I met a boy three years ago and the past two years we have been considerably close. Over the past year we've been inseparable but we are stictly friends. He is my best friend. I tell him everything and when im sad or sick he always knows how to cheer me up. We are there for eachother everytime we need something and thats why i find our friendship so speical. But what i really dont understand is that we fight EVERYDAY over the littlest stupid things possible. For instance we are going to be 18 years old in the next couple months and younger girls around the age of 14 do not leave him alone and sometimes i think he might even like them and it aggervates me, i think im paranoyed though cuz i feel like maybe hes not interested. or if he hangs all over another girl in front of me. or if he pays more attention to another girl than me. i realize this is jealousy but i havent figured out why. i could never picture myself being in a relationship with him because we are so close when i think about it, i wouldnt want to ruin such a good friendship and hes not my type in that sense. but i think that the reason it makes me so mad is because i dont want someone else replacing me. I dont want him to date someone because then i feel like i'll only be second best when i really became first. I need someone else's opinion..
You kinda have a few options.
You can either realize you don't like him, and maybe your feelings of jealousy are just feelings of abadonment. Since he's your best friend, you don't want him to drop you for just some girl.
Or
If you realize you do have some feelings for him, tell him. Because he's your best friend, you know you'll have a more positive reaction than if it were someone else. Plus you'll be able to get it off your chest. If he likes you back, then you are good to go! If he doesn't feel the same way, then atleast you know he'll break it to you gently. He's your best friend, and the last thing he wants to do is hurt you in anyway.
I really hope that helps. :)
Sincerely,
Lou
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hey!! I really want a boyfriend. i've never had one before (that includes even a first date and kiss), and it makes me all depressed. Sometimes i feel like its the most important thing in the world. I guess im just "the friend" to all guys. Its as if all of them see me as just another one of their buddies, and nothing more. I've asked a bunch of people and they all say that the way to become gf and bf//get a date is to start out being friends. now i have a bunch of friends, and again, nothing more. I really want a relationship right now, becuase i'm feeling worthless, as if nobody wants me. Im always the 3rd, 5th, 7th, 9th, 11th, and even 13th wheel with my friends-who ALL have boyfriends/girlfriends. Im tired of being a wheel. so i guess my question is...HOW DO I FLIRT without saying that i like him?? i know that i have to laugh at their jokes (funny or not), smile alot, be touchy feely, but im just not comfortable wtih that (touchy feely), becuase its so not my personality. so if u could please help me out and give me advise for "flirting 101: for the shy 'just friends'", that would be AMAZING
thanks so much♥
First, never feel you are worthless just because you don't have a boyfriend. Instead of focusing on just getting a boyfriend, try and focus on trying to find the right guy to go for. After you find a guy to crush on, then try and get to know him really well, and get really close to him. After that, you can finally start dropping him hints. :) It'll be easy because you'll already be close, meaning it won't be too awkward. And no one says you have to be touchy feely, because most guys aren't actually into that.
I really hope that helped. :)
Sincerely,
Lou
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