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Hi i'm Jessica and i'm 16. The love of my life is Nick and he's 17. We've been together for a year and some months. I love shopping @ abercrombie,hollister,ae,victoria secret,pacsun, the buckle,vanity and more. I love people asking me questions! So you can ask anything. Me and nick have had sex before so i'd love to help anybody with questions like that. I may be going to california my senior year so that should be fun!

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There is ths boy that i like but i never talk to him he has talked to me b4 but ever since then we haven't talked ...so how do i talk to him???i'm shy i have thought of my friends introducing us but that would be weird cause i kinda already know him

tiffany

Alls i can say is you need to have courage i mean i was shy before too=) You can always have one of your friends to like take you and just go and say hi and stuff. I used to do that. Then afterwhile i just told myself that i could do it. I started flirting with the guy i liked and then eventually led to talking. So alls i can say is that u need to build up your confidence=) He's talked to you before so go ahead and talk to him=)

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I took your advice with that guy...ever since he found out someone liked him he's been acting like he's better than me, like I'm some sort of loser. and now is ex-best-friend likes me. I still want to be friends with that jerk because I know him and I know he'll change back to his nice self but what do I do about his friend? do I take sides or try to stay neutral?

Sorry that my advice didnt go over well! but i really do try=) soo you still want to be friends with the guy that thinks he's bad ass now? =P So are you asking me what you should do about his ex best friend?? Sorry i got kind of confused in that=)

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how do you know when a guy really likes you and is into you enough to start doing things, without making youreself look like an idiot making a move you know? and should you wait for the guy to make the move or when you do it?lol please help

Hmmm well i always like the guy to make the first move haha! But if has been awhile and there hasnt been anything between you i suggest just a private talk. You should ask him how he feels and tell him how you feel. But i'm sure guys like the girl to make the first move. I relaly dont have that courage haha. But if you do then go ahead and do it=)

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me nd this girl used to be best friends and on fri. she was mad at me and i said i didnt care except i did. and things got really worst and i dont know what to do. i dont know if were not friends anymore or what like we've had fights before but this one is the worst so far. and this other girl got into it and it had nothing to do with her? what do i do? do i just get over it or try to be friends with her again?

Well if you really value the friendship i'd try to work it out. But if its something where you dont think you'd miss her then i wouldnt worry about it because you dont want a bad friend (i've had wayy too many). But it all really depends on how you value it=)

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I need some help, please:
this guy I really like used to like me back but since I didn't go out with him (long story) he kinda faded you know? so now he only likes me as a friend but I still really like him. I understand that it's not going to be the same and that unless we're hooked up then I can't expect him to not run off and like other girls but he treats me like crap. so inconsistent, and you know that feeling you get after hanging up the phone after talking to a much treaured person? he just makes me so happy. my friends think I should get over him because he's a jerk but it's SO hard. he also knows that I still like him and takes me for granted like I don't matter? I still really like him so it's not going to be easy to just be like "screw you I don't have to take this" like my friends think I should do. plus, it wouldn't work anyway because he's not the type to come to me, I always make the effort to see him you know? so what should I do? ps-you're really pretty!

sorry i have taken a lil while to help ya! Been quite busy with soccer and thanks for the compliment! But n e who back to you! I just helped my friend through a similar situation as you do today! Girl you should really know that its not good to go with jerk guys. I mean you'll think that they make you happy but theres no place for a guy to be a jerk. I dont want you to be treated badly and this guy sounds like he just thinks he can get whatever he wants from you. Dont let it be that way becuase lots of guys are like that. You can still like him but maybe you should experience with some other guys ya know? go on dates hey you never know you may find some guy that you like and he lieks you that treats you wayyy better than that guy right now=) happened to me=)
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hey you are really pretty first of all....well i have a big problem me and this gaem named anthony went out for almost a year and he broke up with me over something someone said about me that wasnt true and so we have been talking agan and he says he wants to go back out but he wants to make sure everything is right so everything will like be almost perfect for us no drama or anything but hes been telling me we are gunna get back together now for almost 3 months and like sometimes im not even sure if he really cares anymore because hes always talking about these other girls he gets off the phone with me for other girls and calls me abck and falls asleep and like i told him that made me upset but he just gets mad and says why cant he have friends i guess my question is ... what can i do to tell him and make him believe how i feel about him and that i really love him and that i really wants us to be abck together now ? thanks sorry so long

