urgh i hate this! it feels like my jaw is gonna fall out like in the grudge! i can't open my mouth really wide to eat because it feels like theres an extra bone there that isn't allowing me to open my mouth any further, and if i chew it feels like my jaw is like cracking.. like it kinda feels like when you crack your knuckles. anyway this really hurts so does any of you have any advice on how i can deal with this? thanks in advance i really appreciate this

Have you gone to the dentist lately? I'm guessing you have not gone in quite a while.

I go to my dentist regularly and they've been taking regular x-rays. I knew I was going to have my wisdom teeth come in...but I didn't expect it so soon. At my last check up, I took x-rays again and my dentist told me I need surgery this summer on my lower jaw around this june or july.

You really need to go to your dentist for some x-rays, NOW. Wisdom teeth are harder to deal with the older you get and the more you let them grow out. It's best to deal with them as soon as possible.

I know you might be scared, but it's the best thing to do, since it can only get worse if you don't do anything. I'm scared as well...writing this advice to you is reminding me of my own date of surgery...If it turns out you have to have surgery on your wisdom teeth, tell me how it goes (hyperchick[at]gmail[dot]com). Good luck.

I know you will probably rate me down for saying so and you will probably disagree...but here goes. Do not say you love your bestfriend's brother. For one thing, you are only thirteen. I don't think you can experience TRUE love if you have never experienced much before. The second thing is, how can you EVER say you love him if you are ashamed of him? Being afraid of being made fun of for dating a younger guy should not matter to you if you really DO love the boy. If you care so much about what people will think, it means you care more about yourself than him. If you really like him, then go out with him if you haven't said yes already and admit it to your friends, no matter what they say. If your friends make fun of you, shows you what kind of great friends you really have doesn't it? Good luck.

Well, I'm not sure what websites you've already visited but here are a few ;)

- http://www.neopets.com/refer.phtml?username=kim_is_my_cool_name_
- http://www.kiwibox.com/ Refer me (hyperactivemiss) and you get 100 points extra ;)
- http://habbo.com
- http://www.gaiaonline.com/index.php?referral=422844 (Looks like it's down for now, come back later)
- http://bored.com
- http://furcadia.com
- http://www.i-am-bored.com
- http://www.2flashgames.com
- http://mobwar.com
- http://www.fictionpress.com
- http://www.fanfiction.net

You can post in forums like
- http://www.cockadoodledoobbs.com/php/index.php
- http://brightshinything.net/bst/index.php
- http://board.nitaru.org/index.php

And lastly...a shameless advertisement of my website: http://fadeddreams.now.nu lol.

Have fun!

Just search "myspace layouts" on google, and other search engines. It works. I don't use myspace, but I looked for some layouts and found a few right off the bat.

http://www.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=user.viewProfile&friendID=2990515&Mytoken=20040806183459
http://www.createblog.com/skins/index.php?type_id=3
http://blog.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=blog.ListAll&friendID=8191370&Mytoken=20050506161728

That's funny how every one is spelling "Proactiv" as Proactive. Yes, it is spelt as Proactiv, check the web site (http://www.proactiv.com/). Lol, sorry. Just had to mention that because I thought it odd that people using it wouldn't know how to spell it.

ANYWAY. At first, I didn't really use Proactiv regularly. I used it like...once a week and sometimes I'd forget and eventually I just forget completely. I didn't see any results in my pimples, but that was understandble because I wasn't even using it regularly. lol. But then I started using it everyday. Believe it or not, I felt like it had given me results even after the first day! The more I used it, the less pimples I had. For different people it varies because we all have different skin though, so I can't say.

Finding pictures on the internet is pretty simple...if you know how. You could go to search engines (ex: msn.com, yahoo.com, dogpile.com, aol.com, google.com, askjeeves.com etc) and type in what you're looking for (ex: heart pictures, alcohol affected heart pictures). If you still can't find your pictures, change the wording until you do like alcohol affected heart pics, alcohol affected heart images, etc. Also, it may help to do some research and find out the name of the disease that affected the heart. That way you can look up the name of the disease instead and it'll give more specific results.

You could also use the image link on google (http://www.google.com/imghp?hl=en&tab=wi&q=). The image search allows you to only search for images.

You probably noticed that I didn't find the pictures for you. I doubt anyone will. Just search for them on your own, you'll find them.

Anime is awesome...I don't see why some people have something against it. There's gotta be an anime for everyone, you just have to find the right one to watch. Thanks for the compliment.

Don't be angry about it. You have a right to be, but don't be.

