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I'm Erin. This is my advice column. I'm suuuuuuuuuuper open, and I'm always here to answer and help you with your problems. Yeah, many people say I give out good advice and it works. So, here I am now, making one.

Don't be afraid to ask.

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yea erin umm i wrote to ur yesterday
and i think ur advice is really good
but i told my dad
and he told my mom
and ummm for some reason i cant find the house key and im using my friends computer becuase my parents hate me now tht im super gay
they wont feed me either
please do respond as soon as possible
its cold outside

i doubt that your parents would just let you out in the cold for it.
wouldnt your friend know that you are doing this?
go to a police station and report neglect from your parents,
go to a homeless shelter.
GET HELP.

erin.

erin,
i think im obsessed with having hot shower sex with you.
and i know you enjoy it too, but i think we have a problem.
do you think we need help?

-you know who its from :D

lmao, yes i do know who it is....
haha i dont think we have a problem....

lmfao, anyone who read that...
ITS AN INSIDE JOKE.

ily abbey.
hahah
erin

So, i like two guys right now. The first guy I know for a fact likes me. I like him too and everything but he goes to a different school. Well i never get to see this boy, and like one day when i did see him at a dance..my heart started to race and i got a funny feeling in my stomach, and i choked on my words, he said Hi to and i just ran out the doors. Needless to say i'am very akward around him. Then there is this other guy. I've known him for a while. He liked me like sometime last yearr. and i never knew about it. So when i moved this summer, to his school we stared to talk. Over the summer he asked me out..and i said yes. that last about 1 day maybe. Well i used to like him and then he liked me, well now i really like him. And i'am not sure if he likes me. I told him that i liked him over the weekend, on a monday he kissed me. I dont know which one to choose.

Should i chose the one who i know i like and likes me but i never see, or the other one who i see during the week but i dont know if he even likes.

Erin you should do?!?!

I can't tell you who to choose, and who not to choose. that is allll up to you. but i CAN give you advice, yeahhh.

okay, welllllll. right now, i am going out with someone from a different school, and i knowo exactly what that is like. If you want to try to go out with him, you will have to make it NOT akward between you two. act yourself, dont try to impress him as much, and if it doesnt work out, then you know better next time. But the advantage of going out with someone goign to a different school, is that you dont see him everyday, and he doesnt bug you and annoy you 24/7. BUT you do talk to him everyday on the phone, hopefully.

to see if this boy REALLLY likes you, then have one of your friends, that is also one of this boys friend, ask him if he likes you enough to go out with you; or ask one of his friends, thats your friend if he likes you enough to go out with you. and if he does, then you could go out with him. disadvantages: you will see him everyday, probally, and yeah, you get to talk all the time, but hanging out over the weekend for a while, and pretty much seeing each other the WHOLE week for a long time, might get annoying. and it might not last that long.

but its different for all people.
im not going to say choose wisely, because thre is no wrong decision. its what your HEART, not ming, wants.

thanks,
erin.

I bet this is a gonna be a new one for you.
Ohk, So last year i went out with this guy like for ten months on and off,[mostly on]. Over the summer, we hungout, and we did something. NOT HUGE, but big enough. Somehow word got out, and my reputation is tottaly, TOTTALY ruined. Some Ironicly, it got tottaly reversed and we did EVERTHING. Now People come up to me and say, "slut, whore", or " i thought you were better than that". I have NO idea what to do to get my Reputaion back. HHHEEEELLLPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPP!!!!!!!

wooooooooow, yeah, soooo i havent been in the EXACT situation; butttttt it has happened to me before (people saying stuff like that about me, worse people from other schools i didnt even know.)

but all you have to do, it tell them that the rumor isnt true. tell them that you did 'something' just not that HUGE something.

eventually another thing will come along, people will forget about it, but just tell them the truth.

thanks,
erin.

