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Im a 23 year old mother of two beautiful kids and wife of 8 years im very good at answering any question and i do the best that i can Im a very trusting person!
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Age: 23
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hi im 16 f and hes 14 m. the other week we only just started talking (on msn) and we got very close and he seemed very caring and loving towards me, he then asked me out and i said yes..he lives close by and we get along very well but my only question is...does it matter whether hes 2 years younger than me? (link)
age aint nothin but a #,my husband is 3 years older than me and weve been together for going on 9 years we started going out when i was 14. so dont trip if its going to work than it will but if not than o well.


I've had a sore throat for about a week maybe 2 and it jsut won't go away. it hurts when i swallow food or drinks and when i speak its hurts sometimes. i've drank a lot of water and had a lot of tea. I don't know what else to do, any suggestions? (link)
put alot of salt into a cup of water and just gargle with it for a minute its ok if you swallow alittle but it helps alot


Where can i buy iron on clothing labels? (So my child does not loose any clothes while she is at summer camp.) thank you (link)
go to the craft store michael's they should have stuff like that there.


My throat has been hurting for a very lond time and I was just wondering if there was any special way to get rid of the pain.(other than medicine) (link)
put lots of salt in a cup and gargle


i still dont have my period and i am scared because in like a few months i will be 15 and in high school and i will be like the only one that hasnt started thier period!!should i see my doctor?am i sick?do i have cancer?am i gonna die?am i pregnant?please if u are 14 and dont have your period talk to me!!!

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Hopefully your not having sex before you ever get your period but if you havent got it yet don tworry one of my friends got hier period when they were 16.so dont trip.


ok i've heard some stories about girls having sex for the first time....and then it not being possible becuase it hurts to bad cuz the guy is...too big i guess?

does this happen and is it something that i should worry about?

cuz im a virgin and i just want to be prepared i guess.


thaaankks. (link)
just have lots of lubercant with you AND A CONDOM


Okay im 14 years old and i have had my period since i was 12... today i invited some people to swim at my house and i went to the bathroom and i saw that i started my period.... i really want to go swimming but im REALLY afraid/scared to use a tampon cause i have never used one before and its scary to do it..can anyone tell me what to do or give me tips or anything.=( like im really scared to do it... im afraid something will go wrong (link)
you can eiather sit on the toilet and open your legs wide to insert or put one leg tn the toilet and insert its pretty easy just stay calm!


ive heard that if you can wear a tampon comfortably it means that your body is ready for sex is that true? (link)
A tampon cant decide when your ready for sex only you decide that so i say false


Ok well I just started using tampons and I wanna know if you can wear a tampon in the shower? B/c i gotta take a shower but I like just put a tampon in an hour ago and I don't wanna waste it.

Thanks! (link)
not to be a smart ass but its a tampon if your going to take a shower your soppost to take it out so you can get cleaning done properly,why would you want to leave it in and not clean yourself ?getting out of the shower so fresh and so clean but at the same time feel kind of dirty!
so just take it out,and dont worry about waisting a tampon being clean is what matters.


ok well i want my hair lighter but my mom wont let me dye it so how can i get lighter hair without dying it? thankz i rate high (link)
use peroxide works very well put it in a spray bottle and youll see by the next day make sure your hair is dry.


my hair is fryed. it has a lot of breakage and some split ends. how can i get it healthy? (link)
i have the same problem use lots of mayo


How do you know if you are in love? Are there any signs? I know that it sounds like a stupid question, but i want to be sure before I do anything stupid. (link)
you know your inlove when you cant stop thinking of that person,you talk about that person constanly,you feel sooo much happier because no matter what kind of day your having you always seem to smile!and you always wonder i wonder what hes/shes doing and if their thinking of you as much as you are thinking of them.


Alright, Im going to preface this by saying, Im not your average asshole guy who thinks the world loves him, so temper your responses as if youre talking to someone who is reasonable and who approaches things with a relatively open mind.

So, Im in this relationship. One in a long line of similar ones, I have a tendancy to get into the serious kind, and my girlfriends tend to stick around for the better side of a year. My current and I are just about at the 18 month mark.

We have hit this point where I am comfy. I like talking to her, and having her around, and doing the cute little couple things,but I also like my space, and try to communicate that to her in a non hostile or not "get off my back" toned way. I try to just let her know gently when I need to just chill out and not be sitting on the couch with her in my lap.

But she, on the other hand, just cant seem to get enough. She wants me to hold her from the second I get home until the second I leave for work the next day, and generally suffocates me.

Now, Im pointing out what she does, but this behaviour has led to EVERY SINGLE BREAK UP Ive had in the last 8 years. 6 ltrs and a few month - 2 month beginnings. Girls hit this point where they want you around them 24/7, and excuse me if I like my partners to be _part_ of my life and not the entire focus of it.

So as I said, Im not an uncaring person. I cuddle after sex, I like laying together and watching a movie, I give her a massage nearly every night, but I dont want to be wrapped around ANYONE every second that Im not at work. I hate my job, and at times I enjoy going to get a respite from her. Its fucking ridiculous!

So, what the hell should I do? I mean, Im not going to say theres something wrong with me. Hell, I would say that Im more affectionate on a regular basis than the average guy I know, but I like a few hours a day to sit at the computer and play games, or to take a hot shower _alone_ or maybe, just maybe, fall asleep in a position thats comfortable to me, not that makes her feel like my teddy bear.

I cant figure it out. Are all girls like this? Or do I just have some wierd attraction to girls who do this and havent figured it out? I dont know. But its the reason I keep having to end relationships, and I like this girl, I dont want to break up with her because shes suffocating me.

Angry women responding saying Im a pig, or that I dont deserve her, or anything else of an un-thought out and abrasive nature will get a one and an angry riposte. (link)
Me personaly being with my husband for 8 years from the start you have to give space in the begining,not just after a few months.let stuff be known in the begining.you say you have this tendency to get the clingy girls but did you think maybe your clingy at first to start it off?
I dont think your a pig maybe you start stuff in the begining that makes girls think hes a clingy guy and some girls like that




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