Some parents are very old fashioned and closed minded. Most likely, it is not their fault though. Parents somewhat make who you are. It is not the child's fault that their parents taught them what was right and wrong. When you're a child you don't know what's right and wrong. You learn it from the people around you. All of us, and I mean all of us, have learned our rights and wrongs through other people. If other people did not influence us, none of us would have any opinions and we'd all be neutral on everything. So that means, your grandparents or other influencing people may have taught your parents to be closed minded. That's how I see it.

You should calmly explain your views to your parents. Tell them you're not trying to change their views, but you need for them understand that there are other perspectives and you think race should not matter. Just take it slow and calm. Doing it any other way will just end up in frustration and vain. Try to be reasonable with your parents. I can understand why your dad wouldn't want you outside past 7 with a guy. So just be reasonable. Maybe invite the guy over to dinner, go out with him at more reasonable times. Make deals with your parents (like you'll do well in school and get A's, or you'll be come early if they let you see your friends, no matter what race) Maybe your parents will eventually get used to it.

So what I'm saying is, yes, you need to respect your parents, no matter how closed minded they can be. That doesn't mean you can't take action and work it out calmly with them. If your parents don't budge, look at it this way, you will be free once you are an adult. Hope it works out over time.

I haven't read though your advice column, so I won't say anything about that, but I'm going to give you advice on your layout. I don't think the colors go too well together. Lime green can be hot, but only if you use it with the right color. Using it with red (or whatever it is) may not be the best idea and readers might leave your advice column because it is hard to read on the eyes. Just being honest. Try another color, maybe black background with a lime green font. There are other combinations, just try it out.

That depends on where the pic is...is it in one of your entries or is it actually in your layout?

If it's in your entries, you need to go to http://xanga.com/private and search through old entries until you find it, then when you find which entry it is in, click "edit", then replace the url (example: http://blah.com/pic.gif) with the url of YOUR picture. You can host your picture at places like imageshack.us.

If the picture is actually in your layout, just go to http://xanga.com/claf, and look for the url of the pic you want to replace (example: http://blah.com/pic.gif). If you're having trouble finding it, you can hit ctrl and f on the page and type in the exact picture url and it'll highlight the url. Just replace the picture url with the new one (example: http://blah.com/newpic.gif), and hit save changes. You can host your picture at places like imageshack.us if you don't have anywhere to host your new picture.

By the way, if you don't know what the old URL of the pic is, just right click, click properties, and you will see the url.

Hope this is what you were looking for. If not, it would help if you posted your xanga url and be more specific.

I used to be the same. I felt like I had a crush on every guy I met! And although I was comfortable around them, I still blushed sometimes. It was weird.

The way I see is this: Every guy (Okay, not every guy...but yeah...lol) is a great person with a great personality deep inside there somewhere. So every time you get to know a new guy, you see him as a another great guy and you can't help but have a liking to him. You want to get to know him and maybe he's the one for you.

It's just the hormones...lol. Don't worry, it'll go away sometime soon. It definitely stopped for me once I got my boyfriend.

There are many reasons why your questions keep getting deleted. But I'll just state the obvious...mods rate each question and questions with 5 bad ratings means it is deleted. More details here: http://www.advicenators.com/faq.php?f=91

You need to make up your mind...Either break up with her NOW or wait it out and give her a chance. My reason for saying this is if you keep leading her on it's really going to hurt when you break up with her. Cheating on her? DON'T EVEN THINK ABOUT IT! You either be a man and break up with her or stay with her. Cheating is low and UNACCEPTABLE. So you need to stop it all now or let some time sink into your relationship.

You CANNOT EVER, EVER say you "love her so" if you say you can't stop thinking about CHEATING on her!!!

Either you love her or you don't.

If you want to wait it out and give her a chance, try to spend more time with her. Invite her out. Tell her all of your thoughts. Find things you two have in common.

If you decide to break up with her just tell her how you feel. She will want to know why you broke up with her.

Dating is all about trying things out, finding out what you want, and bonding with someone. If it doesn't work out you move on and look for what you really want. You need to choose now if you really love your girlfriend or if you want to move on.

Hey there! Thanks a lot for the compliment and thanks for taking the time to read my advice column! I appreciate it.

First of all, please use periods! I only spot like one period in that entire paragraph. Just a tip from me in case you wanna ask for advice next time; more people will help you if you have good spelling, grammar, punctuation and all that good stuff. Plus, mods have the power to delete your question if they don't like it.

Second of all...Preppy...skater...none of that should matter. So if you and your boyfriend ever work it out, just ignore all of the drama because love should win over stereotyping.

