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I think I acted pretty annoying before, so my cousins decided to make a plan, that is to ignore me (I know this 'cause I've noticed). So I asked my sister about (she's included in the plan). She admits it, and I told her to stop. And then I talked to my mother about it. But, it's been two years, and it didn't improve. Now, whenever my sister gets out of the room, they ignore me completely, and they can't even look at me. Please help me! (link)
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Hey,
Have you apologized? Try talking to them - a mature discussion. That you realize that what you did before was annoying but you cherish your cousins' friendship too much to let this go on forever. Do your part, make the first step. No matter what comes next, you know you did all you could to have things back to normal. Maybe talk to your cousins' parents/older siblings? I hope this helps.
K
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Me and my boyfriend have been goin out for two months now and are both seventeen years old and are in a long distance relationship. the other day i popped my cherry when i was thinkin about him and we were sexting. I told my god-sister what happened and she said well at least yall can have phone sex now. Me and him really want to have it but just dont know how to start off. we are madly in love with eachother and want to do it. i really need some advice on how to start it or even how to do it. I think it will help our relationship because of the fact we will so far away. We both really wanna have phone sex. Please Help (link)
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Hey,
Have you considered using Skype? Regardless of the technology you two end up using, be descriptive about your actions and feelings - use words that will turn him on, breathe, moan, tell him what you want to do to him and what you want him to do to you. Have fun with it =).
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what is the procedure for getting teeth pulled and getting dentures
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http://www.aboutcosmeticdentistry.com/procedures/dental_dentures/personal_stories.html -- you're better off looking this up online, unless you're looking for personal experience stories. Best of luck, hope it goes well.
K
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examples of talent show performances (link)
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Hey,
Here you go!
1. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gq7r3F1SoX0
(original found here http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dTAAsCNK7RA&feature=related)
2. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dMH0bHeiRNg
3. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1QxVxELSZUo
4. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LqyU6Sg3X5s
5. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VSBefGi7F-Y
6. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1t5Mem5ay8s
7. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nFZ-UBtbVs4
I am a huge fan of musical performances, so I looked that up. Search for "talent show ideas" on Google and YouTube, you'll be surprised of the possibilities! Have a great time with it, best of luck.
K
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Okay so my boyfriend of 2 years broke up with me because he felt to much pressure so young and wasn't ready for a full blown commitment. We go to College together and are on the same cross country/track team in college. The break up was really hard we both had random flings with other people but then he would always call me back in to the picture and say "Your are the love of my life, but I just need more time". So about 8 months of being broken up we go back together and it was Amazing to be back with the person I love most. But now are relationship is very odd, and not quite the way it used to be. He is now completely hot and cold. Sometimes he doesn't act very "couply" to me in public and in front of the team he is cold to me. where as other days he is super flirty and nice to me in public. I am super insecure about the relationship because of our past and I could be overexerting but he sometimes just seems ashamed. When I asked him hat was up he said he loved me so much and that this time it forever and that I should Relax, I have no hing to worry about. Also, since we have gotten back together we don't have as much sex as we did be for (or when we were broken up). I always am the One start it whereas he used to get hard simply flirting with me. He always says "lets make our dinner date on Friday special No sex until then" he seems to have no urge in the in between days to break the rule. Next week is finals week so maybe he is Just stressed about school and the end of the track season. But I need advice on how to not to be so insecure and what I should do to peak his interest and get things back to normal.
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Hey,
Maybe it's taking time for your boyfriend to readjust. Maybe during that separation he realized things he never acknowledged before, things like sex not being as dominant in your relationship and taking a certain stance in a public or professional environment a.k.a. not acting "coupley". Think back in your relationship, the happiest times, the times when sex wasn't all over the place, and pick out those moments and relive them with him. He could just be extremely careful to make sure that he doesn't take a step that will offend you, or he could just be wanting to take it slowly, to avoid having the same feelings of stress regarding commitment. Things will never go back to the way they used to be, that's just life - but you can always make it way better than before. And on a final note - try seeking his advice and ask him this very question and see what he says. It's going to be okay.
K
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First, lets set the scene.
I am a 20 year old male living with my mom, my brother, and one of my sisters. My mom is in her 50's, my brother and sister in their early to mid 30's. My other sister is married and lives with her husbands parents over 100 miles away.
I am somewhat unemployed. I work as a temp and I only have jobs sometimes. I am still actively looking for a job but no luck, mostly because I didn't have experience before.
