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now see it this boy i really like that talks to my cousin but she's a 304 everybody wants her he know i like him but theres a rumor going around saying she wants to fight me over him n i no i got hand my hand are like a roller coaster they dont stop until the rides over n if i got a ticket they one go for a second round.....


ps.she cant fight n-e-way

No boy is ever worth fighting over. Period. Furthermore, do either of you have any idea how the boy feels? He may end up not liking either of you and you two will feel pretty stupid for having gotten in a fist fight. Both of you need to put your fists away, enjoy the close bond you share as cousins, and forget all about this boy.

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I can't help what I do..
I'm tired of people telling me there problems, and acting like I have none. I'm always in the middle of everything. I lovee my friends I cant live without them but thry expect me to be perfect, and always be on the side and I can't.
It's multiple cases, couple break up, a fight happens over the weekend, people aren't friends anymore and they tell me. I say oo that sucks and give my opinion and say where this might've gone wrong.. and they expect me to be on there side.
I refuse to chose sides. And they get mad at me..
Soo I think last week I snapped! Call it PMS, call it me being bitchy but I couldn't help but tweakk on everyone who came to me with problems.
So people (friends) that I know mean wellstart asking questions. Questions I can't answer. And I know there trying to help, but I don't need them getting into the middle and trying to fight my battles. There trying but they wont succeed. I'm a lost coase. beyound help.
I don't know whats wrong with me.. one day ill be soooooo happy, flashing smiles to everyone and its contagious.. Next day you dont want to be around me. I can't handle peoples voices and bitch about everything. Weird this is i know I do it. and i try to nipp it in the butt and stop it from happening.. but it does anyway.
I've tried starting the day before again. Mimiking some of the things I did the day before.. make fun of me or not im desperate, Im moody...
I have my own problems.
I can't be on every side, I can't have my own opinion without someone being like WHAT!...
I cant be me.
I dont blame the people around me..
Hmm. My brother got in a car accident. Walked out scotch free. Day after get's a DWI and I frove him outa the house. I knew he was drinking, I knew it wasn't safe but i went on and On... he blamed me for my Dads heartattack.
I knew he did tat because he was drunk but i could just walk away. No. I threw every little think about him I hated.
Like him calling me Katie-Kat... It was cute when I was 7. Now just annoying.. But yesturday I wouldn've cared, you know. One day nothing can dent me.. you can't tear me down from them cloud that comes and goes. The next day when I hit the ground Ill point it out adn how it annoys the hell outa me.
I know its not PMS. I KNOW>>>>
Stevens come to me about Olivia.
Olivias come to me about Steven
Ariele come to me about how Steven and Olvia are going out.
Cole came to me about liking Ariele.
im tired of the stupid drama.. I dont say that to there faces... but when im in this distructive mood.. I cant garentee i wont haul of and beat someone..
how am I going to explain there moods. Or what I say to people. ill think oo shouldvent said that in my head but my mouths flying..

GRR HELP

Just because people are asking for your opinion doesn't mean you have to share it. If you want to listen then continue to do that, but when they ask for your thoughts just say that you don't really know what to say but you hope things work out for the best. If you don't want to listen to their problems at all then say that from the beginning. Cut them off. Say I know you're having a rough time right now, but I really don't want to be in the middle and I hope things work out for you. Then change the subject. Good luck!

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I'm a junior in high school and i want to start a big community service project to impress college...any ideas??

Well first you should ask yourself what are you passionate about? What atrocities in the world just get under your skin? Where do you feel you can make a change? Global warming, domestic violence, breast cancer, hate crimes, homelessness, etc? Once you have a short list look for organizations in your area that are working for change. Call them up and ask how you can help. These types of organizations need tons of help anything from working directly with the population to making phone calls or stuffing envelopes. Colleges will be impressed by the fact that you chose to do something about a cause you are passionate about, not that you chose to help a cause you could care less about.

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Well This year I want to wear a proper outfit for swimming like normal people, like a bikini but I want to cover more of my body so I'm wearing shorts.

If I'm flat chested, should I even be wearing a bikini top? Or am I supposed to wear a t-shirt or soemthing?

Regardless of your breast size you need a proper swimming suit top. Now if you want something more covering that is still a 2 piece, try a tankini. It's a tank top made of swimsuit material and bikini bottoms. There are also boyshort and skort (skirts with shorts under them) bottoms too. There are even swim dresses that are really cute too. There are plenty of cute options regardless of your figure that will allow you to be as covered as you wish. I'm not sure what stores you have near you, but this link will give you more ideas:
http://www.jcpenney.com/products/Cg10374.jsp

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I was wondering if there is something worng with me...I get headaches like every day and they last a long time and sometimes they dont go away when I take something. Sometimes they turn into migrains and its really bad. Last night I had a headache so I thought going to bed would make it better but I woke up with it.

Yes it is time to visit your doctor. About 5 years ago I suffered from horrible headaches. They got so bad I could barely see straight and was feeling dizzy. After going through a laundry list of possibilities (everything from a tumor to meningitis) it was discovered that my wisdom teeth were trying to come in and were sitting on several nerves. I had them removed shortly after and the problem was solved. Please go to your doctor as soon as possible or if you're a minor please tell your parents about this problem and get them to take you to the doctor.

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what's so wrong with washing straberries after they're cut? my family studies teacher screamed when she saw someone doing that! i was pretty scared, but didn't see much of a big deal of what it can do to the strawberries.

By any chance was this person washing the cut strawberries with soap? Not only can water make cut strawberries mushy, but soap can leave behind a residue and its not meant for consumption. It is much better to wash strawberries before cutting them and use a fruit and veggie wash such as:
Vermont Soap Organics Fruit & Veggie Wash
Nature Clean Fruit & Veggie Wash
EnviroClean Fruit and Veggie Wash

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Where is the best place to get extentions?
& what kind is best?
Glue or sewn ?

I don't know what part of the world you're in so I can't really recommend the best place to go. You should take a look at several places though. They should have before and after photos of their work, be very knowledgeable about the process and products used, and have been in business for a few years at least. Stylists that are good at what they do are always booked (normally a couple weeks in advance) and have a lot of repeat clients. Also compare prices to get an idea of what the average rate is. Having extensions sewn in is much better than using glue because it is less damaging to the hair and scalp. It also feels more natural when you run your fingers through your hair. Good luck!

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how much does sleeping on a satin pillow help your hair?

It can help a lot depending on your hair type. If your hair is dry and you use leave in conditioners the satin pillow doesn't absorb the moisture from your hair causing more dryness. It can also reduce knots and tangles.

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Yesterday I wasn't thinking, and my windshield on my car and my windows were dirty. However, I didn't have enough time to wash my car, so I got a bottle of Windex and cleaned the windows. I also got a few spots of bird crap off the hood of my car with the Windex. Afterward my mom was like, "You used Windex on your car?" which worries me. Is Windex going to eat away at my paint job (white)? What do I need to do? Thank you all!

It is fine to use Windex on the windows and mirrors, but it is not meant for the rest of your car. As far as I know it won't instantly eat away at the paint, but after awhile it could cause damage such as dulling. Better to stop by your local auto supply store and pick up some car wash detergent.

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if a college wants an app to be "postmarked" by a specific date what exactly does that mean for me?

The postmark is the date that the post office actually stamps it. So if you take your envelope to the post office on October 1st before the close of business, it will be stamped "October 1st." If the school says your envelope has to be postmarked by October 2nd, you'll be fine.

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