Erin,
So i really like this guy, like A LOT, but he goes to a diffrent school and somtimes i feel like i annoy the crap outta him trying to get him to notice me. I want nothing more than to at least go on a date with him. HELPPP://

then ask him to go to the movies or to dinner or SOMETHING with you.

try not to make him notice you as much then, maybe he likes you and wants you to notice him and thinks the same thing..

play it cool, and act yourself. you never know how amazing someone might think you are when you act yourself.

thankssss (:
erin.

okay..so..me and this guy have had a thing since like 7th grade. and we dated this year, like on and off like 9 times. because of some problems. but i won't go into those. and we finally got through those, and we were really good. but i made a huge mistake and told this guy i liked him too when i didnt (well for like a day, but then i was like well i dont like you anymore), and hes like yeah we had a thing. and he told people. but we didnt. and now the guy that i actually really like..love, doesn't want to even like consider me anymore. and i don't know what to do about him, because i seriously care for him more than anyone else in the world, and i'd do anything to get him back. i've tried talking to him about it, but i don't know how to make him understand..any advice would be great. thanks. =/

okay, soooo yes, you made quite of a mistake; you can fix it partially up though.

first start of by telling the guy you USED to like, that he needs to stop telling people that you had a thing when you didnt, and stop lying about it.

second, talk to this boy, that you likelike alot, and tell him the truth. yes, the truth hurts, but its better if he knows it and your honest with him, tell him how you really feel about him.
if you two have been on and off for a while, and no on in between, he must really really like you back too.

he might not understand, but he might.
im sure that he has made mistakes with other girls too, maybe not the same, but he probally has.

and this was just your time to make one with another guy. but its not like you cheated on him or anything right?

tell him that, be nice, try not to yell.
and just tell him to think about that.

come back if you need more help.
(: erin.

im wanting to go to EKU or WKU to earn a degree in adolescent psychology. But there is one problem! I need help. When would i apply to one of these schools?? Even then how would i apply?? Could i just get a four year college plan?? like a bachelors degree??

And also what is the yearly salary for adolescent psychology?? Do you think that i could stay here in my hometown after i get my degree?? i live in like a, I wouldnt say small but i wouldnt say large. Im not even sure like medium. Somewhere between medium and small. Okay like so small everyone in my highschool know each other and we are all friends even with the two county schools.

Sorry if this is long and sorry about all the questions. Im just really confused and need some help!
THANKS!!!

okay, sooo im not that far in life yet, but i can give you SOME help.

look up those colleges, and then somewhere on the homepages there might be links saying where, when, and how you can sign up.

some sites even let you sign up online.

after you get your degree? im pretty sure you probally can, but it depends on what job you have, and you never know.

thanks,
erin.

i just got a new coat and i don't know if it looks good on me or not and no one tells me if it looks good on me, what should i do

if no one is just randomly saying 'it looks good on you' then you never know.

but ask for someones opinon, and if they say yes, then it does.

but it shouldnt matter what others think about you, if you think it looks good on you, then it DOES look good on you.

come back if you need more help.
-erin.

dear erin
i am a guy
im 14 and
i just figured out i like men
alot
im supper gay
and i dont kno what to do
love
austin

austin, this could just be a 'stage' that you are going through, or it may not be.

if you feel like telling someone, then do it. it might be a shocker to some peopel at first, but your real friends should stick behind you throught his whole way and support you.

there is nothing wrong being gay.

but dont come out and tell people until you think you are ready.

come back if you need more help.
-erin.

okay so i have this guy and hes my best friend. i don't like him anymore then a friend but...well heres my problem. so my friend is going out with this girl from a different school. i don't like her very much and i think shes a bitch. she doesn't bring the best out of my friend either. this girl makes stuff up and has gotten my friend mad at other friends by telling him things other people do that aren't true.i wantt to tell him but i don't know what to doo. help

hard situation, but ive been in it before.

but the easiest, and best thing you acn do, is just tell him... not yell at him, but tell him 'nicely' what you think.

tell him that she lies to him about stuff to get him mad at you, and you dont like it.

and if this girl is saying stuff about his other friends, then they can support you, and then he will realize that his girlfriend isnt being a true girlfriend.

hoped i helped some.
-erin.

i like this guy a lot.
and he likes me.

