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Q: Ok here goes im 17 theres this guy that i dated awhile ago and i cant seem to get over him and we always end up goin back to each other to mess around n stuff but i want more than that and i finally told him how i felt and he said that he wanted to be single for the rest of the summer because he has a bet with his dad which he does because i talked to his father... (im really close wit his fam) and he said that we will decided what we are gonna do when school starts again but im sick of waiting im scared that hes not gonna wanna get back with me... he says he does but i dont believe him... ive waited around soo long and i dont kno what to to help

17/f
I can tell that you like this guy but sweety face it, if he wanted to be with you and actually be with you it wouldn't hold off for a bet. Sure you still mess around but that is nothing more than a booty call for the both of you. You should just call him and tell him how you feel about him and that you want to be with him. As much as he says yes you'll be back together why would he hold off. When you tell him how you feel let him know that you can't just sit bac and wait around for something your not sure will happen. if he wants to be with you he'll understand and you'll be together. If he try's to aviod it or says let's just wait what are the odds you'll actually get back together.

Q: Ok .. i dont know if this is the rightr catagory but..

I used to have acne really bad on my chest (I still do but not even near as bad as i did before). And now, even though it's better, i Have acne scars on my breasts and it makes me so self conscious. I also have what looks like stretch marks (but they might be scars too.. i dont really know why i would have stretch marks because my boobs aren't that big).

But is there any way to get rid of these things? I dont even like letting my fiance see me... is there some kind of lotion or laser surgery or SOMETHING? Please help me.
the best thing that you can use is cocoa cutter, That softens, tightens and replenishis the skin. That would be for what you think might be stretch marks.. You don't have to have big breasts to get them. people get stretch marks from either rapid growth. Growth faster than the skin is growing or because weight gain and then weight loss. But that will help tame them. They won't go away but they will be less noticible over time. get pure coca butter. Can be found in the baby section at your store where the new mothers stuff is. For the dark marks. Use clinique toner. clinige is sold at Dillard's. That is awesome for any part of your body especially for the face. They also sell body washes that are awesome. It will cost about 15.00 for a bottle but it will be worth it. Neither of these are a miracle it won't work over night but over time you will see results

Q: Is there anything I can do to make my skin paler? I'm already pretty pale but summer has made me a little too tanned and I even use high spf sunscreen. I've been looking for some white powder but I can't find any and the lightest color of like all brands is still too dark.
You don't want to use foundation or powder unless your ganna take the time out to apply it to your whole body in the morning, when you sweat hell all day. plus once your skin is a certain tone applying something to make it lighter is going to look more unnatural then being to dark. And because you always sweat you'll get streaky. There is no way to make yourself lighter once you are there. you need to lose the color naturally. But if it that bad and you can not stand it then you can try even if it sounds wierd to apply poroxide to your skin but do your best to apply it evenly . as soon as you have done that you will need to shower, but give it about 10 min to saok in your skin. Poroxide is a naturall bleacher. This may not work off the bat and it is not permanant so you might get back to it in a fee days that you'll need to do it agian.

Q: I'm 13/f

For some reason I have a lot of trouble going to sleep at night. Since my dad is a doctor, he could easily call in a prescription for some mild sleeping medication, but both he and my mom don't think I should be taking anything like that. My mom does give me something VERY mild called melatonin, but once I stop using it I still can't go to sleep. I'm getting worried because school is starting soon and I won't be able to go to sleep early enough to get 8 hours. Does anyone have any advice on techniques I could use to help me get sleepy and then be able to fall asleep? Thanks!
The reason that most people can't sleep is because they have a busy mind when they lay down to rest. You should ty to relax about an hour before you plan to sleep. Drink a glass of warm milk. i know sounds awefull but it works warm milk is actually a natural sleeping aid why do you think babies fall fast asleep after eating. But drink you a glass of the milk about 12 oz. and read a book. If you have a lot going on, are excited about something, worried, upset anything then get you a notebook and write it all down this gives you time to wind down and kinda take it off of your mind. But give yourself about an hour or maybe more before you plan to actually sleep and it should help you out. Let me know if this works for you

