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Ok i read the response u had for a young lady struggling with weight and u basically said being skinny is not all it s cracked up to be and let someone fall in love with u for u
Ok i am a lesbian woman and so i met this woman on the chat line and we were really feeling each other s personalities and she was more infatuated with me than i was with her, to the point where she was like "u cld be talking to ur wife" so anyways i sent her my picture and she was like i m disappointed and we have not really spoke since.
I am an overweight woman and i sometimes feel that i am not attractive but i love the way i look it just seems that others dont. It seems to be very hard for me to meet women due to my lack of self confidence, how can someone lose interest just like that ? it seems impossible to have someone fall for u when it is always about what u look like physically! (link)
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Unfortunately we live in a world where appearances definitely matter and there's not much we can do about it. But one thing those people who are successful and popular have in common is not beauty but self confidence. As you've said, you're lacking in confidence. I think that's more of a problem than your appearance itself. Ask yourself why you're not confident and what you can do to change your outlook. Only action will make things better for you. Always be honest with yourself. I used to make myself believe that I was happy with the way I looked, but I wasn't really. I was somehow on the defensive, trying to protect myself rather than face the truth.
But remember, everyone (including beautiful people)gets old and wrinkly but what you are on the inside will stay with you forever. Besides you will find someone just right for you when the time is right.
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my mom and dad are divoce and i keep on thinking my mom and my sis only care about my dad's money,and my uncle is in jail 4 5 years and i think my mom's friend husdand tryed touching me and my dad got married without asking us (link)
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I'm sorry that your life has been messed up because of people around you and through no fault of your own. You've probably lost trust and faith in them.
But the communication is the key here. Never ever keep how you're feeling to yourself. Do not bottle it all up. Let your parents know just how you feel, what your fears and anxieties are. They may not be willing to listen or they may not understand you at all, but if you suffer in silence, you will not get over this. As for your mum's friend's husband trying to touch you, again tell someone about it now. No one, absolutely no one should make you do or feel anything you are uncomfortable with. It's hard but you can be strong. You owe it to yourself to get your life back on track and not let others control it.
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This may sound really dumb, but I am seriously obsessed with a particular male celebrity. For some weird reason, once I see that "one hot" celebrity and learn a bit about him, I change myself entirely towards what relates closely to him. For example, if I were absolutely in love with Johnny Depp, I'd start to do more dark things and even dye my hair black. It's hard for me to find relationships because I'm always looking for guys who are close or exactly like that particular male celebrity. I know I'm never going to meet any male celebrity, but there is always some kind of hope in me that says I will. HELP!!! (link)
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It's a good sign that you recognise you need help because your obsession is clearly getting out of control and it's not healthy. You have to come back to the real world and face the reality right now because at the moment you're living in fantasy. You think you know him, but you don't really. You're just in love with an image of this celebrity and not the real person. You say there is always some kind of hope that you will meet him. But you need to look carefully and coldly at the facts. How much of a chance is there of actually meeting him or of a real romance developing with this person? Be honest. So are you going to let this obssession with this celebrity who doesn't even know you exist go any further and ruin what you've got or are you going to move on? It's up to you. It's not easy, but the best way to get over him is to stop reading or listening to anything and everything about him immediately.
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i really want a boyfriend i cant stand it..all the boys think im ugly and fat andi only weigh 126 and im 13 in 8th grade.. i just cant seen to find a bf i need help (link)
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I think you need to ask yourself why you want a boyfriend so desperately. Is it because everyone else seems to have one or is it because you feel something is lacking in your life and a boyfriend is the answer. Whatever your reason, you have to stop putting yourself down, first. How do you know all the boys think you're ugly and fat? Have you asked every single one of them? Besides, those boys who think you are unattractive are simply not worth it. Confidence in yourself is the best weapon you can have. Remember you don't need a boyfriend to make you happy, popular or anything else. You will meet a boy who is just right for you when the time is right. So, don't rush it.
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