Gender : Intersex — if you’re confused. Yes, I was born that way. Refer to me any pronoun you like.
And yes, I’m probably younger than you expected.
Also, yes, I like to read books on all subjects. English is a national language in the Philippines if you’re wondering because of historical American colonization.
Also, I turned 18 last April 10, 2019.
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Hi!
This may not mean anything, but what would it mean to you if your ex liked your engagement photo on facebook?
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Maybe you can just ask him.
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i have a lot of midterms and exams coming up and i can’t function well or manage my time and put out tasks (as usual) and i don’t think my friends want to be bothered by that they’re all too busy for this so i need help to organize my time and set out tasks and get them done because otherwise i’ll be very not okay and this is my last semester and i need to graduate:) with a good gpa (link)
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Check out Thomas Frank’s blog and channel for all kinds of new and unique study techniques. Check out litemind for memory techniques, Scott Young for understanding things better, and flashcard apps like Anki or Memrise to help put things in your brain.
Also see Crash Course on Youtube for all kinds of subjects said in a way that helps manages boredom, complete with silly off the beat animations for today’s lack of attention spans.
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Hi, I haven't tried this site yet, so I hope it works.
I'm a 11-year old girl in middle school, and I need advice. For 2 days now, My crush has promised to actually listen to my origins for Mantodea, the comic we're creating, but he had ditched me and left as soon as I turn my back. What should I do? Every time I ask him to study with him or talk with him, he promises to come talk or help with homework, but he never shows up. Should I give him a few more chances, or should I give up on this stupid comic and crush? Please reply soon, I really need to know what to do. (link)
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I’m not sure this is the right age to be dating, bud. Sure, there are people who are wiser beyond their years, but you’re not the exception to this rule. Even if you’re wiser, that does not mean the guys around you are, so you gotta be patient until you find the love of your life.
But one thing to know is that the right guy for you would be able to keep his promises even on the small things. If he can’t get the small things right, he won’t get the big things right. Often in love, you can’t just judge a guy by first impressions. There’s always more to him than meets the eye.
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Hello , My Name Is Josh , Can You Please Help With My Question Today, I Am Looking For Some PC Games To Download On My Computer The Games Are - ARISTOCRAT SLOTS Games. So That I May Play Them Offline Without Register And I Need The .exe For My Desktop Can Someone Please Find Them As I Have Been Looking For Days. Thank You Very Much For The Assistance Cheers Josh (link)
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Get a job.
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To make a long story short, I come from a low income family that could barely provide for me. I'm 24 and engaged to my fiance who's 28. He comes from a wealthy family and is supporting 80% of our current bills with no problem. We just moved into our first home together (renting) and it is close to the home of my dreams. It's more than I saw myself perhaps ever living in.
However, my fiance is very arrogant and has a giant ego. He wants to get his way and can be aggressive about it. He never cusses at me or hurts me, but he does yell and threaten to break up with me if he doesn't get his way. For example, we were furniture shopping for the new home and it wound up turning into an argument because we could not compromise. He said every item in the home should be to his liking. I disagreed and said it should be half and half and he needed to be okay with me having things that I like even if he doesn't since I'm okay with buying things only he likes. Well I lost my temper and yelled at him first after his rebuttal, cussed at him, took my ring off, and locked him out of our bedroom. The argument went on all day and he threatened to leave me and kick me out. We wound up eventually talking it out and he put the ring back on my finger before he went to sleep and said he would take me on a day vacation later this week.
Now that he's been asleep for a few hours, I've had time to think over what happened today. This might sound sad or greedy, but I honestly cannot afford to lose him. I looked at studio apartments and I can't even afford those on my own income. I already work 50 hours a week and can't work more because I'm also a FT student. I need to graduate so I can eventually earn more money and maybe be able to support myself. My parents cannot afford to take me in especially since I would have to quit my job to move home. I also need to maintain this relationship not only for me, but for my family in case they need to move in with us (we have plenty of extra rooms and space).
