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Q: Ok well valentines day is coming up and my boyfriend already has a gift for me. I dont know what it is but my friends do and it is supposed to be extremely cute! But the thing is, i am not exactly sure what to get him... guys are so complicated to find presents for! does anyone have any ideas of what i should get? (we have been together for about 2 mo) thank you so much!

I said this to a similar advice seeker...

"Try making him something! It would be really cute, trust me. I'm making my boy a heart shapped pillow with red & white fabric. How about a photo album with pictures of the two of you? A nice tshirt from his favorite store or a bottle of clone would be nice too. Perhaps his favorite movie or cd from his favorite band, if he doesn't already own it. You could always make him dinner at your house and set it up all pretty. I did that for my boyfriend & I's 5 month anniversary, and it went over really well. For a card you could take construction paper and clip out different things that symbolize the both of you. Like inside jokes or things he's into, etc. Glue the pictures on the paper & make a collage. Whatever you do, I'm sure he'll like. Good luck & have fun. :)"

Q: me and my boyfriend have been going out for four months. i have no clue what to get him for valentines day. HELLPPP

This is what I said to someone with the same problem as yourself...

"Try making him something! It would be really cute, trust me. I'm making my boy a heart shapped pillow with red & white fabric. How about a photo album with pictures of the two of you? A nice tshirt from his favorite store or a bottle of clone would be nice too. Perhaps his favorite movie or cd from his favorite band, if he doesn't already own it. You could always make him dinner at your house and set it up all pretty. I did that for my boyfriend & I's 5 month anniversary, and it went over really well. For a card you could take construction paper and clip out different things that symbolize the both of you. Like inside jokes or things he's into, etc. Glue the pictures on the paper & make a collage. Whatever you do, I'm sure he'll like. Good luck & have fun. :) "

Q: so, my boyfriend of about 3 months, his b day is coming up. Any ideas on what to get him? Thats not too much, but not too little.

Thanksss

This is what I said to a similar advice seeker...

"Try making him something! It would be really cute, trust me. I'm making my boy a heart shapped pillow with red & white fabric. How about a photo album with pictures of the two of you? A nice tshirt from his favorite store or a bottle of clone would be nice too. Perhaps his favorite movie or cd from his favorite band, if he doesn't already own it. You could always make him dinner at your house and set it up all pretty. I did that for my boyfriend & I's 5 month anniversary, and it went over really well. For a card you could take construction paper and clip out different things that symbolize the both of you. Like inside jokes or things he's into, etc. Glue the pictures on the paper & make a collage. Whatever you do, I'm sure he'll like. Good luck & have fun. :) "

Q: I know this is random. But I think my best friend had sex with my exboyfriend a couple months ago. I know its horrible to think she would do something like that and guess about something like that happening. but shes had sex with other guys ((*i think shes rather a sl*t)). and she always flirted with him during and after we went out. ever since me and him broke up she was acting wierd around him since then. i can see something between them and its wierd because they hate eachother now. do you think i should say something next time she mentions him or acts around him??? we dont hang out all together so if we all see eachother its akward. :( advice please?

You have the right to know, so yes ask! Don't accuse her of having sex right off the bat, because it could be totally off & she may get mad at you for even considering the possiblity. Simply ask if anything happened between them in the last few months. Explain why you think so (her attitude towards him, etc.) Try and draw something out of her. Just remember not to jump to conclusions during the discussion. Have you ever thought that she could dislike him because you two broke up? I don't know the situation, but if he cheated on you or broke up with you in a bad way she could be bitter towards him for hurting you. You never know until you ask. Good luck : )

Q: i have a little bit of hair growing like, around my nipple area. is that really weird? i have hair on my stomach too. should i shave it off or leave it? is it really weird or do other people have it too?

Everything you mentioned is normal. Don't shave your stomach, but if you feel like you want to trim around your nipple are, that's fine.

Q: i have a lot of hiar on my arms
i want to make it less noticable
is it bad to wax,shave, nair it?
should i just bleach it or forget about it?
any suggestions or comments,
thanks

Shaving arm hair will only cause it to grow back darker & thicker in the end. My friend learned this lesson the hard way.

Q: Hi. i was just wondering if anyone knew a website where i could find cute, colorful, playful dresses. There is a dance next month where you are supposed to dress up and stuff. ha. i have already looked in jcpenny and macys and mandees. thank you =]

forever21.com & delias.com

Happy shopping : )

Q: do you shave "down there"? is it weird if you do, or if you dont? i wanna know, because me and my boyfriend have been doing a lot lately, and i think he wants to go further, and i do too, so should i shave "down there"?