JuLiE

thanks for the comment! sorry its taken me awhile to get to your question! Oh and dont be sorry this is what i'm here for! Alls i can say for you is to just tell him straight out becuase i dont know how else he'd figure it out. (guys can be stupid sometimes lol) You can explain to him everything. You should tell him that you have to have a serious talk to him about your feelings and that i dont want to wait anymore on you ya know? If he's a jerk then you should just dump him because you dont want a guy who doesnt have respect to listen to a girl=)

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14*f
heyyy hun .. okk so im going out with this guy and i really really really like him .. but im not allowed to date till im 16 .. how can i find ways to hang out with him? .. thankks hun!

i know this isnt good but you could always say that your going to hang out at a friends house and you wanna make sure that the friend is trustworthy so she can cover for you. Or if your parents arent that in tune with the sports events at your school you can pretend that your going over there=P But tahts what my friends have done. Oh and a good one is saying that u need to work on a project for school with a friend its worked for me n e way=P

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There's this really hot senior and I just want to even talk to him since I'm just a shy sophomore. Plus it's not like he's gonna be at my school next year, but I'd like to just get to know him, ya know? Thing is he's kinda unapproachable, like he's really big on hip hop and he's really into the culture. He also DJs a lot and he's pretty cool around the school. I'm tempted to go to one of his hip hop culture club meetings/dj workshops but I know nothing about hip hop! Should I still go? As I said I'm kinda shy so I need to know how to boost my confidence so I can approach him outside of the club and meet other people. Thanks!

Oo well the best way to try and get to know him better would definilty be the workshop things. well the workshops are there to help those who dont really know as much so your fine!! Alls ican say for boosting your confidence is that you can DO IT! i mean really after you do it it doesnt even seem like that big of a deal. (i've done it many times) i actually am shy at times too! You just have to go with your gut and know that you can do it. Good luck!

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There's this guy who I really like. Actually I might love him. I've been told he likes me too. Maybe he does,maybe he doesn't. I want to tell him how I feel but I can't seem too. How should I tell him?? Any ideas?? Thanks sooo much! Btw,your really pretty!!!

Well i know its always a hard to tell a person how you feel. In fact i've been stuck and somtimes would never tell the person how i felt. It may sound cheesey but you could write him a note. Or even get his phone number and call him and talk to him. Its always easier on the phone than it is in person. and if you want to find how to get his phone number you could ask one of his friends or have one of your friends ask him for ya. For me the phone would be best=) oh and thanks!

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16*f

yea so i've been starting to talk to this kid and i think i kind of like him. i mean we have fun together but im not sure if i exactly like him enough to actually start anything. i have been single for soo long and kind of " obsessed " (so my friends say) with my ex bf that i went out with and we had a pretty good relationship until we stopped talking after he went on vaca. well anyways we broke up and kinda stoped talking, so now when we do occasionally talk its just like "hey whats up .. oh cool.." stuff like that,i know he doesnt like me right now because we like neverr see eachother anymore or he is out but should i wait until like spring comes because i would deffinately see him around then. or do you think it is just a waist of time to wait around when i could have another nice guy. i know this doesnt make much sense but its just so hard to get over something like this because i liked him so much. my friends don't really understand... please try and help * xOx Kaylin

I think the best thing to do is move on! cuz when i didnt move on i just got turned down. and it wasnt fun so go out looking for another guy. I mean you may still like your ex but hey you just may find another guy out there who will really like ya!

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Okay, So I know this guy in school and I really like him. So my friends suggested that I write to him which I did. But, turns out a whole lot of other girls are interested in him and one of them being my friend, which she knows I like him and I know she likes him!!! But, I wrote to him telling him how I feel and he wrote back saying he is already talking to someone and that we could still be friends. But, I dont want it to be that way. So, what should I do to get him to be more than a friend to me???

You can never make somebody feel different about you (sucks i know). You could always try and talk to him a bit more to maybe switch his feelings. But again you cant make him just change his feelings. Just dont act over the top ridiculous because i've done that a few times. lol. You could also maybe try and hang out with him somtime too so you two can get to know eachother better. and you always have somebody else that you have your eye on too it helps=)

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How can I find a boyfriend?I'm cute and people tell me i have an awesome personality and fun to be around..then why dont I have a boyfriend?any tips?btw ur real pretty:-)♥

What i do is have my friends help me try and figure out somebody where it may be a possibilty. Usually guys will give a chance to get to know you unless they are jerks or something. But when my friends needed bf's i basically asked them who they thought was hot then i went and told that person and then like they had dates. So thats a possibility. Or you could always try and flirt with a guy and maybe get to know him more=) and also thanks! hope i helped!
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how do you make sure a guy really wants to hookup w/ you?