My mom works as a baby nurse, but makes under 10k a year because she doesn't get many jobs.
My brother doesn't work.
My sister that lives with me works part time at Wal-Mart and has been unable to find something better.
Here is the issue. We all live in the same house so arguments are often as it is already. Luckily we live in a 4 bedroom house so we have somewhere to retreat to, when my mom doesn't decided to come to me with the fight.
My brother, sister, and I all rely pretty much completely on my mom. I don't know how, but over the years, she has seized control over us. We have trouble making decisions without her. Or if we can make a decision, we don't because we are afraid it will make her angry.
My brother, sister and I get along fairly well, we treat eachother as equals. However, my mom does not. She is controlling. She doesn't treat us as equals. She orders us around, and if she doesn't like something, we are NOT allowed to do it. And if we tell her "No" to whatever she orders us to do, then she throws a tantrum and starts screaming and yelling and threatening to kick us out of the house unless we do what she says. Eventually, we cave and do what she says. At times, she threatens to hit us. And at times, she has hit me when I wouldn't budge. Nothing more than a slap in the face usually.
When she doesn't get angry about us saying no, she will play the "you don't love me" trick and start pouting about how we don't love her, or care for her.
There are many more issues and examples, but I will leave it there for now. I have just recently realized that I am now an adult, and I will never really be an adult until I get away from her and can be an adult and not treated like a child. I am constantly stressed when I am around her. I am afraid I will do something wrong to anger her. I even have dreams from time to time about her yelling at me for doing this or that. I am constantly stressed. I suffer from depression, and although I am on medication I do not believe my depression can truly be fixed until something around her changes or I move out.
I want to move out, but am unable to until I can get a permenant job, which I do not yet have but am looking. My mom makes the majority of the money in the house, but just barely.
What do I do? Everyday I am getting more and more fedup with it all. It's not healthy to be constantly stressed about this all... (link)
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Hey,
I am so sorry about all that you're going through. What I'm about to say may be the worst advice you will ever get, but I will give it a try: how about you move out with your brother and sister and live together till everyone gets to a good spot? I understand if the financial side is a problem, in which case, do you have any friends you can live with? Why doesn't your brother work? Maybe you can push him to start doing something so the three of you can move out together and start a healthier, better life that way? This is a very sensitive situation, and in no way I am recommending that you leave your mother behind. I just know that it will be better for all of you to have some sort of hope and duties other than coping with all that stress and have it affect your lives at a young age. Maybe start looking for work elsewhere? In another region? state? Don't give up. And assure your mother that by moving out or speaking your mind you are not indifferent about her, that you value her position in your life, but in order for things to get better for you, you need to break free from her grasp. I hope this helps you, let me know if there's anything else I can do.
K
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Ok so I dated this guy for 3 months last year. I'm 18 and he's 25. He broke up with me in December. He said he needed to work on himself. While we were together we had some issues with communication. I thought we could work them out so I was surprised and devastated at the break up, but I tried to move on. 3 weeks after that he called me and we talked for about 4 hours which resulted in us getting back together. So everything was going good. Then I stopped hearing from him. His phone was off and I had no way to get in touch with him. About 4 weeks later he called me and said he was stuck in Mexico, had no charger for his phone and he didn't have my number memorized so he couldn't call. I basically said it was fine and we were still together. Then another 3 weeks goes by without my hearing from him and he sends me a text asking how I am and if we're still together. I said yes and then 2 days later he texts me and says he just wants to be friends. Now I'm trying to move on but he keeps texting me telling me he misses me and I was the best thing in his life but its so confusing because if that's the truth then why break up. (link)
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Hey,
I'm not so sure about those long breaks he keeps taking, then coming back to you to "check" if you're together. He should know that you are or aren't - you both agreed on a "yes" and it will stay a "yes" till you both say "no". Maybe the reason why he keeps asking is because he's done/doing something that puts the relationship at risk. Maybe he's hiding something? It's not fair on his part to keep you on hold like that. He may need to work on himself, but you need to work on yourself too. He can't treat you like a back-up plan like this. Maybe this is for the best. If you *really* want to know what's going on, sit down and have a talk with him. A serious one. I hope this helps.
K
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Can petroleuom jelly help to and how long (link)
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Can it help to ... what? Elaborate, and I'll try to help.
