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I'm 14 years old and I have one AWESOME boyfriend (Ryan). The only problem is, my best friend (Alyssa) doesn't really get along with him. In the past the people i've gone out with have been really close friends with her. Now it's different for her because she's not close with this new boyfriend and they always tend to fight. She thinks he's the most insecure person in the world and only cares about himself. And he thinks she's annoying and selfish. I try to split time evenly between the two..but i just wish that we could TRY to hang out together sometime but they never want to. When i hang out with her he always says "You're with her ALL the time." and when i hang out with him she's just negative about it. I feel awkward talking to her about him because she doesn't understand him and know him like I do, but i shouldn't she's my BEST friend. They have SO much in common it's CRAZY! they just dont give eachother a chance. Not to mention im stuck in the middle getting involved in fights with both of them, it's SO hard for me to please them both at the same time. How do i get them to give eachother a chance?
Britt
Well Britt sounds like something I have been through before...your best friend not liking your boyfriend. It's definitally not right how they act about eachother...but some things you just cannot change. You said that its hard to talk to alyssa about your bf...well i reallie think that is because she is jelious of him since he took you away from her. before being with him it was always just you two - and now its you two and him aswell..its just jeliously (even though its not right!) how ryan is acting by saying things about your best friend is indeed a little childish and not needed. his personal feelings towards your friends should be kept to himself, for the simple fact that you really care about her. You said they have alot in common..well it kinda sounds like your boyfriend is a better person to talk to then Alyssa right about now. So have a talk with Ryan, tell him how you feel..and how you dont like it that you and your best friend dont get along..that you feel like your in the middle of constint fights. I know it is very drastic and RIGHT to the point..but some people understand things better when you just get them out in the open like that. Idk if your an outspoken person..or very quite, but build up the courage to say something to him...believe me if he really cares he will listen. I know you said its hard to talk to your best friend about your new boyfriend, but I really would sudgest you to have a heart to heart talk to her. You two are best friends, know everything about eachother..love eachother like sisters...the most you can do is just tell her you want to talk to her. Really tell her how you hate how her and Ryan dont get along - how you feel like your always in the middle of their fights and you wish it would stop. Towards the end after both of you have spoken your peace..(TO BOTH RYAN AND ALYSSA) be sure to mention they have alot in common..if they just took the time to get to know eachother then maybe they would get along..and it would mean so much for them to get along to you.
I also have an AWESOME boyfriend named RYAN!! :) hehe!
hope i helped..sorry its so long!
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hey my name is katie (( female )) and i have a boyfriend we've only been dating for a month tomorrow ;; we've went out before but i really love him and im only 14 but i mean i never felt this way for a boy before but i think hes ignoring me because some bad stuff kinda happened well imma tell you [[ short versen ]] -- well i was talkin to this boy that likes meh wait no loves me and he kept telling meh and like 20 mins before we were going to my boyfriends house he was all huggin on meh and holding my hand then when we got to my boyfriends house he pulled this headache crap cause i wouldnt talk to him but i mean i dont like this boy _at all_ and i told him then my boyfriend found out but i mean i didnt tell him so i found out a bunch of my friends told him but im not sure but i called him the nixt day and i told him i didnt like the other boy and he didnt believe meh but its been like 4 days later and my boyfriend still isnt talking to meh i mean if i call him hes either bout to leave or not there or about to do sumpthyn i mean is he igoring meh? i mean i've cried my self to sleep like almost everynight this past week and i dont know what to do -- will you please help meh -- (( i hope i made this understandable lol )) thanks [[ much love ]] Katie Sumner
yah you made it understandable. I reallie think right now he is just hurting and wants to be left alone..I mean Im not sure what your friends told him..but Im sure it hurt him inside since he cares about you. Since its already been a few days, try and call him again..tell him when you get him on the phone that you reallie want to talk to him. It's important and if he is busy right then ask him to call you back..and make him promise to call you back. If he doesnt (first off hes mean!) but call him back..tell him that it is important and you NEED to talk to him. Tell him whats been going on and what happened. be COMPLETLY honest with him, even if the truth hurts. Dont cry on the phone either (Alot of guys think that when you cry your just looking for simpathy..but if you have to..go right ahead!) Anyways..for now all you can do is remember the good times you had together...talk to your friend thats madly in love with you..tell him how much HE hurt you by doing that to you while he knew you were with your boy. I know things are rough right now, but keep on doing what your doing..keep on trying to talk to him and cry if you have to..it relieves alot of stress and anger.
