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Q: I'm in the typical high school drama situation and to be honest, I completely asked for it. It was my mistake. Now, I need help getting out of it.

17F

Long story short, my "best friend" (I use quotes because I hate saying those words) went out with this guy for 1yr+ and he recently dumped her.

She started going out with a new guy but she still has feelings for her first boyfriend. She wanted to preserve her friendship with her ex, but she felt like he didn't want to be her friend anymore.

Unfortunately, I have a crush on her ex (BUT NOBODY on planet Earth knows) and so I thought I would try to help the situation by calling him and talking to him about it. He said nothing new except that he's annoyed with her (she's genuinely concerned about their friendship) and that he can't trust anyone because rumors will start.

I really, really want to get him to realize that he can trust me while still maintaining my friendship with my "best friend." I think that is an impossibility but now I think for whatever reason I've gotten him to dislike me or trust me less because he's afraid I will leak information to her.

I just don't know what to do. My mind is telling me to immediately get out of this situation and let them handle it, and that's exactly what I told him. I, like he, cannot trust anyone, which is why I'm asking on this site. At the same time, I really want him to like me more than her. I asked him and he said he has ABSOLUTELY no feelings for her at all as a girlfriend.

I think she needs to move on from him and realize she has a new boyfriend and she should stop worrying about her friendship with him because he never said he didn't want to be friends with her. He said he would call her, but I know at this point I cannot butt in.

What should I do? I do not ever plan on telling him I like him because I cannot date him. My feelings for him should have no influence on any of my decisions. I'm just confused and afraid that he dislikes me because I transmit information to her like a good "best friend."

I feel like he wants to trust me but he can't because he knows she'll get all the info he tells me, and I don't want him to feel that way and I told him that but he's just forcing himself not to trust anyone because he's afraid. Should I try to hang out with him alone so he can open up? Would that be weird? We're good friends but I don't want him to think that the only reason why I want to hang out is to talk about his ex... I'm just so confused and this whole situation has escalated so much.
Honestly its just none of your buisness and you need to stick your nose out of it. If you wanna talk to him talk to him but not about his ex becuase it is between them and not you

Q: okay i been searching for a job for a while now and im in desprate need of money i mean like seriously! wats some good ways to make money because it doesnt seem like im ever going to get hired anywhere! pleeeease help!!!!!!
theres always some kind of job even if its fast food. I suggest if there is amilitary base near your try there because they are always looking for people.

Q: so me and my boyfriend had sex on wednesday the 18th protected. then like an hour later, he put it in for like 10 seconds unprotected and pulled out really fast and said "i could feel it start to come out but i know it didnt" and i could tell it didnt too. i was supposed to start yesterday (the 20th) but didnt, which is fine cause my schedule isnt completely set and is always a few days early or late. but i was wondering, since we had sex only 2 days before my period was supposed to start and we both know he didnt cum inside me, is there anyway i could be pregnant? please dont be mean to me abouot this, i really am nervous already. thank you:)
ps, im 16/f.
Theres always a possibility you could but and like the one on top said it doesn't mean squat how long he was in because he can't really feel when it comes out or stays in. But just relax because now that your nervous it could be making you even more nervous and that can stop your period. Just relax and if it doesn't happen in 2 weeks than go and take a pregnancy test. hope everything turns out ok

Q: okay so i was at my friend's house and her boyfriend was over and his friend was over too. we were watching a movie and his friend (we'll call him mitch) came and sat by me. halfway thru the movie his put his arm around me and like..rubbed his foot on mine. after the movie he said he had to go to sleep cuz he had to work in the morning. he left and then 5 min. later he came back and asked if i wanted to go lay down with him..and...well the bad thing is i did but nothing happened..we just cuddled. i dont even kno his last name. :/ missa 15/f
Welp your not a booty call but if you wanna be keep doing this. If this guy actually likes you he will tell you but right now if you dont know him really well dont do that again because your just trying to persuade him that he might be able to get to you. Sope I say next time tell him no! :)

Q: my boyfriend of almost two years cheats on me daily with my "best friend" and they both have the fucking nerve to deny it. which i just found out today. i love him for some strange reason, hes helped me threw so much he was there for me through my cancer and mental schizo rehab and many deaths and has always ben by my side i dont wana let him go but i dont think i can cry anymore, i want to stay with him but i dont? i dont know how to live without him.. what do i do, with explanation or try and convince me or something please :( iv had an extremely hard life im bad at letting go of ppl i love, were both almost 16
I'm apologize if I sound harsh..