K
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I'm in a confusing situation, i'm 25 and basically i've been with my current boyfriend for 5 years and we have a mortgage together but things haven't been going great for me recently, my feelings have started to change and i dont see the same future that i used too. I always thought he would be the guy i wanted to marry and have children with but now thats not what i want. I'm too scared to walk away in case its just a rough patch and i would also lose everything that ive worked hard for like my beautiful house, also i'd lose the majority of our friends. To make it even more confusing is the fact that a guy that i've always had chemistry with is back on the scene, he makes me feel amazing and special and i get butterflies whenever i think of him but is it real or is it just cos things aren't good at home! I'm so confused about what to do... (link)
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Hey,
There's a reason why it has lasted for 5 years now. There's a reason why you're here, writing this, seeking advice - because you want to keep what you have, otherwise you would have broken it off already. Temporary surprises will pop up now and then, like that "back on the scene guy", but that is your chance to prove to yourself who you really want to be with. It's like when you're on a diet and a nice, creamy cheesecake starts having a staring contest with you =). I strongly think that this is just a rough patch - sometimes the passion becomes dormant for a while or sometimes there is a lack of communication. Think of the awesome, sweet, happy times you spent with your man and try to repeat all those memories and experiences once more. Focus on what makes you happy about the relationship. Surprise him. Do everything in your power to give him the butterflies you want to have yourself. Try making him feel how you want to feel. Who knows, maybe your lover is thinking the very same things. Take the first step, grab his hand, and give him a dance. It's going to be okay. I hope this helps. Feel better *hugs*.
K
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Alright so I stumbled across the song Sex Bomb by Tom Jones the other day when I was looking at a getting ready playlist online and I CAN'T STOP LISTENING TO IT! I was wondering if anyone knows songs like it. Like songs that build confidence and put you in a good mood when you're getting ready to go on a date for school or something (not really as much for getting ready go party) Thanks! (link)
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Hey,
The song "I'm Too Sexy" by Right Said Fred (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=39YUXIKrOFk) immediately came to mind. Enjoy it!
K
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hi my name is alyssa im 16 female and when i was dating this guy i was 14 and he was 18. and of course we met on myspace kind of and on my myspave it says im 18 and im not. wel to make this short he thought i really was and he asked and well i didnt know him that good and i told him i was 17 about to be 18. well we were dating for a good 11 months and then something terrible happend. i used to go over to his house spend the night with him and i would go home the next day and my parents didnt know i would lie so not only did i lie to him but i lied to them as well. i began to love this guy i mean love and we would spend every weekend together talk on the phone all the time and text so he started to grow on me well we had sex and i felt guilty i mean like i knew i was doing something wrong. well we ept having sex and when my mom found out she told him i was 15 and i think he knew but he didnt want to get caught by the police well they sure did get invovled i ran away to his house and i promised him he wouldnt get into trouble but he did they handcuffed him and i fell instently to my knees i hurt so bad. and cried and pleaded for them not to take him. well he told me he never wanted to see me again and that he could do fine without me and he started crying cause i lied he was in jail for a month in a half and i called and checked up on him everyday. he got off with 6 months of probation and thats it. well he is off of probation and i want to be with him still idk about him though im in love with this guy help me please i just want him back and i want to let him know im terribaly sorry guys tell me what u think and girls you too (link)
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Hey,
It looks like your guy could use some time away from you, or even girls in general. He went through something so terrible and I doubt he's ready to face the source or maybe he's just scared to go through it again. At this point, no one can really tell how he feels about you, but how about you give him some time alone? If you insist on wanting him back right now, just take it slowly, avoid apologizing excessively but be sincere and honest with your explanation - let him know how much he means to you, and that you're willing to do everything to make him feel better. Nothing can be done to change what happened, but you can work on easing the pain for him, and if you truly love him, you will know how to do that. Best of luck, stay safe.
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ok so i have had my period and i humped my bed and im rly rly rly rly rly scared can i be pregnant????plz help u dont understand!? (link)
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Your bed cannot make you pregnant. You can relax now.
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I am asking if it is a good idea to paint a picture for my act in the talent show. (link)
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I think it is! Better yet, maybe you can be a famous artist and paint like them? Some clearly identifiable ones are Salvador Dali or Jackson Pollock (if you're a guy) and Artemisia Gentilleschi or Judy Chicago (if you're a girl). Have fun with it, I think you're gonna have a blast!
