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Q: All of the "cool girls" at my school do drugs. All of the guys like them b/c they are easy. This guy I like only likes easy drug girls and I don't kow what to do to make him like me! Help!

DONT START DOING DRUGS!!!!!!

they are horrible they tare ppl apart make you do stupid thing and make you act strange. some drugs will make you forget what you did the night befor and some can even KILL YOU SO DONT DO THEM!!!

2end every boy likes an ez girl but mostly they only like them cuz there 'practice girls' like there a good starter and never make a good long term girl maybe you should talk to him and get to know him and then when you start to feel more 'safe' like you can talk to him and not get all nervous try to ask him out its not the 18th century girls can ask boys out so don't be a fade to

Q: This might be long but please read it. Thanks.
Sometimes I think there is something wrong with me. Im 13/F. For a long period of time I liked this guy named Liam. I couldn't think of anyone else, I talked about him, I loved everything about him. We were really close and he was like a best friend to me. I trusted him with everything and he kept everything. He helped me through alot. We also flirted alot.

Then this month he seemed to avoid me, make fun of me and just be a different person. I was somewhat the same after a while. We are still friends but were not like always together like we used to. When im at home if I accidently see a picture of me and him I just say "idiot" or something like that while before I used to always smile. Same with if he comes online. BUT when I see Liam at school I get butterflys and want to talk to him. I love when he's near me but I hate whenever he flirts with others infront of me. But whenever hes not around I cant think I like him my mind wont accept it.

Lately I sometimes act as if I like other guys to. When im with them I feel good but never as much as Liam. I trust another guy alot but I dont know if I like him.

Whats wrong with me? Why am I like this?

i don't think anything is wrong with you.
you just like him.
and i bet he is acting so weird cuz he found out how you feel and he is just confused by it or some thing cuz like you said you use to hang out allot and be great friends so maybe that all he wanted or maybe he likes you and is scared to admit it. so like most men he's ganna be a jerk and act like he doesn't like you.

Q: Can anyone PLEASE tell me where i can check the balance of my gift cards for the following cards...
- Commerce Bank Visa
- American Express Gift Card
- Vanilla Visa Gift Card
- Abercrombie and Fitch
- Victoria's Secret
I really appreciate any help you can give me, but please to tell me to google it, or to check the website...

Thanks SO much!!

call the # on the back of the card you can call it and then the lady/robot thing on the other end will walk you threw it all it mad ez.

Q: Okey well all my friends are all most the sam,
well when it comes two this.

okey so thay ask me if i can do something & if i cant ill tell them and say where on the phone & the`ll be like OH well i gotta go or just stop talking. or be like can i call you back later & never call me backk

im a a suckkyyy friend?

no your not.
& if you cant do something or if you don't want to do something you don't have to.

as for the phone call endings it just kinda like the way most ppl are. but if they don't call you back then most likely they for got to or if it happens ever time they say it then be like "hay how come you never call'd me back???": or something like that.

hope i helped =]]

Q: do girls mastrabate as much as guy? do u? how often?

yeah they do but they don't admit to it as much as guys do.

and yes i do,
and when ever, i don't have any specific time frame i just do it.

Q: I'm a teenager who is single and completely miserable and hating it. I can't get a boyfriend because i'm so overweight. Everyone is automatically unattracted to me because I'm so fat. No one wants to date a fatass like me.

I want to commit sucide, but I don't want to have the pain. And I'd be afraid to anyway. So what should I do?

I've seen several therapists and counselors about my depression but they don't help.

look you probably artnt that fat and you mostliky have a secret admirer out there some were live you teenage years to the fullest don't worry about what other ppl say and don't worry about finding a boy right away sooner or later a guy will ask you out

and if you think your fat maybe you should go on a diet or exersiz more or look in the merer and pick out things you like about you self be vary positive and don't believe in what every one says?

If you think your really clinically depressed the talk to some one about taking anti depression meds.

Q: Hi ! I'm 13 and I want to know...can I divoirce my parents or something god I just want to block them out of my life all together tips advice or suggestions ?

you could get emancipated which is basically the same thing but before you do anything like that think VARY hard do you relay want to be out all alone i meen when you think about it there may be times when you want to get rid of them but you have to remember they love you and you love them. so i would not recommend it at all but if you have thought about and talked it over emancipation is the way to go lol but it is a very serous thing u cant just be like okay by and the be like i changed my mind when its over so like i said think VARY HARD!!!

Q: okay i met and amazing girl this year and i would do anyhting for her but latly it seems lyke shes growing apart from me and it hurts i feel lyke she is trying to replace me with someone else and i love her alot. and i know i've made many mistakes and ticked her of alot but thats just who i am. and i know i cna be amazingly cligy but thats how i was when i was little too. i love this girl very much and seeing us part would be horrible for me.

well maybe you and her should try to talk and if she doesn't want to talk then give her some space maybe she's not use to having people always there for her and people that expect her there to be there for them just talk it out or give her time to chill and get use to the way you are,and some times cligy people can get in there way of other friendships/relationships so maybe you should try to be a little less cligy or even just find another person to leen on some times so she doesn't think that your problems have to become her problems.

good luck and i hope you can fix you and your friends issue if you need more help or have any questions ask me kk=]

Q: i am a 12 year old male and my girlfriend and i have been going out seince new years eve and we think we are ready for sex. we have everything we need(condoms)
do u think we should?

i don't think you should because your only 12 and you have only been dating for 3 months maybe you should wate a few years be for you think about sex or at lest a few more months and maybe you should talk to your parents about sex and make sher you know all the risk of sex like STDs and pregnancy(not you her obviously lol) but seriously think it thew and talk about it with your parents.

but in my personal opinion i think you are way to young to be having sex.

Q: Im 5'3 and weigh 130 Some of my friends will be like yah ur kinda fat and i try to let it go but it really hurts. I have tried to go on diets and work out but what ever i lose i gain back like double it sucks I FEEL SO FAT! PLEASE HELPO ME!

Too fat!

okay first 130 and 5'3 is not fat it's just around the wight of the average 5'3 person and second if your friends are calling you fat then there not that great of friends. and if you really want to lose wight start slowly like try eating heather by cutting some of the fattier foods out of you diet and replace them with veggies and walking every day or working out.

Q: I am 14 and i have never had a Boyfriend or my first kiss!!! i want one so bad, but no one likes me!!!

don't worry to much about it i meen your only 14 and you have your hole life ahead of you to get a boy friend and a kiss:)

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