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okay so im a girl who knows what she wants when she wants and recently i met this guy. he says he likes me and i told him im bisexual ive always been that way so please no one say i am confused cause im not i like them both. so i like him and he says he likes me to so then he tells me hes not lookin for a relationship...what should i do? (link)
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One thing I really think is great is that you know what you want and that you are in fact bi and very open about it shows be how confident you really are. And this guy had obviously nothing against you being bi and thats great. And you told him you like him and he apparently feels the same way. But look, here's i where I think you are taking your confidence a little too far. He may like you, but that doesn't mean he wants a relationship, and he told you this. Sometimes people just can't deal or don't have the time for a relationship, it's just the way it is. There's nothing wrong with that, meaning there's nothing wrong with him! I think what's wrong is that you expected him to want to be with you. And that's normal, of course, but when someone doesn't want it, then you should respect that. And if he's that stupid, to not want to be with you, then he's not worth your time. You deserve someone who's ready for a relationship and someone who treats you with respect and someone who loves you more that you love them. What you should do, is leave him. He'll realize what he lost once your gone :)
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Heres the thing. I really really like my best guy friend. We've been friends for such a long time and he's helped me through so much including a really bad break up last summer.... Over winter break and before he would text me everysingle day and it honestly felt like he liked me but I was too scared to say anything about it. After winter break his friends and mine started to joke with him saying we liked eachther and what not and when I would talk to him about it he'd say stuff like "wow" or "tell them theyre being stupid" never "that's not true". Lately though he doesn't act the same. I have to start the conversation every single day but then later in the conversation if I don't reply he'll get mad. And he always seems really into talkingto me. I felt like I was being annoying though so I apologized to him. What he didnt know was that that ex that was horrible to me is trying to get me back and I knee I cant go back with him but I wanted to! I can't go through all the details just know I CAN'T go back to my ex, I can't put myself through that kind of pain again and it's takn me a long time to realize this... Even though i still want him. And my guy friend is the only person I can talk and not think about or want to talk to my ex... What's up with that?? I told my guy friend this. And I told him I'm not really sure what it means and he just laughed and was like "you're crazy. I havent noticed you being annoying at all. And hun I know you can handle him by yourself you don't need me as much as you think you do" and yeah... I still text him every single day and we hang out every weekend (in a group most of the time). He's so amazing and He makes me so happy and I can't stand not being around him... He asked me last night of it was weird that he danced with this freshman girl at our last dance/thought she was really hot. And it kind of almost broke my heart... Hahaha even though I talk about hot guys with him (and he does get mad about that haha) I felt myself getting sooo jealous. I don know what to do. I know I'm gonna break down today and text him but I can't keep doing this but I can't handle things without him! (guy friend is 16/m ex is 17/m both juniors. I am 15/f sophomore) by the way he HATES my ex boyfriend. (link)
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Honey, I honestly don't see your big problem! Except for the fact that your ex wants you back. Yeah, that must be crappy, but it's your decision. You get to chose whether you want your ex or not! Listen, you've got this real amazing best guy friend, the kind that girls like me just dream of and he cares about you. He takes care of you, you tell each other everything and you have an ex who's dying to have you back. Tell me, wheres the big problem in that? I'm somehow realizing that you keep talking about how your scared that you're annoying, and that you need your friend so much, and how you wanted to go back with your ex although the relationship was bad and that u can't handle things without your best guy friend. It seems to be that you have some serious self worth problems. Your convincing yourself that you are nothing without your best friend, and how you can't do anything without him when you really can! I'm sorry, but what's wrong with you? Even your best friend is telling you that you don't need him as much as you think you do. Stop thinking that you can't do anything or be anything! I mean seriously! I'm not saying stop hanging out with your guy friend, or stop texting, I'm not saying that at all! But girl, you need to learn some self respect. You are a strong and confident woman who can make her own decisions and doesn't need anyone to tell her she's great or not annoying or that she can do things by her self. And you gotta just be happy you got the great guy friend, not every girl has that. so stop with the unnecessary drama! You don't need your ex! And you shouldn't have a best guy friend because you need one, but because you want one. It should be a choice, not a necessity! Your 15 for god sakes, you've got your whole life in front of you. And if you ever want to make it, you've got to believe in yourself. Trust me, you'll do yourself and your guy friend a favor, if you learn to be confident and independent! It's sad to see a woman who thinks so little of herself, it probably hurts your guy friend too! You deserve the best, you can be the best and you've got to believe that!
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I met this girl at church three and a half months ago. She is a good person and we are so compatible. I love her a lot. I have some issues with her not calling me until the late evening, not answering my texts or even remember my birthday! She doesn't work and her kids are at school. Plus, she is always busy to see me. She never commits to a time and if she does she rarely follows thru. I feel that new relationships require time together not once every three weeks. What should i do? Am I asking for too much? By the way she just left a abusive relationship before we met. now when do see each other she treats me and makes me feel special but I am hurt because I don't see her often.
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What you must understand is that this woman you like, comes from a horrible past relationship. Coming out of an abusive relationship is lucky, and great, but those memories from that relationship hardly ever go away. She's probably still haunted by all of it. And if there are kids involved, then of course she's going to have to take care of her children. Yes she may not have work, she may not always call you, she rarely follows through but what do you expect from her? Her life is hectic, she has a horrible past, she has no job, and she's a single mom raising children. To me that sounds pretty damn impressive. Yeah, alright, she hardly has time but do you blame her? Look, her life is a mess. Maybe it's too soon to start the 'relationship'. Maybe it's a better idea to become her friend first, be there for her, support her, help her. Wait until she's got her life together, wait until she's ready and not afraid of being in a relationship anymore, wait! Because if you want to start a relationship, you want to start it right. And if you start one now, with they way she is, it's not gonna work. So, it's either you move on, or you wait. So the real question here is, are you willing to wait, is she worth it?
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Hello, (Sorry, if it's long..>..< What do you guys think? Do I just need to relax and wait until I'm able to talk with him again? :/ (link)
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Alright. Here's my advice for you!
What you must understand is that your boyfriend comes from a broken home(with his mom being on drugs, and him not knowing his dad), he also comes from many broken relationships(his past girlfriends cheating on him..), so when he says that he loves you, and you're the one, BELIEVE HIM! He has gone through too much pain to lie! And yes, his grandmother may be strict, but to the grandmother, your boyfriend is all she's got. And she knows the pain he's been through. And it's definitely not easy raising a teenage boy as an older woman. Not to mention times have changed, the things teenagers do now a days when their in love... i think it scares the grandmother. Look, I know where you're coming from. My boyfriend and me are going through some ruff patches..we hardly have time for each other, parents are interfering and annoying..we haven't been alone in weeks! It's in those times that I think that I might lose him. But then there are those moments, you know? When finally after that long time, you get to talk to him, you get to be with him, you get to kiss him and it's the best feeling in the world. It's those moments that you've got to hold on to. And be patient..you'll find ways to meet..if you truly like each other, you guys will stop at nothing to be together!
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