K
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how do u tell your boyfriend that you want to be with them? (link)
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If he already is your boyfriend, then you already *are* with them. Did you mean to move in with them or...?
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I dont want to be told to go to a doctor i have tried they cant find anything.
I have had ultra sounds, xrays, cat scans, mri, blood, etc. I am on the depo shot for birth control. That is the only medication i was taking at the time. I just started 2 days ago my anti depressent again which i had been off of for 6 months. I get extremely sharp pains in my stumochany where from the top to my lower adominal. I have also been having chest pains but on my right side of the chest. Occasionally in my lower adominal it hurts when i urinate. I get nauses. There is no way im pregnant either ive had pregnancy tests done as well.. any ideas. I know you guys arent doctors but made just one of you have had the same symptoms.. i hate not knowning. oh i also have a mass on my ribs but i dont think that has anything to do with this. (link)
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Hey,
Have you gone to *a* doctor or gotten a second, third, maybe even a fourth opinion as well? It looks like you're in a lot of pain and I can tell you this: no one here will be able to give you a better advice than "go get checked" again. I mean, what other advice can we give you? This is your health we're talking about, not a school homework or what song to choose for your party. One thing I can think of is the antidepressant having some sort of side effect. BUT I believe I speak for all of us here if I tell you that you're better off talking to a professional until you get some answers and hopefully solutions. Your health is too precious and priceless and I know there is better advice for you from someone in the medical field. Don't give up, feel better. *hugs*
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Ok so were I live well it's getting snowy and too cold to run outside I need good workout info that I could do in my house bc I can't go to a gym at the moment but I want to get in shape for softball a little so when conditioning starts it won't be as bad... And I kinda have a small fear of conditioning soo any good types of workout I could do in the house p,s I don't have stairs k thanks!! (link)
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Hey,
Where I used to live, it was too HOT to run outside (123+ F) so I would stay indoors and do pilates. Just purchase a yoga mat from a sports store, a pilates book or DVD (DVD helps more) and get going. It targets all parts of your body and it's a great workout. Good luck!
K
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what are some non-profit organizations that do a lot of traveling to 3rd world countries (or anywhere), helping kids, or people? I want to get involved with an organization that allows me to travel as well as make a difference. (link)
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It would help if you told us the area you live in, but take a look at these websites, you may find something interesting.
http://charity.lovetoknow.com/List_of_Nonprofit_Organizations
http://www.melissadata.com/lookups/np.asp
What you want to do is amazing. We need more people like you in the world. =*
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http://villageofjoy.com/north-korea-most-isolated-country-in-the-world/
I came across this article on Stumbleupon.com, and it really surprised me.
Are these facts actually true, or are they exaggerated? I understand that the country is very different from the US or Europe, where I live, but some of those seem very extreme.
Does anyone have any confirmations or so?
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The only way to find out is to ask someone who's lived there. Who knows? May be true, may be exaggerated.
K
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I don't mean to sound conceited but I've been told I'm really attractive. When I go snowboarding guys always notice me because I'm good, I've done tours and I can do the terrain park and everything. Again, I promise I don't mean to sound cocky, but its the truh. I always catch guys staring at me and I'm always afraid to like look back I just give a quick glance and look away I guess I'm shy but how can I get them to approach me? I guess I just need a confidence booster lol. Thanks. (link)
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Hey,
You're awesome at what you do - so keep doing it, sit back, and let them approach you. Don't look away - you don't have to make eye contact but face their way. You looking away from them may make them think that you're too cool for them and that's not what you want! So just relax and be yourself. Good luck!
K
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Hey,
well, i made the BIGGEST mistake of my life by choosing a subject im practically failing on and my teacher wont let me change it, i cry knowing i have that lesson tomorow and dread it!..its THAT bad! and we're gonna get reports sent home and parent teacher conference soon! and its not gonna be good!! what do i do? i dont want my parents going,they'll get mad but i try and its not my fault i cant do the subject, ive tried everything! (link)
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Hey,
How about taking it to a higher power figure? If your teacher won't listen to you, go see the counselor. There is nothing wrong with realizing that you want to make a change and work on something you really love. It's like being in med school and realizing that the sight of too much blood makes you pass out - they can't just *keep* you there. And tell your parents, trust me, they want what's best for you and right now, getting out of that class is what you need. Best of luck, you're gonna be just fiiiiine. =)
K
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