x0x-dani
Im 13 and female ...One of my best friends, Haley has pretty much ditched me and the other people that she and I hung out with all 6th grade and the beggining to middle of 7th for the so called "popular" group. All of her true friends (not them) realize how much she doesn't fit in with them. You see she is a crazy outgoing girl especially in a crowd and is always really funny and its natural she really doesn't have to try. But the girls she's trying really hard to fit in with aren't crazy at all or at least in public. I've heard from a few people that when she's not around they talk behind her back and say she's annoying and always follows them around. She stopped sitting with us at lunch and her boyfriend who's one of the sweetest guys you'd ever meet. Then she had promised our friend Alyssa that she'd get ready for every school dance with her that year but the last dance of the year the semi-formal she was invited to one of the "popular" people's houses and then that night she dumped her boyfriend in the middle of the dance and had told all them before telling us. The "popular" girls aren't even that popular anymore I moved here in 6th grade and wass told they were the ones all the guys liked but this past year only a few guys liked them and mostly everyone hated them and thought they were rich snobs. Like one of them will only talk to u in a high pitched sweet sounding voice and u have to talk her the same way or she wont respond. I got in a fight with them cause they said one of my best friends Tori, who was having an asthma attack at a party, made herself pass out cause the 8th graders at our scchool had started doing that. So Haley took their side when they started talking behind mine and tori's backs after i yelled at them for making up rumors about how much we hate them. What should i do about Haley?
wow sweetheart, sounds like things have been crazy! anyways..Haley is just going through changes thats all..she feels the need to hang out with the populars because she wants to be popular herself..let he do what she wants. I know this is hurting you and your group and even her ex-bf..but you just need to let her make her own mistakes and choices for now. 6th-7th and even 8th grade is a learning experience and growing one that really turns people into strangers! Believe me, in 7th grade I thought I would be cool if I hung out with this certain group of girls..I ditched all my friends and hung out with them..turns out we're not even friends anymore and I made alot of bad choices when I hung out with them because of the influences they had upon me. Anyways, right now just let Haley be where she is. When the time is right (and you'll know it) ask her if you two can talk. And when you two talk tell her how you really feel, and the changes you have seen since she has started hanging out with this new group of girls. More than likely she isnt going to take it very well, (I know I didnt) but its something she needs to hear. If all of her old best friends come to her and tell her exactly how they feel adn how much you miss her being with you guys then it will really make her think about her situation and such. (I know I did!) How your putting things, it seams like there is a whole lot of crap going on..keep your head up and think positive. Really, things do get ALOT better in High School..everyone grows up and realizes their mistakes. Until then, stay positive and keep on trying and be the good friend you are. (You reallie sound like an awesome friend, she reallie is lucky to have someone that cares that much about her)
x0x-dani
well there is this guy who i like and he likes me well more then like he says he loves me everyday when we talk and i say it back cause i do as well and flirts with me alot as everyone says but the thing is we arnt goign out but is this somthing we should talk about a relationship or should we just still do what we are doing
from some you dont know
well sweetheart ((i think i know who this is! :))) I personally think you two should talk about it before just going in and asking him out. A relationship is a committment between two people, which releys on trust aswell as likingness/love. Definitally do not give up hope - I know things are going to work out for the best. Keep your head held high and keep on smiling and being the great person you are. I know things are gunna work out..believe me!:) PS! hes ah major cutie!:) I'm trying my best to hook ya two up!:) stay sweet!
x0x-dani
Me and my bffe edwin met last year and have become very close.(i still consider him my bffe)Ive never been this close to anyone. There has been so many memroies and alot of great experiences with him and everything. Hes an awesome friend. The other day my friend Lauren told me that she cheated on edwin when they started dating. i was upset and she said i could tell edwin and i did. after that he started acting weird around me. he wouldnt call and he was very short with me. i asked him what was wrong or if he was mad and he said nothing and said he was busy.I assumed he was mad at me about the whold lauren thing which by the way theyre broken up and dont talk anymore. A couples of days ago we got into and he said "i dont want to be friends anymore." I was heartbroken. all the memories rushed back into my head and the thought of him never coming back hurts. what can i do or say to mkae him forgive me for whatever i did wrong? please help
thanks,
lisia
wow sweetheart that is absloutly HORRIBLE that Lauren did that to edwin..it reallie is! Anyways, this is about you:) anyways..edwin is just mad that Lauren did that to him, anyone would be. I reallie believe that the only reason he doesnt want to be friends with you anymore is because your friends with Lauren, and he would rather not put himself in that position to be near someone that broke his heart in such a horrible way. Cheating is the worst..THE WORST! I know your heart broken and all about loosing him, but I reallie think talking to him and asking him the REAL reason why he doesnt want to be friends with you will help. I mean it sounds like you two were pretty close, therefore he should be honest with you and tell you the truth. keep your composure and stay positive till then. remember all the memorys and good times you two shared. i reallie think that he will take back what he said adn want to still be friends with you. its just hard being friends with someone who is friends with the person that cheated on them..it reallie is heart breaking!
