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So I'm looking to get my first tattoo next month. I'm having a really difficult time trying to figure out what I want. I don't want it huge but I don't want a real small one either. Also I want it to have meaning. Nobody has died that's close to me and its too weird to put my family on my body. What would be some good ideas for me? I'm looking to get it on my back somewhere. I don't really like the classic tattoos, you know hearts and crosses and stuff. I love animals, dirtbikes, my family, my bestfriend. I'm somewhat of a country girl. Any ideas, general or specific, would be helpful.
PLEASE & THANK YOU! (link)
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For the size, the artist will acutally take the layout you print off and make a small, medium, large stencils and trace were you want it and see if you like the size. At first I wanted mine small, but when he traced it were I wanted it, I realized I wanted it bigger :P
for the symbolism, maybe look up "symbolic meanings of animals" or objects. Mine is an Native American wolf, because it represents my love for solitude, culture, mysteriousness, all the qualities that represent me.
and maybe sketch out random things that represent you (feather=freedom, or a circle=family/unity) and take your time dont rush, that thing is gonna be on you forever
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I just watched the Asians in the Library video by that UCLA girl and I just feel so sad, depressed, and suicidal now. Why do people have to be like this? (link)
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I watched it to, people do this because they maybe want to call attention to themselves or want to feel better about themselves :P
And this girl's facts are wayy off, I mean I'm American and I sometimes use my cell in the library hahah personally, I think she wants attention...it's finals week maybe she wants some sorta confident booster.
And please don't take this personally, you shouldn't be feeling this way over it, she didn't specifically single YOU out :P love who you are, there will be people who are gonna hate NO body is perfect-thank goodness. she is just simply being an airhead :) but please love who you are, you can't let this one person ruin that
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My boyfriend and I have been dating for two months. We've been friends for a while though. We are around each other almost 24 7 and if not together we are on the phone.
Sometimes I think about it. I know his likes, his dislikes, where he's from, his middle name, etc, but I feel like I do not know him enough for real. It doesn't scare me, because we have the perfect chemistry, but I want to know him more without crazy questions like a dating site!
Any tips? (link)
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ah I know what ya mean :P if you want to get to know him on a deeper level. Try asking him about his past. maybe bring it up like: "ah, I miss/do not miss being a kid, don't you? I had a great (or terrible childhood. what was your's like?"
The key is to offer something about yourself in order to get something in return, so that way he recognizes you trust him enough to open up to him, and therefore do the same. Even your deepest insecurity can help him open up. So if your doing a 20 questions thing, it doesn't have to be crazy..so like "what's your biggest fear? Mine is I won't reach my parents expectations)
(or whatever you want it to be)
Be patient with him, read his body language to. If he reacts uncomfortable around a subject then be careful. Having deep convos is great 'cause then the person reveals who they really are, their morals/ideas/values
good luck:)
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Recently iv been having some mental issues (looong story) and now that im over the depression and feeling happier generally getting back to how i was a few months ago, i was telling my freind what was on my mind and remembered a few things about back in school like when i had these dreams about Dark figures pulling me towards them without resistance no matter what i tryed.
If you'v ever seen the game "Shadow of the collosus" you'll get what i mean when huge shadow'y figures pull me towards them, the main figures outline were like those monsters on the game.
There was also another dream i had when i was with one of my old school mates outside his house doing somthing and this car drives past and i run back in to the house the man in the car chased me untill he had my leg locked up with my face pressed in to the stairs, my friend and his family were stood behind me for ages just chatting about what was happening quite calmly while i was still on the floor obviously struggling for help.
there's a couple of other times i'v had dreams like this but its only happend 3 times in my life.
Im 19 Male. any other info needed? (link)
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I can totally relate and I've had experience with depression and dreaming as well :)
So what I usually do is keep a dream journal-ya I know it's cheesy, but I then try and analyze the symbolism and see what's going on inside. I could be TOTALLY wrong but maybe these shadow's are trying to drag you back into your past, that you are tying to run away from (I could be wayy off). It depends on how you were feeling at the time. Excited, nervous, scared, confused, happy etc. emotions are the key.
As for your recent dream, maybe there's some truth that you dont wanna face- your trapped, struggling, yet people are just talking to you, maybe trying to tell you something.
Again I can be way off, but try keep a journal :) I'm 19 as well and still do it
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i went to a party ,it was in a hotel// and i kinda GOT LOST with this guy. and we were holding hands..oh by the way we were alone .. we were walking i sat on his lap. he tried to kiss me but i refuese. He was touching me and told me that he wanted to DO ME. then he was on top of me ohh nd we were on the floor. We didnt do nuthing. he was on top of me toching me and then well a guy came saw us i stoped stand up and i told him we should go back to the party..I WAS REALLY HAVING FUN WITH HIM ...So we went back to the party and like 10 minutes later i saw him kissing another girl and dis girl give him a hickie i acted like i didnt care.. thats why i dance with this guy we danced perreo and i kinda lap dance him...I KNOW he was looking. i talk to him on facebook and he said it was my decision if i wanted to do it with him...THAT MADE ME FEEL BAD. the he said some really nice words in facebook. but i dont know if that was for me or her!!! **my friend show me a message asking her if i liked him... idk please help me!! DOES HE JUST WANT ME FOR SEX?! OR WAT?!!! I REALLY LIKE THIS GUY!! but im afraid if i do it with him imight get pregnent!! i noe diz is really stupid. i been liking this guy for like 2 years already!!!!