He's not the worst guy ever. He says he loves me and of course I love him too. I do a lot for him to make up for not being very financially supportive. I try to make his life outside of work as easy as possible. He's never abused me. It's just hard when he's yelling at me or telling me I can't have things. I grew up my whole life being told I can't have things so this is a big trigger for me. However, I need to get over this and face that if I want to continue living like I am, I need to just let him have the things he's solid on. Even my mom says I have the dream life right now, working, going to college, and living in a big home with a "rich" fiance. I feel so stupid when I think about how I've compromised this in the past. I need to learn to be more submissive because without him I would have nothing and I'm truly blessed to have him in my life.
How can I learn to be this way?
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Well, if you don’t want to get out of the relationship, I can’t stop you. Though, something tells me there’s still hope for this guy. You don’t seem like the type to rush through your judgement of a man’s worth too soon. You have a much longer description of your situation, complete with the pros and cons. You’re too rational not to have some point around this.
Anyway, first thing’s first is to try to learn how to calm down in an argument. Even if it’s his fault, you don’t have to stoop down to his level. Learn to find other ways to release your own anger, whether it’s in venting to a friend, a blog or a journal. Exercise to release frustration or google relaxation techniques to learn how to calm down. Calming down yourself really helps him trust you over time.
And if that still doesn’t work, well, you know the risks.
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hi! i'm 15 years old, and like most teenagers i'm very insecure about myself, especially my body. i'm not a very curvy girl, in other words i'm VERY skinny. i don't have any curves, not many thighs, i don't have any butt etc etc. tomorrow i have a presentation for school and i have to wear a bodycon dress for it and when trying it on today my body looked like a table, i was so sad. i need help! what do i do? i don't want everyone at school tomorrow bothering me about how horrible i look :/ advice pls! (link)
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As someone who likes both girls and guys, I’m going to have to tell you. People have different types. Some like girls curvy, some like them thick, and some prefer them more petite like you. I heard in people drawing comic strips that the art isn’t as vivid and fun if everyone’s body types were the same.
Besides, you’re not just your body. You’re your talents, skills, strengths, kindness, hobbies, values and all kinds of other stuff. Next time you’re insecure, ask, “What makes you you?”
Best of luck.
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people always talk about me and they think it don’t get to me but it really do. I always try to change myself but it never works. I see a lot of people getting talked about but they still have all of there friends. What should I do? How can I change myself? (link)
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Doesn’t sound like real friends to me if you ask me. The thing about asking you to change yourself is that there’s never any one right way to change yourself to get friends. There’s always going to be someone who will disagree or dislike you whatever you do, and it’s not always your fault, especially when you’re trying.
Want to make friends? Meet some kind people when volunteering somewhere, or in a church if you’re religious. Finding lists of random acts of kindness online is a good way to gain genuine friends. Find some hobby clubs around you to find similar interests with. The website Meetup is a good place to find some local clubs to go to.
The truth is, quality friends come from increased uniqueness than following what everyone else says. People eventually get bored and tired of people who always agree with them. People want to hear something new, and investing in yourself, your passions and purposes in life does that.
And what if someone hates you? People who have no enemies have never fought for something truly meaningful.
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So I am starting to notice a pattern in my dad that is concerning me ... a lot!
Besides the fact that he is not that old (just turned 56) and has a deteriorating physical condition (big belly and weak heart muscle) he refuses to exercise and become healthier. The doctors have already told him he will be in big trouble if he doesn’t start getting his heart back in shape but he just won’t do it. OK.
I get that I can’t do anything about that and it’s his life. He is the only one who can change and only if he wants to.
But aside from all this, I am starting to notice that he is becoming increasingly obsessive with the news and politics and religion... to a point that is unhealthy almost.
Let me explain...
He has a sedentary job, he spends most of the day on his phone when he isn’t working and then comes home and spends time on his phone some more. He is literally glued to the thing he can’t go anywhere, a restaurant, on vacation anywhere he can he will pull out the phone. He doesn’t carry on conversations anymore unless it’s to talk about something he’s reading on the phone....