x0x-dani
I need help! See im stupid and yeah I don't want to be stupid but i am!! I want to get smart like you. How can i be so smart just like you??
anonomous stupid person
uMm...yah sure? im not smart! haha..Im just cleaver with the choices I make. If its something to do with school..then STUDY ALOT! i learned that helps! haha! With my honors history class I got a 84 on the final cuz i studied alot!:) it pays off..if you mean something else..then explain a bit more please
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Hey Ellie, it's your lover Shurry :-) yeah well you knew about me and *Joshua*, BLEH! if you only knew what was going on lately, he's started doing drugs, smoking ciggarettes (ICKY!) and he's just been a total asshole to me, and calls me a bitch because im trying to help him because he obviously has a substance abuse problem... I love him but I'm gunna back down from him if he doesnt start showing me respect... And I feel that if he keeps doing this then he's going to end up with no friends whatsoever so, do you have any ideas that I could help him stop, or something, i mean he's going to loose me if he keeps this up, but maybe that's what he needs just to kick him in the arse and tell him to STOP you're loosing Sheri! Idk help Danieeieeie haha
I love you hunnie!
aww!:) i love you too sheri! well joshua is a big boy he can make his own decisions..however this one sounds like its out of his hands and your doing the best you can to help him out. i say if he reallie doesnt want your help then its not worth it to waste your time and effort on him..your so much better than that. i know that you reallie care about him, but there are plenty of fish in the sea..reallie there is:) you just have to be patient and wait for the guy that will chase after you.
-hope your summers going good! i miss ya hunny!-
x0x-dani
I was always wanting and trying to get together with my boyfriend Steve outside of school. And now that schools over i dont even see him at all. i havent seen him in a few weeks now and im still trying to get together with him but it seems like hes not making any effort to do anything with me. He doesn't call me, his computer broke down so he cant go online and when i call him he never asks if i can do something with him. What should i do about it? Does he want to but is nervous? Any clue y he doesnt ask me to do stuff? is he not interested in me anymore?
well sounds like this guy isnt reallie into a relationship right now. all you can do is just tell him straight out what you feel and that you reallie think that he is pretty much ignoring you. which it sounds like he is. if he isnt going to make an attempt to spend time with you or even try and see you hunny its not worth it!! move on..its summer there are plently of hotties around:) the right guy will come..and you will know it! he'll fall head over heals in love:)
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Okie dokie well Im katie:)Hehe and my boyfriend is like totally the best person in the world and I reallie dont know what to do bcuz I cant see him on the weekdays because both of are parents work..and it kind of sucks.So like right now I totally dont know what to do.
well miss katie! :) i cant see my bf ((ryan)) alot either..especially on the weekdays. cherish the time you spend together on the weekends. and during the weekdays talk to him alot on the phone and online, be sure to tell him that you miss him and want to see him. those things just make guys feel good:) always be sweet and nice too! even though i know you are! hehe! uMm..but there reallie isnt much you can do for now, when i get my licence in a few months ill drive ya to see him sweetie!:)
x0x-dani
Hi my name is jonelle. i am 13 and i am a female... i am having some boy trouble. My boyfriend went to mississippi to visit family for the summer and all the time we talked and he was always telling me how much he missed me and how much he wanted to see me and then he said that he would call me as soon as he got home and like an hour after he did i called his house and his mom tells me he is out with his friends!!! we have been going out for 3 months and we havent done anything! i mean like kiss ing hungging.. WE HAVEN'T EVEN HELD HANDS! I mean i lived with out it for the first 2 months but i mean 3 months and nothing but that isant the point here. He never wants to hang out with me and he never returns my phone calls! some days he tell me that he cant do anything and i see him with his friends and then i am like well i thought u couldnt do anything and he is like uhhhh i never said that. my friends say i dont deserve to be treated like that and they tell me break up with him but i love him to much! i dont know what to do. I need ADVICE!