This bonehead obviously doesn't give a rats tail about you because if he really is cheating on you than you KNOW you deserve better. He just wants to keep your around and you are just staying because you probably think you can't find anyone else. Just get rid of him because you are only a kid..you have your whole life ahead of you and there is a guy that will treat you as well as you deserve. And I know letting your first love go but everyone goes through it and you will find someone..I took a while to get over my ex and now I met someone who makes me happy. Let this moron go because he will do nothing but keep hurting you if you stay wit him...let him go you know you deserve better ;)

Q: My husband and I are ready to have a baby.I started my cycle on nov. 4th. We had unprotected sex the day after my period stopped,and a few other times since then. I have done alot of research with ovulation calendars and they said that this is my best week to get pregnant. ( Im most fertile) My cycle is every 30 days.. The ovulation calendar said that I should be ovulating today, november 20. We had unprotected sex on the 9th,13th17th and 19th of this month.. What are my chances of being pregnant?
You could get pregant no matter what day it was....anyone can with unprotected sex..so if your trying ot have a baby you could be just get a test done to be sure :)

Q: So here's the story...I really just don't know what to think of it all...we are both sophmores in college fyi.
After i broke up with my boyfriend of 6months..because it was a long distance relationship that really wasnt working out anymore...I started hanging out with this new guy. we were hanging out at least 4 nights a week plus seeing eachother & hanging out at parties on the weekend. when we hung out it was just watching movies sitting around..nothing fancy. every once in a while we messed around alittle bit..but not very much. most of the time it was just talking and cuddling..once in awhile we'd spend the night together. after about a month of this he took me to dinner on a friday night. we went to a school basketball game after dinner..saturday I went to his football game & we went out with a bunch of freinds that night. we spent the night together after that & went to lunch the next day. I was really busy on that monday so I didnt get a chance to talk to him..but then when i talked to him on tuesday he had a girlfriend....ummm? what happened? all of his freinds said that they hadnt even been talking and they were all really confused. they have been dating for about 2 weeks now and he continues to call me and text me saying how much he likes me and how much he misses me and how much of a mistake he made....i just dont know what to do now? i was really starting to fall for him and i really wish we could have kept hanging out..he keeps saying hes going to break up with his gf...that hes just waiting for her to give him a reason..idk help?
Honestly this guy doesn't care about you. Sorry to sound harsh but if he really likeed you he would've asked you out right away. It seems that he fooled around you just to play around with you. And he obvioulsy does like his gf becuase than he wouldn't be with her and he knows your gonna be waiting so he'll just stick around.

What you really need to do is cut all contact with him. If he relaly likes you he will dump his gf and come abck to you but what you are describing, he is just an a** wanting to use every girl he can. And like you said you2 are in college, all guys wanna do is have fun in college and not be attached

Q: I made a MySpace in 2005 that I lost both the password and emaily address to shortly after. It isn't set to private, and I have lots of embarrassing pictures and information that everyone tells me about when they search my name. How can I get it deleted? Is that even possible to do, since I have no proof that it's mine? Who would I contact?
I would probably contact Tom the creator of myspace, he can probably get rid of it. hope that helps

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Hey whats up! If you wanna know about me all you have to do is ask. I am very good at giving advice although sometimes I can be very harsh when it comes to the truth. But the truth hurts and if I am brutely honest I'm sorry. I listen to Dr. Laura so that could be why sometimes. I dont care what you say about her.. I like her deal with it but if you need advice just let me know and I'll do my best to help you out :)

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