Hey everyone! Im Millie O'Conner. Im 18, im a Christian, and I live in Chicago. I decided to start giving advice on this page so that people wouldn't make the same mistakes I've made throughout my life. Im willing to answer any questions people ask me about life. My fave quotes are "Life is too short to be anything but happy", and "What is meant to be will find its way." Don't hesitate to ask me advice! :)
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ok so i have dry skin and i want to wear makeup but also keep my skin moisturized at the same time. my aunt says that i should use Mac for makeup. any ideas? (link)
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I live in South America, and we have some pretty rough winters here, so what I do when I want to wear makeup is first put on one layer of face cream, then put on your makeup (which should be very little or you will look like a clown. You should just put on some concealer when needed, blush, and lip gloss, and maybe mascara for parties.), when you are done, put some more cream on top, so that your skin will stay moisturized all day long and be super nice and smooth when you touch it. Mac should be fine, but make sure to ask a lady what would be good for your type of skin when you go buy your makeup,(one who doesnt have all that much on, that way you can get a good opinion.) Remember to always wash your face in the morning and at night, and if would be good if you used a face cleanser when you do this, which will prevent zits. Good luck!
-Millie :)
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There is something in my mind that always wants me to want attention.
I used to cut myself, and in a way that was my way of craving attention from friends etc. I have stopped that now, but I'll say something that causes attention to myself and put something in a sentence that will obviously cause attention to myself.
How can I stop craving this type of attention? Basically I can say I don't think before I speak.
Can someone just help me because this time I can't answer a question on my own. :/ (link)
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I know how you feel. I used to feel this way as well. When I started making more popular friends, I wouldnt eat in front of them, and they got an impression that i was somehow anorexic. I really wasn't, but they thought it was kind of cool. Im now 18, and when i look back im ashamed of how I wanted the wrong kind of attention. Cutting yourself, starving yourself, and dressing innapropriately will make you feel like finally someone is looking at you, but this will only last for seconds. Remind yourself that cutting yourself is definitely not cool. You are hurting yourself, and it shows people that you have no confidence in yourself and this will cause them to look down on you. If you cant help wanting attention, get the right kind. Confident people who love themselves get a lot of attention. They are looked up to, and mny other girls want to be able to love their flaws like they do. For example, dressing nice can get people to notice you. I definitely do NOT mean dressing like some skank. I mean, not provocative, but cute. I just love cute clothes. Cool shoes, nice scarves, and well-painted nails will bring you tons of compliments and attention, which will feel good and actually last I do not mean expensive stuff, but just cute simple things you can mix and match. Caring about how you look is not a sin, but obsessing over it is. It's always good to look nice and polished, but its more important to love yourself on the inside. Every morning remind yourself that you are beautiful because you are a creation of God, and thank him because you have arms and legs, which some people don't. Imagine not having arms and legs? Walking around school like that? Doesn't that make you ever so thankful and help you feel beautiful? Im not saying that people who dont arent beautiful, cause the definitely are. But always be super nice to people and compliment them on everything. A smile will get you a long way. This way people will like you more, and this is the type of attention that is worth getting. Good luck.
-Millie :)
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So, a few weeks ago I met this guy and we clicked from the very beginning. Mentally more than anything honestly. We decided to kinda jump the gun and be with each other, so we would purely be one another's. One weekend a couple of my friends and I went to his place after a bbq to drink and hangout. To summon it up,later in the night, I left to go get smokes and what not down at the 711 and when I got back..one of my friends was sitting on the bed with him and she kinda shot up once I had entered.
I went outside and she followed me, stating that my boy tried kissing her. At that moment I left in a drunken rage, passed out somewhere for a bit, and came back to his place to see him passed out with beer all over his bed. I finally got him to wake up and we talked the rest of the night/morning. He admitted he has a past with cheating and couldn't believe he already fucked up with me. He cried a lot, explained some. I told him in the end he has to prove himself to me, to show I can trust him. I'm giving him a second chance because I've done wrong in the past too when I was drunk, and I never got a second chance. Him having a history is what puts me off, but supposedly "I'm the one who he wants to change for".
After all that, a week or so later he introduced me to a bunch of his friends, including a lot of his family, which meant a lot, seeing how he's actually a very family orientated guy. He also cut back on the drinking for me, like he said he would, since he knows alcohol just doesn't mix well with him, at least too much.
And now, he's out with his family again for 6 days, he took the time off since his mother is visiting from out of state for two weeks. I haven't really heard from him the last two days, and the last day we spoke he was a bit short with me to an extent, he didn't even get back to the last two texts I had sent him.
There's a lot more to be said, but I've already said a lot, I think this guy has a good heart really, or maybe I'm a fool. My mind is spinning, I'm just so tired of head games and heart ache. I need some advice, please.
-Jess (link)
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Okay, to start with, i thought i would let you know that around 1 in 200 girls can actually change a guy. You know what they say... "Once a liar, always a liar. Once a cheater, always a cheater." Right? Well to be honest, I know how you feel. I've tried to change a guy before, thinking I could turn his life around. It didn't work for me, but hey, it might for you. I know that nothing I tell you will probably want to stop you from doing what you are doing, so i won't say anything. This guy really does seem like he is truly sorry, but of course I can't know for sure. I think it was good of you to forgive him once, but once should be your limit. If he ever cheats on you again, drunk or sober, you should seriously end this relationship. It is unhealthy to keep going on like this. But remember that you should always let him know that you believe that he can change,(most guys would rather hear "i believe in you" or "im proud of you" than "i love you"). And part of his stopping cheating includes stopping drinking. People tend to do things when they are drunk that they would never, ever do when they are not drunk. So help him with this, always encouraging him. I thought I might also add that giving yourself to him physically will lead to an emotional wreck. Or worse. So be careful with that, cause 90% of girls who had sex before marriage regret it. And 1 out of 4 will get an STD. Remember when you are having sex with him,yo are also having sex with all the girls he has had sex with, and that increases the chances of an STD. Imagine the embarrassment of telling your future husband you have an STD! This decreases your chances of marriage! Also be careful with pregnancy. Life is too short to be anything but happy.
-Millie :)
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This coming school year will be my senior year. My boyfriend graduated this past school year. We live in two different states and have just recently been allowed to visit each other. Last school year we agreed that due to the fact that I couldn't go to my junior prom with him that I wouldn't go and since it was his senior year he could decide whether or not he wanted to go. He decided that he wasn't going to go and promised that we would go to MY senior prom together. Now, with senior year approaching he has said flat out that he doesn't want to go to my senior prom, because he "wasn't allowed" to go to his. I really want to go but I have no idea how to convince him? (link)
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Okaay. So i don't know you, but I say you deserve better than that. For starters, you deserve a guy that you can trust and believe, and that won't break his promises to you. It was his decision not to go to his senior prom, and he shouldn't be holding it against you, cause a guy should never take revenge like that. Talk it through, and remind him that it was not you stopping him from going, but himself. Don't blame him, just tell him how you feel, and let him know that senior prom for a girl is a night that you will always remember, and you don't wanna just skip it. Let him know that he means a lot to you and you would like him to be there with you in a night as important as this one. If this conversation doesn't go well, then show him you are not dependent on him and go anyways. With a guy friend, some other guy, or maybe even just your friends. Life is to short to be anything but happy. Good Luck!
- Millie :)
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