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Hi my name is Lety and I am here to help. I currently work full time but like to turn on my computer in the evenings and help anyone in need of an answer(s). Please don't be shy, drop me a line if you need anything, I truly would love to help..........

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I have a hard time just hanging out and relaxing with people! I can't help but think people are constantly judging me, thinking bad thoughts about me, and I always think I'm going to get into trouble. If were just driving around, I'm almost positive I'll get pulled over or get in an accident!

How do I chill out and just have fun with my friends without worrying about everything?

Okay why do you feel this way?

Let's put this question in another way, what if someone judges you, what if you get pulled over??

A judgement is nothing but someone's opinion and that shouldn't matter to you.....People talk and talk but that doesn't mean it's real...You shouldn't let people's minds take you down.....As for getting pulled over, why will you get pulled over??

Life is about taking chances and always being careful but don't leave in fear..........

If you have faith in GOD things will always have a good outcome.........

I'm here if you need me :)

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When you love a guy, and you just start losing trust does that mean that we don't need to be together. He is losing trust in me, and i'm losing it in him. I dont know why were losing so much trust. I'd give the world for him to trust me, and I no he'll do the same. I'm also thinking that maybe it has something to do with other people telling him I was cheating on him, but I dont know. I'm really scared to loose him. He is the best person (guy wise) that i've ever met. He makes his whole day revolve around me, even when we are at school. I try my best to give him everything he wants, I talk to him more than I talk to my friends and half my family, I tell him everything, I've even stoped talking to my guy friends that I play football, and basketball with for fun, just so he can trust me, I know that he did trust me, until one day he went to school (we go to diffrent schools) alot of people went up to him telling him I was cheating on him, they knew we was going out becuase I was his wallpaper on his phone and it said I Love My Baby Elizabeth!! They told him I was dating this other dude (and i wasnt) and I guess he believed it but i dont know. I can't lose his trust. I Love Him To Death && He Means The World To Me!!

First of all why are others spreading rumors about you........Are you giving them any reasons to think bad of you???

I suggest you confront all of them infront of your dude and make it clear that you are with him because you love him and that no other guy is your interest............

Trust is hard to keep and maintain BUT if you guys love eachother that should be your main priority :)

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Umm... I'm a really shy person and I was wondering if anybody can help me become more talkative and less shy. Maybe even some reasons why I'm quiet. Well thanks to those that can help.

With love,
~!MysteriousGirl!~

I used to be in your shoes & know how hard it is to break out of the shell........

When you talk to others how do you feel? do you feel they are judging you?

Why dont' you try this........The next time you talk to someone, think of it as "what the heck I am a confident girl that nomatter what they think I have it going on........boost your ego up & youll be fine.........

W/B if you need my help :)

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I'm dying my hair black today, and I'm doing it myselff. But in my bangs I have pink streaks in my hair and I want to keep them, and I don't want to have to rebleach my hair, how can I dye my whole head black but keep those pink streaks seperate?

Why dont' you try to cover those streaks with aluminium foil this way they wont get died..............I gave it a try :)

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how would u guys treat a back stabbing friend???? especially she spread nasty rumors about you??
also she take your friends away??????

I would absolutely be really upset for her or his betrayal........

I say if you confronted her already then just let it go..........

Let GOD take things from your hands and deal with him or her.............

Sometimes friends are envious and do things out of that but playing the game as they do is childish and immature, let things fall into place by putting them into GOD's hands :)

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I don't understand why people have so much faith in me. They tell me that I'll make a team or that guy will go out with me but when it comes around for that stuff I didn't make the team or that guy acutally had the crush on girl who told me. Is it their confidence? I know i lack in that area and if it is b/c of their confidence i am glad to lack because i would never want to keep being put down like that i understand that it's not on purpose but still why do people say such reasuring things?

People believe in you that's why they say those things............

The ? is do you believe in yourself?

I suggest you don't let their comments offend you or make you doubt yourself......Take their confidence as a plus on your court just assure them that if it fails your okay with it.......

Hope I was of help :)

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My friend's boyfriend broke up with her unexpectedly 2 1/2 months ago after a 10 year long live-in relationship. She is obviously heartbroken, shocked, confused, afraid, angry, etc. Here's the trouble... Several of our other girlfriends are giving her terrible advice (i.e. You should try to make him jealous. You should start dating immediately. You just need to go out and party. If you want him back, you have to compete with the girls he's seeing and fight for him.) It is obvious to me that he doesn't want to be back in this relationship. Her efforts to get his attention and make him jealous are only resulting in further disappointment for her. What can I do to help her let go? She is still totally clinging to hope and hasn't moved into the "acceptance" stage of the grieving process. She is turning 40 this year, and that is also a great fear for her. She feels she gave the best years of her life to him and that she'll never have true romance again.

I wish I had better advice for her than some of my other friends, but I don't. I try to encourage her to look ahead to a bright future, to make plans for a bright future, that she deserves a bright future, that she is capable of crafting a bright future, and that she is intelligent, strong, and loved and supported by many, many people.

She just keeps trying to compete with the new girls he's seeing, and she'll never come out on top because he doesn't want to be with her. How can I help her see that? I am tired of watching her set herself up for what is turning out to be continuous, extreme disappointment.

OMFG

1st of all your an amazing friend for looking out for your friend. She is one lucky person to have you in her life.

Breakups are always a tough situation. It takes time for an individual to see reality, and this is me talking about my own experience.

I would suggest you continue distracting her, and making her feel special and loved. Try to make her see that she is a tough girl that if he does't feel this way for her then why continue looking for him. How about taking some time away from town and just seeing the world from another part of town. Or even enrolling her into a type of hobby such as an art class or something that you both can cherish and that she can distract herself.

Just make her understand that she is worth more then competing with other girls. Repeat to her (over and over if possible) how gorgeous she is and how she doesn't deserve to be humiliated like that........You can also tell her a lil fib and say that if you ignore the man and those girls maybey this way he can realize how good he had it and come back to her........

It's a tough situation but I know that aslong as your aside her she will be just fine.........

Please feel free to contact me if you have further questions, hope I was of help>

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fall in love with you or have some kind of feeling from beening hate you???
this guy use to like me a lot but i turn him down now he starts to hate me sooo much, but how do i make him like me again?

U know what then try to talk to him and see if their is a way you can win him back.........Please don't take NO for an answer, when it is true love their is always a way......

As for your other friend, don't let this get you down. @ times friends do very bad things behind your back , so my advice to you is to always be very careful who you give your friendship to cause you never know who really has your back. I recently went through two really bad friendship breakups and learned A LOT from them.

So I say keep it up and don't frown because when you do they'll know they won!!

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