It's completely up to YOU. He should respect your descion no matter what. But in all honesty, I think shaving would be your best bet. Guys tend to like it better when their girlfriend shaves. If you feel uncomftorable about doing so, simply don't. No biggie : )

Q: My boyfriend and I will be going out for 3 months when valentines day comes around.. what should i get him for valentines day?

Try making him something! It would be really cute, trust me. I'm making my boy a heart shapped pillow with red & white fabric. How about a photo album with pictures of the two of you? A nice tshirt from his favorite store or a bottle of clone would be nice too. Perhaps his favorite movie or cd from his favorite band, if he doesn't already own it. You could always make him dinner at your house and set it up all pretty. I did that for my boyfriend & I's 5 month anniversary, and it went over really well. For a card you could take construction paper and clip out different things that symbolize the both of you. Like inside jokes or things he's into, etc. And put them all together & make a collage (sp?). Whatever you do, I'm sure he'll like. Good luck & have fun. :)

Q: My boyfriend and I will be going out for 3 months when valentines day comes around.. what should i get him for valentines day?

Try making him something! It would be really cute, trust me. I'm making my boy a heart shapped pillow with red & white fabric. How about a photo album with pictures of the two of you? A nice tshirt from his favorite store or a bottle of clone would be nice too. Perhaps his favorite movie or cd from his favorite band, if he doesn't already own it. You could always make him dinner at your house and set it up all pretty. I did that for my boyfriend & I's 5 month anniversary, and it went over really well. For a card you could take construction paper and clip out different things that symbolize the both of you. Like inside jokes or things he's into, etc. Glue the pictures on the paper & make a collage. Whatever you do, I'm sure he'll like. Good luck & have fun. :)

Q: 15/f

I shave my pubic hair and I have a few questions.

1) Shaving leaves irration and red bumps.. how do I prevent this or make it go away quickly?

2) How often should I shave, when I get stubble or when my hairs get longer and softer?

Thanxx!

1) Honestly, there is no real way to prevent the irratation completely. Remeber to lather up with A LOT of shaving cream to help out a little bit.

2)I would recommend shaving every three days. If you're going swimming or some place where that area may be exposed.. then shave the day of the event. But besides that every 3 to 4 days is a good idea.

Hope I helped.

Q: i was wondering. how many pictures can photobucket hold?

I have 25 pages of pictures, and I still have more room. The first person that answerd this question doesn't know what she is talking about. A friend of mine even has around 50 or 60 pages. If you ever run out of space you can always make another account. : )

Q: I'm looking for stores that sell clothes like Alloy, delias, forever 21, and rave. Anyone got any suggestions?

Charolette Russe, Pac Sun, Hot Topic, Tj Maxx, Dillards, Hollister, Express, Abercrombie, Journeys, Gadzooks, etc. Happy Shopping : )

Q: I have a deep fear of germs and getting sick. Even the thought of catching a regular cold drives me crazy. I was my hands for 10 minutes, and at school, I wear a bandanna that covers my nose and mouth to help keep the germs away. I mean, hey it's not my fault that kids at my school go swimming in 10 degree weather over the weekend, and then catch a cold. Basically Everyone is sick at my school ALL the time.

Some of my teachers get mad at me when I wear my bandanna, but if they make me sit next to, talk to, and help out sick people, why shouldn't I be able to wear it? I'm not going to get sick because of one stupid person. Last week, I skipped alot of my classes just because I sat next to sick people in them and I don't want to get sick. Mainly because I just started working out, and if I'm sick, I won't be able to work out. (yes, working out is REALLY important to me.)

Now my question, I guess my question is, is there anything else I can do from getting sick? Any healthy tips that you can inform me on? (Besides obvious stuff like washing your hands.) Do you think the bandanna is a good idea? I've actually considered wearing a surgical mask but then people would think I'm even weirder.

Also, how possible is it that I'm going to get sick if I sit next to someone sick, for about 45 minutes every day? (Keep in mind that I'm wearing my bandanna over my nose and mouth.) ANY advice you have would be helpful because I'm flipping out right now.