im so confused on what i should do.
hes gunna ask me out but for now he just wants to 'go on a date' to see how it goes you know? but like i never have time for a boyfriend. its hard because we never see each other and we go to different schools.

i dont know if im ready for another boyfriend and the commitment
help :D

okay, soo i get what you mean.

well go on the date, theres no harm in that.
i rarely have time for a boyfriend too, and trust me, i can relate to you on this one because MY boyfriend goes to a different school too.

hang with him on the weekends, like plan OVER THE WEEK to hang out ON THE WEEKEND. its alot easier to plan a few days before, rather than the day before.... truuuuuust me.

the commitment part; if your a big flirt: thats baaaadddd because you are bound to flirt with other guys when you have a boyfriend. DOOO NOT DO THAT.

the other school part; its convienent. you dont see him TOO much. seeing him over the weekend is enough for now. you will get annoyed by him if you see him EVERYDAY + over the weekend. the weekend is good enough.

take your time, if you dont think your ready, wait until you think you are. there is no time to rush. and if he likes you as much as he says, then he can DEFFINATLEY wait until you are ready.

hope i helped.
come back for more.
-erin.

Well im 12 years old and i really like this girl but i dont think she likes me do you have advice for me if so post it to tony_is_great@hotmail.com Thank You

okay.

well, if you want to know if she lieks you or not, then just ask her. theres no harm asking her.
and if its hard for you rto do it yourself, then ask a friend too.. like ask one of her friends to ask her since she is probally closer to her, than one of your friends... and if your not friends with any of her friends... then have one of your friends ask her.

if she likes you back, get to knwo her more and ask her out.

thanks.
erin

ughh.
so yeah, there is this one guy and he likes me one week and then like the next week he doesn't like me and he likes someone elese
it's so annyoing cause ever since he started liking me i liked him a little and then i started liking him even more but now i kinda like him but when i see him it's like i can't not like him because i tell myself i should but i really don't want to like him
but i figured out today who he likes instead of me. it makes me really confused on whether he likes me or not. and i defanaitley don't want to ask the kid out. NO WAYY.

well, if he likes someone else.. then there are two things options. you can either 1) try getting him no matter who he likes, even if its your friend. (you will probally have to like him alot alot alot to do that, exspecially to one of your friends.) and

2) get over him. i mean yes, its gonna be hard. but how long have you liked him for? and i mean, there are PLENTY of other guys out there that will totally respect you, and everythign you cuold posibly ask for.

there is no use just sitting there, waiting for something that may not happen. i mean, he played you. and you dont deserve that.

thanks.
come back if you neeed more help, kay?

erin.

im madly in love with you what should i do? =)

tell me, and then be my friend (:
but please, do not rape me. hahah,

but im serious.

love, haha.
erin.

Hi Erin.
Okay so i had this boyfriend for like 12 days right.. AND Then yesterday he breaks up with me and my friend all went and asked him why he broke up with me and he said i dont no. && We asked his friend who i'm like bestfriends with and he asked collin (the ex) why and he said cuz he didnt like me anymore..
It doesnt make sense he is a grade above me and i see him alll the time in the hallways and we always gave hugs and i still love him what do i do?

okay, well since hes in the grade above you... that means hes probally just doing it to pass time, or just getting a girlfriend because it looks good on his image.. but try to get over him.. dont make him jealous.. just try to get over him, like try hanging out with other guys and stuff.

but rememeber, guys dont think of girls like girls think of guys.

thanks (:
erinnnn.

Hi this is a stupid question but Im attracted to skater rocker type boys and Im a black girl but whenever I ask them out they would say no the last guy said he is not attracted to black girls but now he is going out with a mixed raced girl whatis the difference and why dont they like black women?

well thats racist, and thats not a good thing to be. maybe they are embarrassed to go out with a black girl at this age, if they grow up, they will eventually find out that it doesnt matter what the person looks like on the outside, onluy inside matters. and its very immatuer to do that.

and your skin mgiht just be darker than the other girls. and its not fair.

