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Hi. My names Kylie and this is my situation. I live with my older sister because my dad left and my mom died when I was born. I'm 13 and she’s 29. Anyways when I was 4 one of her friends was watching me while she went out and he was touching me sexually. I didn’t tell her and the next time he babysat me he did it again. He did it 4 different times that I can remember. Anyways I never told my sister about it. And they’re still really good friends today. He comes all the time so I see him a lot. And I feel really awkward around him. What I'm wondering is should I tell my sister about it? I don’t know if shed believe me and if she did I don’t know if shed do anything about it. I know its sexual abuse but can he actually get in trouble for it? Like since it happened a long time ago?
Please reply. I really don’t know what to do here.
Please email me if you think you can help.
hollisterhunni0628@yahoo.com
- Kylie (link)
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I'm very sorry to hear you are going through this. This is a very serious situation, and right now you really need some support. It's going to be scary, but you should tell your sister what happened. What you do next depends on how your sister responds to what you tell her. She should support you, get you into therapy and call the police. If she does not do this, then, please, seek out some help at school. Is there a teacher you trust? If there is not a teacher you trust to tell everything about what is going on, then at least tell one of your teachers that you need help from a counselor. There are people who want to help you-- it is their job to help you.
Yes, your sister's friend is going to get in trouble. What he has done to you is very wrong, and he needs to be stopped. Please keep in mind that you may not be the only person he has abused. Someone needs to stop him.
Most importantly, please realize that you need help. If your sister won't help you, then find a professional who will.
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I lost my virginity in Feb after my 15 birthday. Since then my boyfriend and I have had sex atleast twice a week. He pulls out so we have never completely finished, and we have never had a pregnancy scare. Recently our sex has felt diffrent though. Like it has lost the unique, wild touch it once had. Could I be bored with sex? I get the same pleasure, but instead of feeling fulfilled afterwards I just feel-there. Can someone explain this to me? I'm so confused... (link)
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Well, first of all-- use condoms! I hope you know that you can still get pregnant, even though he pulls out before he is "finished". Plus, having unprotected sex is putting you at huge risk for catching a sexually transmitted disease. If you are going to have unprotected sex at the age of 15, then you are not mature enough to even have a fulfilling sexual relationship. This is really more about you taking care of yourself and making smart choices than it is about you getting your sex-life spiced-up.
That being said, what happens in the bedroom is usually a reflection of what is going on in all areas of the relationship. If things are falling flat with him in general, then sex is going to fall flat, too. Do you have fun with him? Do you trust him? Do you feel close to him in any way other than sexually?
If you are not enjoying sex with him, then stop having sex. Even if he pressures you to keep having sex with him. And for crying out loud-- take care of yourself!
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