And what does he read all day? Fake news and politics that just make him angry and negative.
He’s had a difficult past. He’s fought for freedom multiple times, been in wars and was almost killed trying to become free. So without going into too much detail, safe to say he has been traumatized and has certain political views about what is right and wrong. And that’s fine, he’s been through a lot and I respect him and his opinions.
What concerns me is that he’s reading that fake news that is everywhere meant to create hate between sides and people and he feeds into it. It’s so unhealthy. He trolls on chat rooms and Facebook, he will blatantly post his opinion anywhere and everywhere and get into comment wars with people. And he’s not stating his opinion in a respectful organized way, if you know what I mean. He will say anything to get people going and mad and angry.
He’s never been like this before but all the time he spends online is turning him into a hateful person to anyone that argues with his opinion. Just online though. He’s the sweetest man in person, and he loves me but his views have turned into an obsession. I’m just really concerned for his health at this point but he won’t listen to reason. My mom tries to get him out of the house but he’s just so fixated on the phone and on “fighting” the side he thinks is threatening him.
Partly I blame a divided country feeding nothing but hate to people. I just don’t know what to do to get him out of it. We’ve had several talks and interventions he just doesn’t listen.
I’m worried. What can I do? And if nothing, how can I reframe my thinking about the situation? I love him and don’t want anything bad to happen to him. (link)
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The thing is that when changing a person, you can’t change the whole person at once. You can only change small habits at a time, step by step.
The first thing, that might seem overly frustrating but is needed, is just to listen to your father. Not agree with him, but listen and thank him for his views.
Chances are that he’s the type of man who just resists even more the more you argue against his habits. It’s important to get through this stage, because he needs to trust you for your words to reach him.
When you get enough trust, try making very small changes to get him to be healthy. Try being creative with recipes, and find something both nutritious or healthy. Try getting him to socialize outside with even just a short walk on the park with friends.
The little things matter, and the little things add up to big things eventually. He probably just needs to take it slow after all that happened in his life.
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So I have a boyfriend that I've been dating for over a year now and I love him dearly. However, I've recently started to get close to another friend of mine and feel like I'm catching feelings for him! I know 99% sure that he has feelings for me, but I have no clue what to do with this. I honestly love my boyfriend but I feel like this other guy is really amazing as well... what do I do? (link)
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Know the differences between a little crush and a soulmate.
1. A crush makes you overly anxious. A soulmate makes you feel calm and safe.
2. You only see your crush’s strengths, but you see your soulmate’s weaknesses as well and still love him.
3. A crush is short term. A soulmate is long term.
4. A crush is based on wanting to explore something more exciting. A soulmate is based on commitment.
5. A crush is someone who you can’t show your true self around, but with your soulmate, you can.
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I think someone is in love with me, but isn't telling me because I have a boyfriend. I'm pretty sure the guy is interested in me though. Should I tell my boyfriend that this guy has feelings for me??? (link)
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Slow down. Write down the reasons first why you think this guy likes you, and make sure it’s reliable. Does he even like you in the first place or are you just interpreting him being nice or looking at you vaguely as him liking you?
If chances are he does, well there’s really no need to tell your boyfriend if he’s not making pushes on you to become his girl. A real man who truly fell for you would respect your relationship. If he’s not, then better tell your boyfriend.
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My significant other who I Have been dating for two years and living with for a year thinks it is ok to continue seeing a female friend who he has had sex with before while I WAS DATING HIM. He also thinks its ok if I HAVE SEX WITH OTHERS. hE DOES NOT LOVE ME. sAID HE LIKES ME AND likes me living there. I do everything around the house. I have looked at his phone and he has a lock on it now. THis women lives two blocks from him and before her husband passed away she visited him quite often. shOULD i leave him (link)
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When making a decision whether to break up or stay, look at this short checklist.
