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Q: umm..i saw you were a dancer..i am looking at studios..do you know any of these places i heard differnt stuff about them...
*the centre(i heard they were stuck up)
*dallas powerhouse of dance(i heard they were rude)
*dancin feet(i heard they were good but were a little riskay)
*melvis(i heard they were not that great)
*top hat(i heard they were great but tough)
*dancers studio(i heard they were okay)
*footlights(i heard they weren't the best)

any suggestions???

k..haha! well i'm a dancer yea at Dancin' Feet so obisouly i'd say that my studios the best. which i think it is..yeah were a little riskay but it wins. thats why we are. i've danced there for 11 years now...and i'm in their elite company. last year we were listed in the "TOP 50 STUDIOS IN THE NATION" ..so we're not bad. Sharron from Top Hat was my teachers dance teacher when she was younger..and i'm not gonna say anything, but basically she was really hard on my teacher. thats all im gonna say about that though..haha! lol..anyways if you are reallyyyy looking to win at competition and okay will being what they call us..."riskay" then Dancin' Feet is for you. Were all extremely close and have so much fun together. We have a competition in Feburary...so you should come watch us. If you i/m me later i'll give you dates and stuff. But Dancin' Feet is way fun..and if you get a chance next summer you should audition for our preforming company..DFPC! its awsesome. but really I/M me!! Love..oo and i hope i helped!

Q: Hey what dance studio do you go to and are ya'll doign the Cowboy's thanksgiving halftime show with destiny's child? I'm a dancer too and I'm doing the show and was just wondering if you were too lol.

heyy! haha i go to Dancin' Feet! and yes we are doing the thanksgiving halftime shwo with destiny's child!!! were u at the practice today? the dance is sorta hard! haha you know the brown haired girl that was teaching? shes like my big sis! hehe i love her..lol i've know here since i was 3!! well good luck learnin the dances and stuff! and i/m me!! LOVE LOVE!

Q: laney, im pregnant and im only 16, i havent told my parents yet.. what do i do?! they are going to kill me!

tell them...talk to them...you have too! they're going to find out soon enough!!!

Q: okay so i have this friend who i've had for like a couple years now and she's really cool...but sometimes we are really diff. like when it comes to values and stuff. i don't know if you have any morals (according to some of the stuff i've heard) but i know that u can't believe everything that u hear that is why i'm not judging you like everyone else in this thing. But i know that i'm not gonna find someone just like me and have the same veiws but i have certain morals and she just kinda does what other people do. and i know u are gonna say talk to her about it but i don't know what to say ya know??

i do have morals, more than ppl give me credit for. well a lot more than ppl give me credit for. i'm a really really good girl. seriously, compared to everyone else. not to brag, but thats not braggin...sometimes being a "good girl" isn't the best thing. like in ur sistuatuion! im sure your frined just feels like she HAS to do what other ppl do...i mean i know you don't want to hear this..but uh...you HAVE to talk to her. i mean is she dangering her life? if she is, then thats terrible..she needs her BEST FRIEND to stand beside her. she may not thank you now but in the end...she is thank you soo much!!!!

Q: Hey...so there's this guy who is honestly like MY BEST FRIEND, and we just had a talk tonight about how we will always be there for each other and how we both really want to stay this close of friends...one problem....

I'M ABSOLUTLY IN LOVE WITH HIM!!! but I just can't tell him. Maybe fear of losing our friendship. But wow...WHAT WOULD YOU DOOOO! Be honest hun...I don't want none of the "tell him how you feel cuz u never know" stuff. lol. I actually did know who you were when I lived there but OKAY good luck w/ everything...BYE BABE!!!

..i would like your opinion!!! =]

well you don't want this...but..."tell him how you feel because you never know" thats truely my opinion!!! if i was in the sistuation...thats the excate thing i would do!!!! much love..*lane!* and you knew me when you lived here? .. hmm i/m me!!!!! LOVE YOU!

Q: so u don't have cramps...and u don't know what to do about them! do u get a period???

aww..yes i doO! haha!

Q: OK on a scale of 1-10 ten being the hardest... how would you rank the tryouts for cheerleading.. consider all the people and everything who tried out and the judges and what did you have to do to make the squad. also how many others were in the room and did you go one at a time. what did you have to learn and do. if you could help i would apriceiat!

uh....freshman prolli a 6?? i dunno! When we tried out, there were 2 other ppl in our group, 3 total. You go in a spirit. then the 1st girl goes and throws her tumbling. and then the next two...theres a mat for running tumbling. then you spirit up closer to the judges...and you each do your cheer. the cheer we learn at the clinic the week before. theres like a part you can do whatever want. like toe-touch back toe-touch backhandspring or just 2 toe-touches. then you each do your jumps. for freshman its right hurdler (herky), toe-touch, and your choice for the 3rd one. then you all dance. you'll learn the dance and the cheer at the clinic the week before that the senior cheerleaders teach. Its a good expiernce even if you don't think your going to make it.

Q: ok it seems that girls tend not to like the non-preppy kids. i am not a prep, not ur typical whiteboy. but i like this girl that goes for preps wat should i try to do to get her to like me.