Q: My husband and I are divorcing over the fact that I wasn't a virgin when we got married, 5 years ago. Back when we were dating, I'd cheated on him and fooled around with another guy. I hated myself for it so I couldn't bring myself to tell him. Now one of my friends told him and he got so mad. I'd tried to explain why I didn't want to bring it up, but he was too hurt to care. We've tried to talk about it several times, but it only made both of us hurt worse. So now we're getting a divorce and we've agreed not to see or speak to each other anymore, which sucks because we know we're still in love with each other. It's just too painful... As if that's not bad enough, I just found out I'm pregnant. What the hell do I do? I don't know if I could contact him even if I wanted too. I'm scared. Please give me words of wisdom!
Well i think that if he truly loves you that he should be a bit more open minded about talking to you about the situation. You messed up and cheated yes but gettting a divorce after so long doesn't seem fare to both of you. And agreeing not to talk to eachother because of that is a mistake on both your parts. I think that you need not to live up to that end of the bargian especially if you are pregnant. Hurt or not he has a child coming into this world that will be his forever wether he likes it or not. Even if he is to stay away eventually that child will look for him and he will have to answer to it, and so will you. I think that you need to call him and tell him that you admitt to your mistake instead of trying to explain what you did just tell him that you did and that you were wrong. Admitting that you had a fault is better than saying i'm sorry. Sorry does not fix the damage done. That should atleast get you a foot in the door to continue a conversation with him. Then tell him that you will be having a divorce yes but there is somehing that he needs to be aware of before court. Then go ahead and let him now that he is a father. He does have a right to know. From there the conversation will depend on wether or not you allow yourself to get upset over what might be said. Just let him speak his mind and remind him that he is a father and that you can do it alone if you have to but it's not fare to the baby. It doesn't matter anymore what is fare to the two of you.

Q: I know this is kind of a weird question but it's bugging me. Why do guys readjust themselves? Is it normal to feel the urge to often? My boyfriend does it... kind of a lot & isn't very discreet about it. I don't mind it but sometimes it looks like he's itching or grabbing himself. can someone please enlighten me? thank you!
All men adjust themselves. Think about it this way. When your wearing a bra and it was to shift or the wire stab you somewhere then you would fix it. Well men sweat, they also have exterior organs that move, rub, chaff, and are exposed to the clothing, the air and the detergents that they use to wash thier clothes. Therefore they need to rearrange thier goods to get relief from irritaion. kinda like if you were to wear really tight underwear that rubbed against you and rode up your backside. You would have the urge to fix it. It's just naturall for a guy to want to be comfortable. hell it's naturall for anyone to want to be comfortable

Q: Well from the last question about my hair I need a shampoo and conditioner that will throw away all the frizziness and dryness without it being expensive but all shampoos and conditioners work the same on my hair but they work different on other peoples hair. I need major help! Thanx

-Anonymous-
You should try Garnier Frustis. The sleek and shine line. it is great. it is built with extra protien and oils to defrizz and strengthen your hair. Just shampoo then condition. After you towel dry your hair add the sllek and shine serum to you hair working from the roots down. a little goes a long way so don't over do it. then simply pick out your hair first from root to tip. Then you can comb or brush. They also have a 3 min deep conditioner that you should use like once a week. Just remember that 90% of frizzy hair is caused because people shampoo and condition the hair every day and that dries it out so only wash your hair every other day. You can still use the serum every day. Try this and you should have great results. and before i forgett you should change your shampoo every 2 weeks. From the Garnier to something like pantien and then swich back. or you'll get to much of one thing this will also dry out your hair. Let me know how it works for you!

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I am 22 and a mother of 4. i have experienced almost anything that any one can. So if you have a question than ask. i'll do my best to answer

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