1. Are you both contributing something good to each other, or is someone doing most of the work?
2. Do you enjoy intimate moments and share secrets, or are you distrusting of each other?
3. Did you manage enough time to get to know his/her habits or are you judging the qualities of your SO too early?
4. Is the person having friends with benefits without your consent?
5. Do you share significant values in life with each other, or do you butt heads on what you find most essential?
You know what to do.
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Your Letter: How can I stop myself from wanting to touch and feel up my female coworker? (#437849)
I work at Staples and there is this girl I work with, we talk a lot and we get a long really well. When she took over the cash register and I bent down to pick up something I dropped and then I had a an extremely strong desire to start rubbing her legs and thighs and slide my hands up her shirt and touch her breasts and down her pants to touch her buttocks and genital areas that took every fiber of my being to stop. Others days I see her I feel intense desire to grab her and touch her. Why am I getting this feeling and how can i Stop
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For a simple solution, I suggest you learn to be mindful or more aware of your feelings. You can do this by journaling your emotions to let them out, or just taking a moment to focus on your breath whenever this happens. It’ll help you see the situation more calmly and to act on it better. These are more simple beginner exercises from mindfulness meditations, and there’s a lot of scientific feedback on how it doesn’t only just relax, but allow you more discipline.
Other than that, I can’t tell you why you’re doing this. I don’t know you. If it could help ease the sexual frustration, it might do you good not to only do it solo, but to exercise at home or in the gym. Exercise just tends to release anger well of any kind. It helps. It really does.
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Hey there, I'm just gonna cut to the point. I'm a freshman in college, and I was planning to enroll in some summer classes this summer. One of the classes I'm wanting to take is at a community college, so I'd be paying out of pocket. My situation is, is I'm unemployed (I have been to several interviews in the past year), have a few bills to pay, and my checking account is getting kind of low. I really just want to take this Calculus class this summer so I can be done with my degree's math requirements asap. Is it worth taking a risk with my money and signing up for that class? Or just wait for another summer? Thanks. (link)
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Other than getting into a community college summer class, you can try some free online classes. If not for your main source of learning in summer, then something that can support you as you study.
The non-profit website Khanacademy is full of well explained videos, math exercises that reward you points, and even a public discussion under every lecture for your questions.
Other resources for Calculus could be the Youtube channel 3Blue1Brown that dedicates itself to teaching advanced math through simple geometric shapes. BetterExplained also allows intuitive concepts that don’t force you to memorize without understanding.
Lastly, you can look up the Youtube channel Crash Course for any of the major sciences associated with Calculus.
You’re welcome.
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Hey, so I'm gonna keep this short. Basically, I'm a first-gen college student and first-gen American. My mom doesn't make a bunch of money. I'm basically going to college thanks to the grace of a higher power and an academic scholarship. I had no college fund set up for me whatsoever growing up, so I'm at a college minutes from home and am living at home. A college fund left for me by my deceased aunt got screwed up by her husband, and I will never see that money. My dad's a deadbeat, who doesn't contribute much. My mom keeps taking a cut of my scholarship earnings every time it gets dispersed, even though I am unemployed; I'm currently stressing about finances as we speak since I live off about 1 grand for months. My family has done nothing but screw me up time after time. How do I get my mom to get off my back and stop bothering me for money? (link)
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I suggest you call social services who help people with their funding or even abusive families on their issues. I would give to you specific numbers, but I don’t know where you live.
Since your family’s a deadbeat, the best way to deal with it is to find help from outside your family, possibly in professionals or even friends. In a lot of social circles, there’s that type of person who always seems to know who’s who, and maybe it’s best to find ideas on how to work with this if you trust him or her.
In the types of abuse, emotional neglect focuses on the lack of emotional resources given, such as a healthy sense of trust or even the responsibility to give you an education. There is also physical neglect, which can focus on a lack of responsiblity on funding for a lot of basic needs, and not just education. So I hope you can mention this when you call for professional help.
Other than that, I suggest you search “100 Ways to Save Money,” and “100 Ways to Earn Money.” It could help you have a thorough list for financial independence.
I’m sorry this is happening to you, and I hope you can find a way out of this. I believe you can.
Best of luck.
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