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I'm Jaz. I'm 17. I love photography and writing. and I've gone through a lot with self-injury, depression, and guys. I hope I can help you ask much as possible. I will give the most honest answer.

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m/13 i masturbate everyday maybe twice and i was wondering do you play sport better before or after masturbating. i seem to be more aggressive if a havent masturbated for a while and when i do after im calm and relaxed. i need loads of energy so will masturbating affect me in any way??? when i masturbate does it inrease or decrease testostorone

masturbation releases stress that's why you feel calm and relaxed after.

masturbation shouldn't affect you in any way.

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Ok, I know questions about hair cuts are asked alot, but....Does anyone know any sites with emo/punk hairstyles for girls? I searched on google and all I could find was guys..... so please let me know a good site

http://www.livejournal.com/~madradhair

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i dont know if im depressed but i saw this ( one advicenator put this in her/his answer stating it was 6 major signs of depression)

1-sudden change in eating habits
2-sudden change in weight
3-lack of motivation
4-dont care about self image
5-doesnt care about self anymore
6-doesnt care about others anymore

the problem is that i did gain weight a little, theres lack of motivation in my life but im not gonna comit sucide or anything, i dont care about my self image or the way i dress to school cause i believe im me and i dont need anyone else opinion on things

i have 5 out of 6 of those, am i depressed?
i do care about others(#6)

nah. you sound fine to me. i was depressed for two years, and the way you describe your symptoms doesn't seem like you're depressed.

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i have a question
this is kind of embarassing
but is it normal to question ur sexuality at like the age of 15???? answer plzzzzzzzzzz

yep. i questioned my sexually at 14, figured out who i was at 15.

it depends on the person and it's normal. you may decide you're something now, and a while form now you figure out differently. you're a teenager and your mind is constantly changing and evolving.


good luck =]

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I've heard rumors that it's not healthy to wear a bra to bed, and i havent been for a while. Which is healthier, wearing a bra to bed or not? and why?

i've read online that if you wear your bra to bed, it keeps your boobs perky longer as you get older.

dunno if it's true though.

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okay so i've never been fingered before, but i probably will by my boyfriend soon. will i bleed? i use tampons and i have no problem using any size so i don't know if that stretched out the hymen already? also i know this is gross but what if they finger you when you have discharge down there? any help would be appreciated!

you need the "discharge". it your natural lubricant. it will hurt if you aren't wet. well. either way it's gonna hurt. at least it did for me. but i didn't bleed, but i know some girls that did bleed.

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Is it possible to get pregnant through clothes? i dont just mean underwear, but through our underdwear, jeans, and his pants. my period wont come also, and im really nervous. but thats as far as he and i have gone. please answer men asap because im terrified.

18/f

no.


edit:
i gave you a flipping answer. what else do you want me to say? okay, yes, you can get pregnant through clothing. wtf?

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what are some good types of emo hardcore depressing bands.Some bands i like are.
Atreyu
Bayside
Boys Like Girls
Bullet For My Valentine
Eighteen Visions
30 seconds to mars
saosin
Escape The Fate
Hawthorne Heights
Kill Hannah
Lost Prophets
Lorene Drive
Matchbook Romance
My Chemical Romance
Papa Roach
Paramore
Rise Against
Senses Fail
Sugarcult
The Unseen
The Used
Three Days Grace
Unwritten Law

thank you

acceptance
16th avenue
anberlin
armor for sleep
breaking benjamin
butch walker
from first to last
JamisonParker
Love Arcade
Muse
Panic! at The Disco
Norma Jean
Underoath
Plain White T's
The Red Jumpsuit Apparatus
Silverchair
Taking Back Sunday
The Summer Obsession
Three Days Grace
Otep
Halifax
Motion City Soundtrack
Atreyu
Amber Pacific
Jack Off Jill
Senses Fail

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How would I go about making a forum? For example a petz community forum? I know regular people make them and stuff but I dont know how. Also I cannot pay for anything...

http://www.proboards.com/index.html

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if a guy and a girl have been going out for over a year and havent had sex is it really wrong?

and

if i dont will he go off and sleep with someone else? do guys do that?

i've been going out with my boyfriend for over a year and we haven't had sex, and we're not waiting for marriage. it's all about what you're comfortable with. so it's not wrong to not have sex after a year.

and if he does go have sex with someone else, he's an asshole and not worth your time.

