Hello my name is Chrissie and a lot of people call me the latest Dear Abby. I give advice to anyone who needs it whether it be friends, family, or strangers. I've been giving advice on the internet for a little while now and just recently I've found this. So please feel free to ask me anything. I'm not just an advice columnist but I'm a friend :-).
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My friend and I have been growing apart, you know it happens. Well, she has other freinds that I know, and some are my actual friends. And now that me and her aren't that good of freinds anymore, I am worried she is going to tell her friends all of my secrets I told her in the past. What should I do? (link)
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Hey. If this girl was your good friend and you feel she is going to go around telling your secrets then I don't think she's a very good friend. The other friends won't like her telling other people's secrets and they will probably see her as untrustworthy so I wouldn't worry about it. Don't talk about her when you're around your other friends either because they will think you're just as bad :-(. Just go about hanging with your new friends/old good friends or if you are really worried, talk to your friend. Say I know we're not as close as we used to be but can we start off new? Want to come over tommorrow? If she says yes, great, if she says know oh well no matter. Or if you don't want to be her friend again which is okay too, say, but please don't tell my secrets because I would never tell yours. I really hope this works my friend and please give me feedback :-).
Chrissie
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i have been freinds with this girl, staci, for a long time. and this year we have been drifting away a little but still freinds, just not as close. well i introduced her to one of my really good friends, heather. well now staci is trying to steal heather away from me. she always does it, but this time it's gone too far. heather is one of my bfs! what should i do? talk to staci? what should i say? i want her and heather to stay freinds but i dont want staci to steal heather from me! (link)
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Hey. I get this scenario so much and it's really common which stinks. Actually this happened to me once so don't feel bad. But anyways I like to call these types the "hoggers". They hang around with someone you introduce them to and then stop calling you who introduced them in the first place!
Well you have to get Heather back and talk to Staci nicely. If she gets upset just explain how you feel (upset and hurt too). Maybe she will say she's not trying to steal Heather you're just jealous which is a very common remark but just tell her you want to remain friends and not fight. Explain that you would be happy if all of you could hang out together but she's leaving you out and it's not very nice. If she still gets angry I would try to take a break from her and I know it might hurt at first but after a while you will be glad.
As for Heather, stay friends with her (best friends still) but don't talk about Staci when you're around her because it will just make her think you're a trouble maker. If you feel she's going along with Staci talk to Heather too and tell her how you feel. But usually, the Heather's see what the Staci's are doing and in their own mind make a note not to get on the Heather's bad sides so they just go along. Heather may not even realize what she's doing so just try to talk to them both and hopefully it will all work out :-). Please try to give me feedback too my friend :-).
Chrissie
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my friend passed away tuesday on the first day of school. i'm making a slideshow and was wondering if anybody has any idea for some good songs to put in it? thanks a lot. (link)
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Hey. I am so sorry about your loss and I know how much it hurts. A good friend of my family just passed away about a week ago and my Grandmother's also passed away and it's so sad you can't stop crying, I know. But now they are somewhere so great :-). A slideshow sounds like a brilliant idea and I think a good song would be the song that goes, I'm finding it hard to believe your in heaven. But anyways I know you might not want it because it might make you super sad but I think it might make a nice song. Also I'm really sorry if I just made you really sad but remember your friend is in a better place :-).
Once again, good idea about the slide show :-).
Chrissie
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My best friend told me a secret, and he told me not to tell anybody. It was about his ex. I didn't think it would be a big deal, so I told her, because we are so so so close.
and he got really mad at me.
and I really miss him. We havent spoken since.
what can I do or say to make it up to him?
I know it is my fault and I feel terrible about it. (link)
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Hey! It sounds like you're in a pretty tough pickle huh? Well right now your friend is pretty upset since he probably didn't expect this stuff to get back to his ex and he trusted you. By telling his ex you probably just wanted to make things right between them again and if you had another intention I'm hoping it was for their best interests.
First of all I would probably apologize to him and have a really long talk with him which I know is harder then it sounds but you want your friendship back with both of them right? Tell him that you were just trying to help because it hurts to see two of your best friends having tough feelings about eachother and you just wanted everything to be back to normal. Right? :-). Then apologize for telling his ex what he said and say that it was wrong of you because now your best friend doesn't even trust you.
I know that you were just out for everyone's best interests and you are doing the right thing so give yourself a pat on the back and I really hope this will work my friend! Please send me a message I feedback too, I would really appreciate it! :-).
Chrissie
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