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I'm a qualified colour therapist and I'm doing a course in psychotherapy and councelling. i have the letters SNHS after my name which means i have a diploma from The School of Natual Health Sciences.
I have life experience in mental health, agoraphobia,bullying,parents divorce.


advice

I dont know why, maybe my friend is just an easy target for them, but just the people in my class bully her so much! She lets trhem get to her and she wont participate in anything, and the school wont do anything about it, i dont think the teacher cares much, her parents definitly dont, abd her friends, ( not including me) dont say anything. actually they hang out w/ her cuz she has no1 else. she cant change schools, either. its been hard enough for her just starting her period, and shes failing almost every class. what should i do to help her?!!!

You really need to be there for your friend and support her, talk to her other friends too and get everyone to stick up for her. this will give her more confidence and make her happier.
Go with her to tell a different teacher about what is happening and how bad the bullying is. Tell a really nice teacher, someone who is easy to talk to and tell the head of year or head teacher.
Also get her to keep a diary (or you do it for her or as well as) of everyhting that has been said and done her her along with the date and time. it could just be a rough time of day, morning break or period 3 for example. then if they bullying hasnt died down, take the diary to the teachers again. They have to protect the students from being bullied.

also, have a look at these websites, you might find them helpful, http://www.bullying.newham.net/
http://www.bullying.co.uk/children/pupil_advice.htm

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ok theres this boy Nick, and i really really love him and he broke up with me today, and now he likes my best friend who hates him...i really want him back. how do i get him back?

i know you love him and its so hard especially when he doesnt feel the same way about you but you really have to move on from him. he hurt you and treated you badly, why do you want to be with someone like that and someone who makes you feel this desperate and upset.
you deserve someone who will love and respect you and you will find that someone sweetie, maybe not for a few years but when you do it will be worth it and you'll wonder what all the fuss was about over you ex.

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Im 16 and never really have had a bf. I act really self concious but all i really want is a boyfriend. Yah know someone who will like me for me and care about me. I know i have family and friends but it's not the same. Iv gotten to the point where i think im so ugly that i dont even have crushes anymore i just think some guys are hott. Maybe another reason is because most of my school probably thinks im bi or a lesbian b/c im friends w/ people who are bi lesbian and gay. But im straight. It seems wrong to want a bf more then anything but all i want is someone to show effection towards. How come everyone esle gets one but i dont. Alotta the time i just think god put me on earth just to piss me off. I dont wish i was dead and im not really suicidal or anything. Im just tired of waiting everyday for something i dont think is ever gunna happen. What can i do to maybe put myself out there or b happier. Im not into being a girly girl so making myself over isnt my first choice.

Ok sweetie, Dont worry, its perfectly natural to want a boyfriend, especially when you are a teenager growning up and everyone seems to have someone but you.

i asked some of my guy friends what they find attractive about girls. The main things they said was that someone who makes them laugh is important, genuine, honest, who they can chat with for hours about everything and anything.

Here are some tips for you;

Be your self. It is important that you don't act differently around your guy because he will see right through it and think you are fake.

Be happy. If you smile you will look more approachable and friendly. He wont want to be with someone who looks unhappy all the time. Also when your with your mates and he's with his, flash him a nice flirty smile.

Give him compliments. Guys get insecure about themselves just as much as us girls so he'll love it when you boost his confidence now and then.

Find out what kinda stuff he is into. Then do some secret research on it. he'll think its cool that you like the same cool band as him or his fave movie. Don't go overboard though, if you have Everything in common with him it'll soon get boring.

Laugh at his jokes, even the bad ones. not hysterically though or he might twig what you're up to.

When you are chatting to him, gently touch him on the arm in a sweet flirty way.

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well i met this guy about a month ago and i didn't see him to now and we really had fun hangin out together...but he's not a good kisser :\ i guess cuz it was his first time but how do i tell him without makin us both feel stupid ??

i dont think you should tell him. you seem to like him and get on well with eachother, but if you hurt his feelings and insult him he might just be too hurt and embarrassed to see you or kiss you again. if you really like eachother and want to be together then you know what they say, practice makes perfect

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yeah... I go to a really bad school (drugs, sex, rumors, suicide, acohal, smoking, & ect.) & I'm mad fun of alot. I under understand what I ever did to them... I transferd from a private school (PRK-8th Grade) that had only 187 students, now I'm in public school & theres more people in my grade, I transferd 2 years ago.

I'm called gay, queer, shim, & all sorts of rumors are going around. & I don't know what I ever did to these people... I'm on medication for depression & I'm seeing a shrink... but its all the popular guys who say these things... & i guess the girls do to, just not to my face. I don't have many friends, acctly, only girl-friends who go to that school... & even they make-fun of me... & I don't know what I did to hurt these people so damn bad... & I've got a bad homelife... my mom is married to someone I hate, my dad is mean & treats my sisters awfull (he was married once befor & had 2 kids, so tehre my half-sisters) & my grandfathers, bother of them, died within a year of eachother & just theres a whole lot of things going on in my life... & I don't know what I should do... kill myself (I'm the only thing between my parents that keeps them fighting)? take drugs? I've no clue what I can do or what I did to them... & I'm not really sure how much most of my friends would care if I just died... & my best friend (I've known him since I was about a year old) dosen't want to have anything to do with me... & I don't know who would really care, other then my sisters, my mom, grandmothers, dad, & various other family... & 1 teacher... & so I don't know what to do... it keeps me so depressed & its so hard on me, I don't do good in school cos I'm depressed, my friends make-fun of me... I know I'm not the best looking person ever... but I just want to know what I can do...

if anyone needs contact with me then at the bottam of your post put your e-mail

-Cameron

ok sweetie, i really think you need to change schools. ive had friends who had been bullied loads at their old school so they changed schools and made new friends there. find a school that hasnt got such a bad reputation.
talk to your mum about it too, just tell her how much of a hard time you are having and that you really need to be at a different school because you are so depressed. also ask your counceller how you go about moving to a new school, how to find a new school and how to get out of you school. hope this helps you x

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