy about him, but i went out with him anyway..i regret it..anyway, there's other fish in the sea.. i don't know you but you and anyone deserves better than that.

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