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You may find this weird, but I really want to wait till I am married to have sex. Temptation is all around, and its really hard to resist, but i always have. What are some "things" you can do with your boyfriend without actually undergoing sexual intercourse?

oral, touching, fingering, handjob, kissing.
and that's basically it.

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my friend stole my eyeeliner and my english book and i really need them back
and she has been a bitch to me lately and shedesnt hang out with me anymore
and like all i want is my shit back from her
and i asked her today
and she was like
ok
what can i do now

go to her house and get your stuff. i mean, she did say "okay".

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Things that I know about them pills.\
They start working after 1 month.
Girls who take them get a little bit fatter.
What other side effects are there and do they aply to all brands of "anti-pregnancy" pills?
I also know the doctors give a perscription when a girl has hormon problems. Do they make you extra horny, cause in that case I know I ll have a big problem lol!

i just wanted to add to the first two replies:
it's very rare for women under 35 who don't smoke to get blood clots.

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Hey. I'm 14, and I masturbate once every couple of days. Is this bad? Does this have any effect on my health?

Masturbation is very healthy for you. It releases stress.

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ok so my boobs are not as big as i want them i am 15 115 pounds and only have an 32A it sucks and i am so ugly so that doesn't help i plan on having sex soon how can i make my boobs larger

one day, you'll love the size of your boobs. for the longest time i hated my 34A size, but i've learned to like them. they aren't huge, so they look perfectly proportioned with my body.
and not all guys like huge boobs. my boyfriend doesn't like huge boobs on girls.
and if you're really that insecure with your body, you shouldn't be having sex. you have to love your body before you can give it someone. and no, i'm not saying you're too young.

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okay ive recently gone vegetarian.
i used to masturbate maybe once every one to two weeks. now, i cant seem to go 2 days without masturbating.
i know masturbation is healthy but im still very scared about it being a sin and if my friends do because if they dont i feel like im messed up or something.

what should i do?

being a vegitarian has nothing to do with masturbation, first off...
second, masturbation is NOT a sin. as many believe it is, really, it is not. i've done research, argued my christian and catholic friends, and have come to the conclusion: it's not a sin.
and it's very normal for 14 year olds to masturbate. there's nothing wrong with it. i just wouldn't go around saying "i masturbate!!". some people think it's gross just because they haven't experienced it, or it's just not their cup of tea.

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ok i need your help !!
im 5'2 and weigh 90 pounds
is the to fat to skinny or average ??
cuz i was thinking about losing 5-10 pounds do u think i need to ??
HELP !!

don't lose any weight, if anything, gain weight.
i'm 5'1" and 98lbs.

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I am really bored.People tell me to get a life.How do I do that.Please tell me how I should get a life,get rid of my boredom,meet new people and make new friends. Any answers are appreciated

join an online community like myspace, xanga, livejournal, or myyearbook. or talk to people at school. be social.
just be yourself.

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heyy umm im looking for guys to answer this question.. but girls are fine too.
so umm im gonna go to my boyfriends house this weekend and i was just wondering if you could like suggest some fun stuff we could do.. im not having sex with him. and please dont suggest like make out.. bj.. hj.. or any of like the bases or anything. just like fun stuff to do. and this is the part thats basically for guys... whats some stuff that guys like girls to do to them? like besides make out & that stuff
thanks! xo

play video games. watch football. that's about it.

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So I'm a cutter. As in, cutting my wrists and legs. I'm in therapy (so obviously my parents know about it). I had been clean for about 3 weeks, and since just 2 days ago, I started cutting again. Not to the point where I'm making my self bleed or anything, but it seems to numb my pain. It's like an addiction. Does anyone have any tips on how I can focus my thoughts somewhere else besides on self-injury?

congrats on getting help =]

writing, drawing, painting, or anything to do with art is a wonderful way to cope.
when i used to cut and was trying to stop, i had my friends take away the things i used, and i would snap a rubberband to my wrist, and i would put my hands under freezing cold water.

i wish you the best of luck! =]

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