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Hey guys! It's Kathleen! I'm 14 and I'm going to FMHS! I love answering this kind of thing, and I love giving advice to whoever needs it! I might not always tell you the right thing to do, but I think I'm pretty good at it. So, ask me something, and I'll answer you A.SA.P.! Later!

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theres a guy ive gone out with quite a few times and i like him again. alot! i dont think hed want to go out again and talking to him about it is out of the question. we hang out alot n stuff so yah its great being friends with him but its like taunting me!!

You went out with him a few times? Meaning you broke up a few times, right? Well, it sounds like this isn't a very steady relationship to begin with, so why don't you just stay friends?

If talking to him about it is "out of the question", e-mail him or write him a note, or, as I usually say, show him this link so he knows how you feel. But I'd recommend you stay friends, because God only knows your friendship might get wrecked if you keep going out/breaking up.

Good luck, IM me on TobleroneKiddo if you need more help! =D

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well, i've had this one friend for like, almost a year, and in that year a lot's happened. we were best friends at one point, but she was always mean to me. now she's not very mean to me at all, but it just seems like our relationship's kinda changed. like, i feel like i really don't like her when she's not around, but (and this may seem like, really weird) when i'm with her, it's like we're really great friends again! it's so weird, cuz she keeps asking me if i still consider her my best friend, and i always say yes, but i just don't feel like she is anymore. i just wanna be friends with her, but not best friends. because i have other best friends who she gets mad at me for hanging out with instead of being with her. how do i tell her that i wanna be friends, but not best friends?

- help!

Well, I'd say you should tell her this stuff... Maybe you've just grown apart like a lot of people do at this age. Plan something fun with her, and then afterwards tell her about what you think of your friendship. Try to spend time with her, and treat her with respect. Friends come and go, but you still need to be there for her when she needs it. You might change your mind about who's your "best friend" and who's not, so just stay steady and confront her about how you're feeling. IM me- TobleroneKiddo, if you need more help. Good luck!

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ok im dating this guy right? and i thought i loved him, but now i just feel mad or sad or weird around him... like hes annoying me or something. i really think i love him... but its like i need a break. i donno how to tell him without hurting him... ive been trying to spend a lil less time with him lately but i donnno. i dont want to send the wrong message, i still wanna go out with him... i just need some time on my own. i end up getting really angry or vexed or hurt when i talk to him online...even tho he doesnt do anything wrong. ok im not gonna sign this just in case people i dont want reading it read your advice thingy, but u know who i am. or...do you? >:-) hehe

Tricky situation, I must say. Well, I'd say talk to the guy, and find out exactly how he feels about you and if the feelings are mutual.

If so- take a break, and continue being friends and stuff, just hold out on the seriousness of the relationship. He'll understand, if this is the case... and...

If not- =flinch= Owch. Well, figure out a way to gently let him down by writing a note (though I did that with Colton and it didn't work according to plan) or keep going out with him until you really feel like there is something wrong.

It sounds like this is a deeper problem than just your boyfriend, so maybe sort through other things going on in your life, i.e. school, extracurriculars, friends, family, whatever worries you.

Maybe show the guy you're dating this link. ;D It might give him a good idea of how you feel w/o messing everything up.

xoxo, kath

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