Uh.....try talking to her. i dunno really! try just telling her that you like you .. u nevvverr know!

Q: U DON'T GET CRAMPS! well do u know what i could do for them?

hahaha. i have no idea?!

Q: what do u do for period cramps?

i dont get cramps! hahahaha lol!

Q: do u prefer thongs or g-strings?

its none of your business??????

Q: hey laney... how do u deal with rumors that u know are NOT true?

This is what i do...I dont worry about them. If i know in my heart that they aren't true, then the closest friends that you have will know too. I have tons of realllllly close guy firneds and like 3 or 4 gooood girl friends and one BEST FRIEND and thats enough for me. THey are the ones that know the truth about me and wouldn't ever believe stupid rumors like the ones that are said about me. All you can do is just know that the people that u trust don't think that they are true, and just blow everyone else off. Becuase even if you say you didnt do it peopole will STILL say you did. Its just how girls are. They're MEANNN! haha! dont worry about it seriously! Much Love, *lane!*

Q: what school do u go to?

FLower Mound High School!

Q: I really like this guy but he sends me tons of mixed signals...like he flirts w/ me then he will turn around and flirt w/ my friends. I just dont know how to tell...how do u get a guy to like you?

Talk to him, tell him that you feel like he's sending you tons of mixed signals!!! I mean he could think that you dont like him! best thing to do: *TALK TO HIM!!!!!* Much love, *lane!*

Q: how can you get better @ kissing, making out, masturbating, and other things of that matter?
whats your best masturbating technique? have you ever masurbated with antoher person? howd it go?

uh...what? i dont masturbate! baha! ask someone else! hahaha! thats funny!

Q: what do you do if you like someone that has a gf?

how do you stop liking a guy?

does hottness matter to you?

would you date someone younger than you?

how far have you gone with a guy?

how far have you gone with a girl?

would you do any of the above 2 again if you had the chance?

hmm thanks!

-talk to them
-in time your feelings will fade
-uh...sometimes. if their hott and no personality hellll no! but if they're okay and have a great personality heellllls yess! haha
-i dunno about right now!
-made out
-nothing
-yes...i would make out again! haha

Q: i have this friend...best friend! i went to a football game...and i'm in rotc so i had to work it! she was there but didn't talk to me at all, and i know its b/c i'm in uniform and i look like a total idiot in it! and she totally ignores me, this is my best friend and she totally ditches me! she knows i'm mad b/c i told her, but now shes crawling back to me. i don't know what to do! this is a friend...that i've been friends with for more than 11 years, but she has this problem where shes embarrased to be around someone who looks really stupid! i don't know what to do!
-a confused cadet!

first of all, I LOVE ROTC! haha! second of all, thats low. but you shoudl talk to her. make sure that that is the reason she didnt talk to you. don't jump to conclusions! I promise that if make sure that you have ur story straight and that is the case, then shes not a good friend. but talk to her first! Much Love, *lane!*

Q: ok well i used to know this super cool girl. WE were like best friends for like 2 years. Then pver the summer we got in a huge fight because she was talking about me badly. Then when school started i decided to become friends with her agina b.c we would be in the same classes. She seemed totally weird and would tell me i was jealous of her b.c she was "popular"(what ever) any way she seems nicer and i kinda want to be her friend again but i dont know what to do?

"Popular Friend"

I'd talk to her. PEOPLE THE BEST WAY TO SOLVE PROBLEMS IS TO TALK ABOUT IT! Dont hold it inside you because that just creates anger towards the person. If there is a problem, ask them, talk to them. See what they think! If she is still telling you shes too "popular" for you, shes NOT worth it. Forget it. But a 2 year friendship with one HUGE fight...is good for girls at our age. Don't let one thing ruin it. basically, Talk To HEr!!! Much Love, *lane!*

Q: I need help. I have two really good friends. One of them is my best friend, and the other friend didnt really become my friend until last year. We actually hated each other until last year and became good friends. Anyway my best friend was telling me that the other friend was talking bad about me. She said not to ask her about it because then she would get in trouble for telling me. She was telling me for my own good, buts its hard to believe that the other friend would say that stuff about me. I'm not even upset or anything, I just wish people would tell these things to my face. I can't ask her about it thought without getting my best friend in trouble. Sometimes I even think she is making this up just to make me not want to hang out wiht the other friend. I want to believe her, but i want to believe the other friend is better than this. Please help me Laney!!
*confused

Whether or not its going to get ur other friend in trouble, you need to talk to the other girl about it. If you can't talk to her, with out her lying to ur face, shes not the right person to be hanging out with. In my opinion, you should alwasy trust your best friend. Figure out which one has been there for you the longest and you trust more. However; your best friend could only be saying this stuff to you because she is jealous of you and your other friend. Talk to them both about it at seperate time, then together. Thats the only real way to solve problems! Much Love, *lane!*

Q: Hey! im really shy and all of the people i hang out with aren't so its really hard for me to meet new people what should i do?
Tired of being shy

All you can do is just open up. Believe in yourself. Also, talk to your friends. If they're trustworthy than they'll figure something out! And...never forget that your mom knows the most about you. Like my momma, shes my best friend! Much Love, *lane!*