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SORRY THIS IS SO LONG!im 14 and when i was born my mom put me into a foster home(couldnt take care of me)(i have 9 blood brothers/sisters) and when i was 4 i was adopted and given to a great family.the problem is the adoption people said that they lost the photo album with my mom/grandma/and me in it.my foster mom had baby pictures of me but when i left she wouldnt give me any of them because she was mad that she couldnt keep me(leagal reasons).the youngest pict i have of myself is when i was 4 right before i was adopted(school pict) but i really want to see baby pict of me and also pict of my mom/grandma.for some reason my parents get mail from the adoption adency(its like a bill)and i was curious so i took one.i have the name of the agency(also a guy that i think might have helped with the adoption) and the adress but i tried to look it up on the internet and couldnt find anything.i dont live any where near the agency because i moved.i just really want my baby pict! you dont know how it feels not to know what your blood mom looked like or what you looked like when you where a baby.it hurts when i have school projests that requre me to bring in baby pict and im the only one without any!please help if you can!

Ask your parents to contact the adoption agency and see if there is any way the people there can facilitate a way to get a picture to you. Even if they can just contact your foster parent and get a picture scanned or emailed or mailed on a disk that would solve the problem.

You are so justified in wanting a baby pic of yourself. I'm no expert in adoptions at all, but it would seem that the adoption agency has records of your adoption and adoption of your blood siblings. Maybe then can contact their families and see if there are some group pictures that include you at a younger age.

If this doesn't work I would look up sites that try to reunite siblings who were adopted to different families. You can post your agency and the city where you adopted and might get some hits from your siblings.

I'm so sorry your foster mom didn't pass those pictures along. She clearly loves you so much, and hopefully she realizes that she can pass you along so much love if she gives you and your family that piece of your history.

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ok
i dont really like talking on the phone
im one of those texter people
but this guy i like is calling me later
and im not one of those prude people that get all gay around guys
im perfectly fine
but i dont know what to say on the phone
or what to talk about
so any ideas??

Give him attention. Make him feel special, like you care about what he's been up to.

Ideas:
-what'd you do today
-how's work
-going anywhere this summer
-have you seen pirates 3?

Whatever he says, just roll with it. Offer your own opinion, even and especially if, it's different than waht you think he may want you to say. Guys like girls who play it straight. Have their own mind. Be a ball-buster, give him a hard time about something he does that is gay. Hell, act like he's right there with you. If things get awkward, drop the phone act like you hurt yourself and laugh it off. It sounds lame, but comic relief eases tension and anything's better than dead air.

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two quick question.

1) If i guy says '' oh, i got such blue balls! " what does it mean? cuz i thought i knew what it meant but i guess i was thinking the wrong thing???

Secondly, Ive had sex before.. but in a guys opinion.. whose supposed to be on top.. like what do they prefer? just wondering.

Thanks a bunch!

Oh god.... I'd LOVE to know just what the scene was where this dude whined about blue balls to you. Nonetheless, blue balls just means that he got all worked up (sexually) and wasn't able to release (cum, blow his load, get off, spray his spunk, got it?)... This should NEVER make you feel guilted into helping him solve this issue. He's whining. He will not die. His balls will not shrivel up and rot. His penis will be fine. Let him jack off when he goes home and don't even respond to that.

Secondly. Each guy is different and has a different preference. Most guys want a girl who will switch it up, top, bottom, front, back, on all fours (doggy style), reverse cowgirl, etc.

As a girl, you should work on finding out what is YOUR preference. (I prefer to be on top AND I prefer to have a man that's going to be a giver and ask me my preferences before I even get a chance to think about what he wants) Give that a shot.

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kk well me and my ex broke up a couple months ago and i still love him.. and i have liked him for two years and i haven't been able to get over him yet.. everytime i try i end up falling back in love with him and hes into some serious drugs and i dont know what to do and since my parents found out stuff they wont allow him near me and idk what to do wether i should just give up or wait and see what happens

Lets see...

1- Parents hate
2- Serious drugs
3- Stuff/issues that make parents forbid his presence around you


Give it up. For now.... Give it a month and see if he's capable of straightening his shit out before you put your heart in a relationship with drugs and hate and drama.

Okay, he's got a piece of your heart. Let him have that piece for now and save the rest of your heart for a guy who has less issues (AKA more time of his hands) to give you attention and love and dedication.

In the meantime, get a pedicure and spend the whole hour enjoying your freedom. From drama, drugs, and possible jail time.

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I can't put up with people my own age. I'm fourteen and I just.. Can't. People around my age frustrate me. I can't even date people around my age! It's ridiculous. My father said it's because I've been brought up in a family where my siblings are MUCH older then me. I'm talking about 6-20 years older in range. Apparently I'm quite mature for my age. Is there any way that possibly I could maybe be able to tolerate people my own age? All my friends are 16-19.

Your question asks if there's "any way possible"... The answer to that is yes. You and me are no better than or no worse than any other person. It's worth giving it a try and keeping an open mind around your peers, worst thing that can happen is that you make a connection you didn't think was possible. Okay, I'll cut the bullshit, the worst thing that can happen is that you get stuck in a bunch of lame, meaningless, irritating conversations. Sure, it can grate on you at the time, or you can play their game and later on laugh at their frustrating issues and drama. It's okay to be above all that 14 year old shit, but it's not okay to let other 14 year olds know you think you're superior. Nobody likes arrogance. Keep it real and give them a chance. Some will grow out of the drama faster than others, and those are the people you'll connect with. Life's too short to write people off on first impressions. Chances are we've all blown a few ourselves.

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Hey everyone, I need some help.
I've looked up things I wasn't supposed to for a really long time - without feeling guilty because most anyone at that age is normally interested in those types of websites. & I never felt guilty about it. Maybe because I'm growing up, that's what my mom said before. But this time I looked up some erotic type quizzes & became interested in them, then read an erotic story which I don't read very often but when given the chance - It's not uncommon for me to read it. So anyway, I feel really badly about it. Either that or indigestion, lol. That same kind of thing happened before when I didn't do anything wrong that day. I ate a lot today so maybe I'm just having indigestion? If not, can someone please help me on finding a way to tell her that I actually looked up porn and erotic things?
Thanks
Any help is appreciated.
13/f

Why does your mom need to know that you look up erotic stories and things? Besides creating an awkward situation, what would you hope to get from this? It's totally normal to look at erotic pictures and stories, hell it's normal to watch a porno or 2 before you're 16. Chances are your mom isn't going to feel the same way. Maternal worries may include underage pregnancy, STD's, online predators, etc... Even if you're not having sex in real life, your mom has a different perspective and shouldn't be the one you talk to about this. Talk with friends, chances are they're doing it too.

All that being said, anywhere you go online and anything you type can be traced by spyware your mom can easily download on your family computer. So, make sure you use a totally private computer, or your mom may bring up your online erotica habits sooner than you'd wish. And not on your terms.

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