OHH AND IM 15 YEARS OLD! (link)
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awh I'm so sorry :/ but yes he would just rather use you for sex. When you two were alone, if he really cared about you, he would NEVER take advantage of you, or kiss a girl right in front of you.
Weather he's "talking nice" to you on fb or off, then he's manipulating you, like a cheater does to get his girl back and win her over again. If I were you I would move on. There are so many respectful guys out there, just keep true to yourself and you'll attract the right ones.
In a way be grateful this happened, because NOW you know what he's capable of
And good for you for standing up for yourself :D that's tough, shows you what you really want and that you can keep a guy in line
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Well, we are both in high school and we recently started dating. We both like each other as much as we both can. Almost love. He recently told me he wasn't a virgin. And that kind of really bothered me. We are talking it out and I think I just need some time to get used to it. Naturally, I am a little bit insecure. But this just didn't settle well in my stomach. I guess I assumed he was a virgin because he's really sweet. And I should not have assumed this in the first place. But the girl he had sex with he says it wasn't good and short-lived. It was a few years ago and she told him he was her second which was a lie and he was actually her fourth. That concerns me because of STD's. Well, I'm not sure why I am reacting so badly to this usually I am pretty chill maybe it was the sudden shock of it that I wasn't expecting. I'm pretty tough to break and this just broke me. I never thought that it would matter. And it's actually really weird why this is upsetting me. We are talking about it and he feels really bad and I accept his apologies because I do like him so much still. And I will get over it. I just want to know is it normal how I am feeling? Or am I just being a p*ssy? Thanks, please be easy on me.
Forget abstinence that isn't any part of my question and not what I want to hear. I guess I'm just sad that we can't do this together. And that he won't think of it as special as I do. (link)
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Besides all your other feelings, you are probably feeling scared, and no you are not a wuss! This doesn't mean he's some player ready to break your heart. Even the nicest guys in the world aren't always virgins.
So what your feeling is normal. I think your expectations are a bit to high, like you expected him as some kinda clean cut never drank-smoke-had sex guy. Just remember that no guy is perfect and it could always be worse. If what the other girl says sounds shady/ off then don't listen to her, she's old news. And ALWAYS trust your gut so if you still like him, then dont be afraid
And you might be incredibly disappointed that he's not your "first". But that doesn't mean you can't do it with him ( even though I've been out of high school for only 2yrs I'm not encouraging you to have sex with him while still in highschool, but it's your choice) And there are many more guys out there that you can save to be your first.
I never had sex in high school 'cause I wanted/and still do to wait till marriage. So if the guy I marry has already done it, then I need to respect that
The relationship is what matters the most
good luck:)
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I know it sounds ridiculous but all I can think about at the moment is getting married. I haven't even got a boyfriend and I'm only 19 but it's got to the point where I am actually researching venues and dresses and planning it in my head.
I'm planning the next few years of my life based around when I want to meet my future husband, get engaged and get married. I'm putting far too much pressure on myself and it's starting to bother me. My friends have started to find it weird too and don't think it's a good idea to be so set on one thing but the idea of not getting married in the near future terrifies me.
How can I stop obsessing over this and stop worrying about it? (link)
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This is very normal, but you should stop :P life still has so much to offer and time has a way of working it's self out. Try and stay in the present. I am the same age as you are, and I want to experience gradually growing into an adult before I settle down, and I know I'm not ready to to walk the aisle. And you don't want to rush :P rushing usually leads to disaster because you really haven't "lived" enough to have an idea how to manage a HOUSE and MONEY on your own when the guy is far from ready to.
SO just stay in the present remind yourself the time will come, when it feels right, not when you feel you must make haste. Then think of what you have yet to experience; college, seeing more of the world and adult stuff like that. And try and imagine that if you were going to get married what responsibilities you will have to take care of: MONEY, JOB, POTENTIAL KIDS, RAISING KIDS, TRYING TO GO TO SCHOOL, A HOUSE, TAKING CARE OF THE HOUSE, HOUSE PAYMENTS...and ask if yourself if you are ready for all that
Also know that the guy you will merry is walking the earth as I type, and he will come in to your life when the time is right. good luck:)
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i've been friends with this girl for a few months now and ive known her cousin,anthony, for almost a year. i never really had the time to talk to him because i was with my longterm boyfriend who ended up cheating on me a couple of months ago. so i've been single for a while and i associate with a lot of people at school i've never even noticed before (my ex got kicked out too) and it's pretty great. No, I'm not a flirt but if you were to see me a few months ago I was always with my boyfriend and he didn't like me talking to everyone, now if you see me i'm always talking to everybody. well I used to talk to anthony every great once in a while while i was taken but now i talk to him a lot and i've grown to like him as more than a friend and it seems like he likes me too because everyone always tell us we always flirt with each other. i don't even notice because i get soo nervous when I'm with him and my mind goes blank haha. My friend hasn't been at school so she doesnt know but i'm planning on telling her. What are some questions I can ask Anthony to get to know him better? What would be the best way to tell me friend I like him? I don't think she'll mind since she just found out he was her cousin a few weeks ago and they don't really talk. Any other advice about Anthony will be greatly appreciated. Thank you guys in advance! :) (link)
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If you want to tell your friend, just simply say; hey I just want to let you know that I have feelings for your cousin. She prob won't mind.
As for Anthony, let everything flow naturally. Ask about what he's into, hobbies, interests, but also reveal something about yourself as well. And you don't have to ask questions, just talk. That's were you get a sense of whom the other person is.
And if your really stuck on what to ask: http://www.isavo.net/
good luck:)
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