I am 17, living in New England.
I have a brother (6) and a sister (11) and two parents who I get along with really well. (it's not always easy!)
I like writing poetry and music. I play piano and guitar (and a little bass). I love reading, shopping, and being stupid with my friends and my boyfriend.
I like giving advice because I love writing, connecting with people, and sharing things I've learned.
Ask me anything and I'll try and help! :-)
Some areas of expertise: long distance relationships (my boyfriend is 3 states away at college!), family stuff (I have learned how to tame parents, haha!), messy breakups, makeup tips, and anything about clothes!
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IM 14 yrs old and i have a pretty bad life. Im not suicidal or anything. Ive had a pretty bad past. My brother andrew hurts me he will kick me in the stomach and ribs and yell at me and it got so bad my mom called the cops. He threatend me and my moms life. I called him in detention (kids jail) and he said there was nothing to be said to me and he wants nothing to do with me and he will never find away to forgive me or forget. Now he is being senet away. my mom is never home. I told her we need some serious talking to do and we need to talk It took a long time to come out of that shell and tell her that. She just told me she has to go to her boyfriends house. I was shocked. She leaves me for her BOYFRIEND. When her own daughter needs help! I was in treatment i was sent away for 5 months. Nothing really changed over that. Im not a virgin the only reason why is because i feel thats the only thing that makes me feel wanted. Just to be "loved" for that period of time. I was thinking of the long run. Now my friend offered me to live with her for as long as i needed. To sort things out. Me and my friend had some pretty ruff times we actually we're best friends but i screwed up and that ended it but she was still there for me. So she offered a home for me. Shes not into that stuff sex, drugs, or drinking. Im trying to get away from that but its hard. Like i said... i feel like i belong then. SO how do i tell my mom that i want to just not leave her but i need a break. For a bit. my friend said that we could get both of our moms together and me and her would sit down and we would talk it out. I dont want my mom to think she is a bad mother i just need a "mother" figure there for me that i can talk to. And wont leave on me when i need help. So help me please. This is and maybe a change of life. (link)
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First of all, be thankful that you have a great friend to help you! That is so rare.
Bad habits can be hard to break, but try and remember the consequences of your actions every time you have impulsive sex, use drugs, or drink. An important thing to keep in mind is that you can only control your reaction in life. Your circumstances are not going to be controllable, but how you react to them is. Reacting to your hard situation with courage and as much responsibility as you can will be the only thing you can do besides accepting your friend's help. Things will not get easier right away, but consistently making the right choices will make you happier in the end.
I suggest you accept your friend's offers for living with her and other help she might offer.
I hope this helps.
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I like this guy that goes to another school and he's older, but really cute and nice and everything else there is to be. I see him at church and if I smiled at him or something, would he get a hint or anything? I look at him a lot and sometimes he looks back but would it be better if I smiled? And sometimes to attract attention, my friends act dumb and stuff but would it be better to act normal and not mess up and stuff? Is there any other tips to flirting or anything else I should know besides all this other stuff? Thanks (link)
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It is absolutely better to act normal. Think about how all the stupid stunts and fake-hating guys do when they like girls. A little confusing, huh?
Treat him like you would someone you want to be friends with. Smile, maybe strike up a conversation or have a friend help you two start talking. Ask questions about what he likes, his family, stuff like that. A great ice breaker is to compliment something he is wearing/does well. Just remember he's a person just like you with feelings and insecurities and interests. Think about how you'd want to be talked to and remember that he's probably a little nervous too.
Good luck and remember...there are plenty of guys left if this one doesn't work out. :-)
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my boobs are uneven one of them is smaller. i have to wear padded bras to make them even! is this normal?thanks appriciate it (link)
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This is totally normal!
In rare cases, some girls have breasts that are extremely disproportionate. (Think one is a teeny little A and the other is a C or bigger) However, in most cases, a little uneveness is totally okay.
Wanna know something really cool? Hardly anyone notices except you! I can almost guarantee it. Think about how closely you analyze other people's boobs? Haha, does that put it in perspective? If you're concerned about guys, remember that (no offense to all you who possess a Y chromosome) they can be pretty oblivious. In most cases of slightly unbalanced breasts (I happen to be the same way!) you can hardly tell unless you look at both from each side and think about it. :-) If you don't mention it, nobody will even think to analyze it!
So don't stress! If a padded bra makes you feel better, then wear one. But don't let this little insecurity run your life.
Oh, and if you do by any chance happen to have an imbalance of a cup or more, see your doctor. They can help you discuss plastic surgery which repairs girls with this problem safely and effectively every year.
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