thankss.
erin

ok. so i was talking to this guy right? but he goes to a different school, and hes a grade above me. anyways so we were talking for a while and he was asking my friend if i liked him and stuff. so i finally told him how i felt, and then he told my friend that after a couple times hanging out he would probally ask me out. so i was all excited right? ok well then like the next weekend he got a girlfriend! and i dont know what to do. should i be mad at him? or just forget about it? do i still want to be friends with him.. ahh i need help im so confused. btw, you have really good advice i was reading some other ones and i was like woah.. ok well please help mee

lol thanks. and yeah, you do have the right to be mad at him; and that is a reaaaallly shading thing for a guy to do. so confront him, ask him what his deal is. but the other thing is that us girlss, pfft; we barely understand guys, he might have just thought you were hott and was all like 'omg my friends would be soo jealous!' or he thinks that abotu the other girl and doesnt even like her. SOOOO what you should do is ask him abotu that and what happened with the whole asking YOU out thing.

need more help? come back (:

thanks...
erin

Hi Erin (:
ok so i went out with my old boyfriend for about 7 months. it was the best 7 of my life and i was TOTALLY in love with him. like i cant even explain. we broke up about a month ago and two days before my brothers wedding he broke up with me. he claimed he still had feelings for me so we went to the wedding together and had a great time. on the way to taking him home he held my hand and kissed me and i had my hopes up again. then the next day we hung out cause he wanted to and we ended up making out and he goes home and tells me he just wants to be friends. all of this is over the internet which was totally lame. and i didnt talk to him for about a month and then i have to sit behind him in studyhall. kinda bummerish. but then we starting talking because his computer got fixed. i was starting to get over him and being myself again but then we talked and i feel in love just even more. and he told me his mind was changing about things so i just got my hopes up even more. then i tell him how i felt that i miss him and would do anything to get back with him and he says that he still thinks about me all the time especially when hes horny (yeah we had sex =/) and he tells me that he always thinks about me and the memories we have together but that he has friends with benefits now (and i dont know if he means sex by that) and that he wants 4 years of highschool being able to do whatever he wants with no one to hold him back. i was really upset and ive been trying to get over him and all but its just not working. its been a month + and i still have strong feelings for this guy. like ive even tried making out with another guy to see if it would get me over my old boyfriend. it worked for a while then everything died again. what should i do? i mean i know i should get over him but i've tried im just too deep in love. help please?

well do what hes doing for a little while maybe, and then you will find someone else. sex, yeah thats not the best thing to do exspecially when you are just starting high school or whatever.and its really a bummer having to see him everyday now, that makes it raelly hard to get over him.. but try to meet other guys, you dont need friends with benefits, and you deffinatly SHOULD NOT have sex yet. and if you look for other guys you will eventually find one, one waaaay better than him.

come back if you need more help.

thankss (:
erin

okayy, there is this guy who i sorta like. he is cute, but i hardly know him. all my friends know him an i talk with him a little bit at school and on AIM. he is in my class or team thing w/e and he likes me. ive never asked for advice before soo..
anywaysss.
i am also reallly shyy.
what should i do?

well since your a shy person, try to be more outgoing around. just pretend that he is just another one of your friends. be more outgoing, nice, and like talk to him more at school.

and maybe when you think that YOU are ready, then maybe you ask him out.

its okay if its your first time, lol.

thankkks (:
eriin

okayy, well there is this guy who is like in my class and he lieks me. iv'e know him ever since 4th grade and stuff. my friends and i were walking, and we passed him playing basketball and he looked at my BUTT. i had a really short skirt on. haha. sorry. i think he likes me, but i don't really like him i guess, he's super nice and funny and smart, but i don't like him that way. buit i kinda do in a wayy. im very confusedd. please help erin!

haha, wow about the skirt thing, lol.
if you do like him in that way, then i mean, why dont you go out with him? hes nice, funny, smart, and you've known him for a long time.. and probally know alot about each other. and if you dont really like him enough to go out with him, maybe try to get to know him more to go out with him, or you could just go for a complete different guy... which wouldnt be too good.

but the only downfall if you go out with him, is that if you break up, that might jeprodize your friendship with him that you have always had.

comeback if you need more help.

thanks =]
erin

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