Ok. About him freaking out when you talk to your ex-boyfriend or any other guy...just keep in mind he's probably lacking confidence. If he worries, it's probably only because he cares about you and is afraid of losing you. I'm sure you'd probably feel a little uncomfortable (if not a lot) if he talked to his ex-girlfriend and a bunch of chicks. So if you don't like that he worries, just tell him not to worry and lay off a bit, but give him some slack if he doesn't lay off completely.

People DO change. Happens all the time. If he is not the guy you went out with before, maybe it's just time to move on. Dating is about gaining experience. You bond with someone. And out of it you find out what you need and want. If something doesn't work out you move on.

If you are worried about leaving him for the summer, maybe that's a sign you two shouldn't be together anymore. I say that because a relationship definitely needs trust and you shouldn't need to worry. If you find yourself worrying, that means your relationship isn't as tight as you had hoped.

So my advice to you would be to either 1) Ask him for a break from each other during the summer or 2) break up with him completely. #1 means you guys are free to date others while you're on a "break" and once the break is over see how you really feel and decide what's best. #2 means you have completely decided that he is not the boy for you and it would just be better if you broke up.

It's all totally up to you on what you do in the end, but I hope my advice helped in guiding you on what to do.

Depends on how "early" and how you wanna show him. Buy him chocolates, write him a love note, just tell him you appreciate him, take him out somewhere, give him a kiss...many things to choose from.

If you're totally not comfortable with the idea, just tell him you're not ready yet. He should understand. A guy that loves you will always respect you.

But if you are ready...one thing you should keep in mind is to take it slow and enjoy the moment. When you kiss put your arms somewhere...like on his shoulders, around his waist, on his neck, on his back, your hands through his hair, whatever.

To kiss closed mouthed, just leave your mouth closed, tilt your head the other way slightly just so your noses won't bump, close your eyes if you wish, and give his lips a peck. It doesn't matter if your top lip is on top of his top lip or if your top lip is on the bottom of his top lip. lol. I usually put my lips on top, if that helps you decide any.

If you wanna french him, do the same as a regular kiss, but then open your mouth a little when your lips touch his. He'll either put his tongue in your mouth first or you'll put yours in his. You don't need to worry about how big to open your mouth because once you use your tongue your mouth will automatically open big enough. Tilt your head even more so your lips are locked when you french kiss...this will keep the drool from going every where...lol.

Once you touch his tongue it's all up to you. If you don't know what to do, I'm sure he will lead and you'll see how to do it. You just move your tongue around and "explore" or "massage" his tongue. If you ever run out of things to do with your tongue, you can spell out some letters with your tongue on his. lol.

Making out with french kissing with "heavy caressing". I'd be careful with that because it could always lead to other things.

If you wanna see how it's done, just look online for pictures of people kissing. And if I didn't help you can search for a kissing guide online, there are plenty.

Have fun!

Maybe you're afraid to touch him because you're not...READY. When you're ready, you'll know, and you won't be afraid. Touching usually leads to other things, and I'm sure you're aware of what those other things are. Might I add, he is 15. MOST 15 year old guys will not date younger girls except to use them. That's because younger girls are easier to manipulate. Most 15 year old guys have hormones going crazy and they want sex. I am NOT trying to put you down, but please be cautious about him. I am only warning you. He may only be using you for the sex. Don't let him make you do things you are not ready for and don't let words convince you to do them. You're only 13, and you have the rest of your life to have sex with the one you love.

Just tell him you're not comfortable or ready to get intimate. If he really does love you, he will not care if you do not want to get too intimate. Don't worry about it if you want to take it slow. Taking it slow is actually a good thing. Good luck.

There's one thing I would like to point out. If you really do love your boyfriend, you would have no desire for other guys and you wouldn't need to flirt with anyone else. If you're guy is really special to you, you don't need any other guy in your romantic section of your life. Flirting with other people while with a boyfriend usually means your boyfriend is not that special to you enough to keep you from flirting with other guys. Just keep this in mind.

Your boyfriend has every right to feel bad. Just imagine him flirting with a bunch of other girls. It's not that lovely of a scene and I'm sure you'd love to shoo all of those girls away from him.

What you need to do is keep from flirting with guys. Don't start to flirt with other guys. Just talk to them as a friend. Not a friend with benefits. If they are the ones to start with flirting, just smile at them and talk about something else. If you really can't keep from flirting with other guys, it's time to break up with your boyfriend because it will only end up in hurting him even more. Hope it works out.

More sleep will make you look less tired and it'll cure those bags. But I know how it is, I don't get much sleep and it's not an option. Definitely keep washing your face morning and night. Are you washing with soap? Soap should wash away the oil. Maybe you can try a cleanser with little beads in them. You could try cupping your hand in very cold water and holding it to your eye. A shower in the morning may wake you up. Hope your mornings go better.