Well what i would do is either just ask him straight up or have a friend talk to him. Usually having a person ask him is best so he doesnt really suspect it as much.

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Hey! Well Ima 14 yr. old girl.. and I'm really good friends with this guy named Kyle.. I guess u could say that i like him? it's NOT that i don't like him or anything.. it's jus sometimes it's an off & on thing.. and i wish that i could just figure out my feelings already. this guy is someone i can really trust, we're like bestfriends. but than is it wrong to "LIKE" him.. there's like a fine line between our friendship.. turning into a relationship.. i can't help my feelings. what should i do?

I've been there before! Its not weird to like a best friend especially when its a guy. I suppose you dont know if he likes you or not. So i'm guessing that you want to have a relationship with him? If you do, then i say that you should see if he likes you or not. You could just say straight out that you have feelings for him and see how he feels. Maybe flirt with him a lil more and see how he reacts. Also you should really figure out if you like him or not cuz you dont wanna get into something and then be like wow i really dont like him i guess (i've been there lol) Hope i helped a bit!

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heyy! ok theres his guy that i met this year in august and i reallllly like him. he's like my perfect guy. but i found out his x g/f which is like my friend somehow still likes him and im tryin to keep this a secret (that i like him)i dont no if he likes me back or not. he flirts and he talks aobut me like 24.7 but i dont no. she wont back off so he can be with me! lol. tell me wat i should do!! im 16 female!!
this is my xanga site!!

I think that maybe you should start hanging out with him and getting to know him...girls can be psycho lol. I'm sure if you get to know him more and know that he interested you too maybe you can talk to him about his x gf. Maybe you can tell her to back off thats what i did anyway haha. But yeah i think right now hanging out with him and getting to know him better is the best thing right now=)

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hey! love the idea for the site!! im me someday at gorgeoushoney3 i have a problem!! im 16 years old and im female lol.

Thanks hun!

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there this guy that i used to like and im trying to stop liking him but i cant. I dont want to like him anymore and im really trying to move on but i cant .. what do i do?

I've had this problem and the thing is, you really cant make yourself not like a person. Alls i can say is go out there and try to meet new guys and go on dates. it may take a very long time to get over him but eventually it will go away=)

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ok,so theres this chick who is supposed to be my best friend. she totally lied to me and it really hurt me. i dont know what to do? she told some ppl what a bitch i am. im so mad right now. im just confused,i want to talk to her about it,but what should i say??

Oh gosh girl!! i used to have like 2 best friends like that. they just talked about me and lied and GRR THEY WERE FAKE lol. Well now i'm not friends with those girls anymore (thank goodness they were a bad influence) But You really shouldnt be friends with those types of girls honestly i mean they obviously arent your true friends ya know? You should really tell her that she shouldnt have told people that and tell her that maybe you two shouldnt be friends if she's going to be doing that in the future (thats if you want to break the friendship) But what i've learned is that you dont need any friends if the friends that you do have just talk about you. Its useless and you dont want friendslike that trust me=)

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heyyy!*
ok, me & this guy (r0ss) both like each other .. but he's really shy & is afraid to talk to me .. what do i do to make him feel more comfortable around me? .. thankks a lot!

I guess you cant really make him un shy but maybe you should try to talk to him more and maybe he'll feel like he can talk to you too. Maybe he's just scared of rejection so i say take the first step=)

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Okay here's the thing....My boyfriend wants to have sex with me but I don't know what to do. I am only 14 and he's 15 but he wants to hit the home run and we've only been dating a year. I don't think I'm ready. Like I said b4 I have know idea how to "DO IT". So here is my question to you: What do I tell him when he asks if I wanna have sex with him?

If your not ready your not ready ya know? If you feel that you dont want to have sex yet tell him no. If thats all he's wanting out of you then he's a jerk. But in all honesty i think i may have done it too early with nick but good thing is, is that we're still together. girl, Never let a man step on you because us girls dominate the guys lol. So just tell him no and tell him your not ready and try and really make a point of that. You dont want to do something your not ready for=)
YJESSiCA MAEY

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