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Q: so i have this boyfriend. almost 3 months. but we have only held hands and hugged. he is going sooo slow. every one is like .. make the first move. but im really shy. like.. really shy. but just around the boy im going out with. are there anyway i can sortof give him hints.. but not make the firt move? 13/f

Well being 13 the easiest way is to do the "friend Chian" (you know Bob told mary that sue said).

Tell your friend to tell a friend of his that you want him to make the first move, and his friend will tell him that allowing him to know that he should make the first move.

Q: Okay im new at this but im going to give it a try. I am a sophmore and i am goin out with this guy we've been going out for almost 4 months now. Well there is this girl who USED to be my friend and talks about me all the time and im getting sick of it well i just found out the other day that she has a "plan" to get me and my boyfriend to break up. i dont know what to do??? please help me i'll rate high!! thank you so much

Tell your boyfriend that an crazy X friend of yours is trying to ruin your relationship and that ou love him and don't want that to happen

Q: Okay, so I played the lead character opposite a guy friend of mine in our school's spring play. The only problem was, we were good friends before, but we had to actually kiss onstage, no stage kissing, no angling it - it was real.
The first time he kissed me, it was during an excercise we were doing for our drama teacher to "develop our characters' relationship," and we both got really into it.
The day after that, he wouldn't look at me, and ever since then our friendship has been...awkward? I mean like, we used to talk about everything, now every conversation we have seems to be awkward and forced, almost as if we're afraid to talk.
The play's over now, and our friendship is sort of going back to normal, but there's still a little...awkwardness to it. I never got a crush on him, but my character definitely liked his character, and his definitely liked mine. But we never liked each other as who we really are...if that makes any sense...Why do you think all the awkwardness happened? I'm just curious to see what you all think.

Well a great kiss can add a spin to anything. AS a personal experience I was at a concert and i have kissed very few people but this random girl in the crowd started making out with me, and yet i'll never forget that moment.

When two people kiss, wether you want it or not emotions start to build inside for the other. Not that you like them but it usually always gives a wierd twist to things.

I would say talk to him about becuase if he has never had a crush on you and still doesn't (and you know this for sure) and you have never srushed him, then talking about it really should make the awkwardness to stop, expecailly if you can turn it into something that you can both laugh at like friends would.

Q: my boyfriend just broke up with me and he gave me this necklace while i was going out with him and it meant a lot to me. i want to give it back to him but not to his face, i want to put it in his locker with a note. i don't know what to say in the note. ive thought of everything and nothing feels right to say its got to be short and meaningful. something that says "i'm over you", "its your loss" and stuff like that...but i dont want to say something MEAN b/c i dont want him hating me...i want it to say basically "i've moved on", and "you missed out." something like that Please Help Me. I really want to leave a big MEANINGFUL impression on him....HELP.
(the phrases i put in quotes...i dont want to use those exactly....)
xoxo Arielle

"Your loss not mine"

Says that your over him and it's his loss.

Q: Every gel I use for my hair, makes my hair greyish and flakey. I have used numerous types and its always the same.
Is it my hair?
If not, what gel would *you* reccomend?

Thanks (any advice appreciated)

Well If it always ends up flakey you must be quite active or move your hair a lot. There is no real way to avoid that except to alway be thinking "is my hair being moved or touched".

depending on the length of your hair and the style you choose I would suggest a something stonger then gel, glue. Got 2b Glued is a good product that will make sure your hair stays in place.