jonelle, i love your name first off! :) wow.. sweetie, he definitally is ignoring you! geeze em crow! you definitally dont deserve to be treated like that at all..but i can see how you love him alot and want to be with him. hes special to you and all you want is to be with him. be honest with him and come out and tell him that you want to spend more time together...if he really likes you he definitally should spend time with you. if not, then hes not worth it! your only 13 you have the REST of your life to be with guys!:) believe me..as soon as you hit high school its HEAVEN with hotties! haha! anyways, as for the not doing anything..try and make the first move! I know its kinda scarry..but just go in and hold his hand..the worst that could happen is him reject you..and if he does then hes not worth your time and effort. i know he means alot, but sometimes you just have to let go of those kind of people. it reallie sounds like hes just usuing you for the privillage to say i have a g/f..which isnt right AT ALL! if worse comes to worse..say something to one of his friends...yah they prolly act ALOT like him..but try and make your point clear that you feel like you two dont spend enough time together and you reallie care about him. If things dont clear up within a few days, then screw it. there are plenty other guys. Keep your head held high and think positive!:)
x0x-dani
OK, well.. I'm a girl, and im 15. And you see, one of my best friends and I have been crushing on one guy all year. I thought he liked me, but apparently not, because he asked my friend out. So they're all happy and stuff, but im miserable. Should I just move on? Or do you think it was wrong for my friend to do that to me? Because she would have hated me if I did that to her..
Thanks
*sparkles*
well a true friend wouldnt have done that..i mean there was one point my best friend and i liked the same guy SO much! and he ended up going after me..even though i really liked him i knew it would break my best friends heart to go out with him. a best friend..or even FRIEND should pick you over a guy ANYTIME!! as for right now, all you can do is move on. try and act positive around them..and maybe talk to her about it..tell her how you feel..and that you feel kind of betrayed by her for doing that to you. it wasnt right of her to do that to you in the first place! I mean you said it yourself she would have hated you if you did that..well tell her how you feel..the feelings will definitally be mutual!
x0x-dani
How can I get and maintain a friend...what do I have to do different?
well trust is always key..weather it be a relationship or a friendship if you can trust eachother then a good friendship should arise. Im not sure what you did in the past..but here are some tips. if they tell you a secret dont tell anyone else!:) make memorys together, do something memorable together and remind eachother of how much fun you had! spend a day just talking about things..and be sure to LISTEN! dont just say yah..okay..sure..be true and say what you really think!:)
x0x-dani
Well see this boi(I really like him and he really likes me) want to go together. But I still have feelings for my ex- boifriend. And my icon for IM says I'm taken by the boi I like (but I'm not). My ex-boifriend also has a screenname. And he said he might go out with me in Middle skool. And I'm looking forward to it. But what about the other one?? What should I do? Also when ever I call my ex-boifriend, soneone picks up the fone and then hangs up. And I think its my ex-boifriend. lol
alright..first of all i think your ex-bf is just in denial for loosing you (no matter who broke up with who!) and yah i think it prolly is him hanging up..guys can be jerks sometimes for no reason! as for the other guy, id say go for it! its normal to have feelings for your ex as long as you dont act upon it...try out this new guy. get to know him, and possibly things can work out between you two:) Dont wait around for your ex..if he likes you enough then he'll come back to you. for now live life to the fullest and have fun!:)
x0x-dani
IM MOVING AND MY BF DOESNT WANT US TO BREAK UP IM MOVING ( HRS AWAY SHOULD WE BREAK UP OR NOT
well it all depends on how much you reallie like him...i mean my boyfriend and i live about 20 minuets away from eachother and in ways its better. seeing eachother all the time is a positive thing in a relationship, but how my bf ((ryan)) and i see it is that the time we spend together is more valuable and precious since its limited. id say stay with him and see how things play out, if he's moving pretty far away you should end it. long distance relationships are so hard to keep and in the long run youre gunna miss him more then you see him.
x0x-dani
There's this boy who i've know in 6th and 7th grade but then he moved and went to another school, but we still talk on aol and aim. I don't really know if were friends or going out. Should i personally ask him on aim or what?
online there is so much contriversy..ask him to call you! or ask if you can call him, so then you can talk one on one:) then bring it up and if he says you two are just friends dont push anything. guys dont like it when girls try and push something to happen. but definitally ask him about it though:)
x0x-dani