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I'm a college student majoring in political science and pre-law, I like to read and paint, I like to think I've been through my fair share of experiences, some good, some bad, and when answering questions, I particularly pick out ones to answer that are similar to a situation I've been through myself because lets face it, the best advice always comes from someone who's been there!

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my 1 year is tomorrow and i really need to get my bf a gift!!! HELP! i've done a lot of gifts for him already.. mainly revolving around pictures. i waant something REALLY special. any ideas?

I did this for christmas once:

I bought a plain glass bow, a glass paint marker, a fish, and the supplies (all relatively cheap at a wal mart or something) and wrote a poem about the fish (something cute and silly) and set it up and gave it to him. It was fun to put together and pretty creative (if i do say so myself!)

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Im 17, I started having sex 2 years ago. I now have a different boyfriend and we've been together for a year now. I started taking birth control over the summer and recently we stopped using condoms but I've still been taking my pills. Recently it started to hurt during sex, like a hard pushing or stabbing feeling. Then I started bleeding while having sex and that has only happened 3 times and not every time we do it. Then the pain just kept getting worse and now we haven't had sex in a while because I don't want it to hurt. I've been really worried about it. And now my period is 5 days late. What is wrong with me?

It's true that it's abnormal. But, there are a couple simple explanations. Condoms usually come with lubricant on them, so switching off of them can be hard to adjust to. Also, check out all the info you can about YOUR pill. Carefully look at some side effects. It could be s small urinary tract infection or yeast infection too. More than likely, it would be any of those things because they are pretty common, but if you check out your pill info and it doesn't seem to match, definitely see a doctor. Don't panic, there are a billion things it could be. If it's pregnancy you're worried about, nothing you listed really describes some common warning signs.

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a day ago i had sex with my gf and we had a little foreplay and she masturbated me and i got wet with some fluid(precum) then we had sex while i was putting on a condom first i put it on opposite side because of lights were off and then the back to the other side. i just read from the condom instruction that i should use a new condom if i put it on opposite. i didn't know back then. what are the chances???

is been a day, does pill help??? any other help that can increase my chance of being safe??

thnx for advice

Agreed about the Plan B pill. If you aren't 18, ask someone who is to buy it for you, or call a local planned parenthood. As for the "chances" it's something you need to discuss with your girlfriend, she knows her body and can tell you when she had her last period, ect. Typically, there is a window of 2 or 3 days exactly two weeks after she gets her period where she can become pregnant, so she's really the only one who can asses how at risk you are. As for in the future, yes the pill can help, but condoms are highly effective when used correctly (it's totally okay to slip up, but talk it out before hand about the back up plans) Generally, it's a low risk, people tend to blow it far more out of proportion. I know it's scary but the best thing to do is to keep calm and talk everything through with your girlfriend

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i flippin hate my best friend (we are both 15)

but we've been friends forever pretty much--- our friendship pretty much consists of us subtly puttin each other down in like jokes and shit, but I only do it when she starts doing it, so like you no it only continues the vicious cycle haha

no but seriously i cant freaking just not be friends with her

cause like im pretty shy until you get to know me---and no1 really sticks around that long cause they just get bored with me.
and she's got a really "strong" personality, if you know what i mean, and she makes friends really easily cause she's funny( her funiness pretty much comes from insults)

so i have no idea how i should act accordingly
any suggestions??

As terrifying as it is, you should probably start to break away from her. You don't have to cut her out of your life, but try and branch out with other people (I know, it's CRAZY hard!) This way, either she will realize she is pushing you away and shape up, or she won't care enough and will just let you go, in which case, you will already have some newer friends you might get along with better. She's your friend, which makes it worse because she can't see that she hurts you.

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Okay, so my boyfriend and I have been dating about a month or so.
His ex girlfriend turned best friend is really nice and all, but im a bit worried about her flirty-ness. I mean, i guess shes like that with alot of people, and i know she approved of my boyfriend's and my relationship, but i just don't know.
I don't know her all that well, so i can't exactly tell her to back off without seeming rude. So i think i'm going to bring it up with him. But i don't really know what to say and what not, because i don't want to come off as a bitch.
I trust him, and know that he would never ever do anything behind my back, but still, it just makes me uncomfortable.

How should i bring the topic up?
I'm 15, he's 17, and she's 16; if that matters at all.

As weird and difficult as it may seem, you have to be blunt about it. You don't have to be rude, but just lay it all out on the table. Yea, maybe she's cool with the relationship, but maybe she acts cool because she wants your boyfriend to see that they can still "hang out" as a last attempt to win him back. Also, if you let her walk all over the relationship she might win him back because she was bold enough to go for it. Trust me, no guy would think it's rude to talk about, in fact, he will probably feel really great that a. you have some jealousy towards her and b. you care enough to tell him you aren't okay with an ex coming between you

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