I would definately hold off on the surgical mask. One kid in my middle school class wore one occsionally & I must admitt it looked pretty weird. As for the bandana, I think it's a little much but if you feel the need for it.. go for it! You say your teachers make you sit next to & associate with sick kids. Explain your situation in depth. They should understand your condition & seat you next to healthy students. Maybe even get a doctors note that prohibits them to do this any longer. I'm pretty sure you carry around sometime of anti-bacterial wipe or cleanser? If not, buy one & bring it to school. Such as baby wipes or hand sanitizer. You can use the wipes to clean of your desk before sitting down, etc & use the sanitizer to wash your hands when a sink isn't avaliable. Avoid touching your eyes, nose, and mouth at all costs!.. when around a sick person. If you ever feel yourself getting ill, take tylenol (or whatever type of pill you use) at the first sign. DO NOT GO OVER BOARD W/ THE MEDICINE. I can't stress that enough. I'm sure you're a smart girl/or boy that knows what ammount is safe. Besides all this info, try talking to you doctor... he should have plenty of helpful tips. Hope I helped.

Q: what exactly is Brigitte Nielsen famous for?

She was a model & later became an actress. She has been tied to famous men such as Sylvester Stallone and Flavor Flave.

Q: My boyfriend & I's one year anniversary is coming up in a week. I have no idea what to do for him! I want to take him somewhere, but I'm not sure where. I also wanted to buy him a gift or make him one, but am clueless on what to do. I had two plans- I was going to take him to this local plantation that has beautiful gardens in it, but it's closed for a bunch of remodeling until March. Then my second option was to take him to this aqaurium that is 45 minutes away, although his parents won't let him drive that far. So now, I'm stuck on what to do. There is the choice of going to the movies, but we always do that. And we live right near the beach, but it's way to cold to do anything there.

Do you have a downtown area in your city? I'd say dinner & a walk around downtown, if possible. Or a nice picnic lunch at a local park. That way your boyfriend can drive, and it's still a nice, pretty, outdoor location. As for gifts... What about a nice jacket or his favorite colone? Go to a craft store & wander up and down the isles. I'm sure you can find something cute and easy to make him. I'm making my boyfriend a heart shapped pillow for valentines day. Maybe a photoalbum with pictures of you two, aswell? You know him best & after a year of dating you know what he'd like. Good luck & Happy Anniversary. And to the girl below me, no guy in his right mind would forget the 1 year anniversary. Well maybe.. if he had a death wish. =]

Q: i am only 15 so i cant get a job anywhere yet, but i need money and babysitting doesn't rake in enough cash! ive tried other things like petsitting and plantsitting but its still not enough. help me! -poor

Chick-fil-a, McDonalds, Zaxbys, and all ice cream stores (brusters, cold stone, baskin robins, etc.) hire 15 year olds. I head a rummor that grocery stores will hire you aswell, but a couple in my town say you have to be atleast 17. Good luck.

Q: i really dont get the word orgasm. somebody tell me what it is and how you achieve it.
lolz thanks :)

You asked "How do you know if you're having an orgasm?" & my answer is, simply... trust me, you'll know it! It occurs when a man/woman is experiencing maxium sexual pleasure.

Q: boyfriend & i are making a year
& we've yet to have " a song "
we both want one !
but cant seem to find anything
we both like country & rockish/indie

any help? :]

I know this isn't what you're looking for... But I honestly don't want to list song names. I know my boyfriend & I's song is something really special to us, and it just found us without even looking for it. There's a great story behind it. I want your song to come to you guys like that aswell. It's so much more special that way. If you don't want to sit around & wait.... how about the next time you see him turn on the radio and see what's playing or something like that. Let it come to you spontaneously. =]

Q: 15/f
ok i need help deciding what sport to play in the spring, sports are required at my school and i can't decide whether to play softball or lacrosse, I've never played either. I'm pretty fast, a good athlete. The softball team has really cool people on it, like my bestfriend and other people i like, plus the coach is really good, he wants me to play. LAcrosse seems more of a sport for me because it's a lot of running rather than strategy but i can't decide! also, lacrosse i don't like the people on the team as much, but i do have some friends on it, and there is one girl who plays who is such a self absorbed ball hog and that frustrates me.
I can't decide, I want to do something that would be fun, not boring, and a good sport for me. HELP PLEASE

I need some advice from people who have played either or both, thanks, i'll rate you 5 even if i don't agree with your advice, please i just need some insight

It sounds like you've already made a pro & con list for each sport, now all you have left to do is pick one. I personally say go with softball. I've played for 5 years, and I absoultely love it! There is so much that goes into one game, it's really exciting. But if you honestly think lacrosse is more for you, go for it! You'll make new friendships through the team. Good luck deciding, & let me know what you pick.

EDIT: to answer your question... No, I don't think you'll get bored. You're either batting or feilding, so you're always doin' something. It's a really good sport to shine in too. If you're really good you'll stand out & love it even more. Pratice does make perfect. It's a super fun sport, to me atleast, hopefully you'll like it too.