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I don’t know any attractive females and that makes me angry and depressed?
I want to be acquainted with attractive females so badly but the ones I interact with Mostly thanks to my job or other activities tend to be unattractive or old and that makes me angry. For example, in my college classes, even though there ar lots of attractive girls on campus, in my classes the girls are pretty much always unattractive/ugly. At my tennis classes, sometimes we might get an attractive female for a session or two but most of the time it is ugly/unattractive women, and at my job at a store the female employees are unattractive and most of the customers are older including old women
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What is attractive and unattractive to any person variss depending on that persons personal likes. I don't know you so I can't know what your scale of 1 to 10 is with 10 being best. I don't know but there is a chance that the same holds true for you no matter where you go and would probably be the same at any college you chose to step onto. This would mean that the image of what a eye catching female is may be currently tied to what advertisers put out as the image women should strive for. Unfortunately, most of what people have been brainwashed by media today as being the perfect looking woman, is fake. I watched a youtube video of a model who was already cute and watching her digital photo being messed with, changing her curves and face eyes, hair into what they want to show. The finished product does not look like the gal at all but many people believe that is what they must strive for. Starting with paintings way back, portraits too, painters got to show people in their paintings nude sometimes and instead of painting people as they wished a person could look, that never occurred to them. Nudes were painted looking as real people do. Media hasa dictated what people believe as beauty but that has continued to change during my life time and just before I was born. Marilyn Monroe was the original look that media used to portray as what every woman should look like. Men growing up then, say the big boned curvy look and thought that was beautiful brcsuse that was the image pushed by media. When I was a kid, I remember the look that took over as the most pretty was the sitck figure look or Twiggy look as it was sometimes called by the model named Twiggy. No curves, just long skinny limbs and a petite skeletal base. Both of these looks are totally unachievable for women as much of it is to do with their skeletal structure.
I recommend you watch Tootsie, an older movie with Dustin Hoffman or do the search for an interview with Dustin regarding that role. He played an actor who couldn't land a job cus the agencies were looking for a female. So his friends helped dress him up to look like a female. In his interview he said he wasn't happy with the finished image and asked the workers if they could make him look any better as a female and they said no. That based on what they had to work with, this was the best it was going to get. Dustin had a revelation that brought him to tears. He recalled all the women he had ever met that he thought didn't look pretty enough and realized that they were doing the best with what they had and yet plenty of men just skipped over them due to their looks not being 'Attractive' enough. He realized he had done that very same thing. He said, who knows how many wonderful women he missed out on just because he valued them only for what they looked like on the outside. Saying you feel angry is a strong word. Women tend to not want to be around a man with an anger problem. I am wondering if you really meant you feel frustrated. Either way, I have one more thing to mention. How you feel about yourself, or even another person can be picked up on, like something invisible such as radio waves. The attitude of a people speaks louder than anything. Heres how I learned that. Years ago, I went to a nudist event with hubby. We didn't know but a few people. I saw one woman who was sitting all alone and she was obese. I am a female and straight but I usually will talk to just about anybody, no matter what they look like but something about her made me not want to talk to her. Later I passed a good sized crowd but couldn't tell what they were looking at. I am short so I forced myself to the front and there sat another obese woman but the vibes coming off of her were positive, she felt comfortable in the body she had and that didn't stop her personality from shining through. THe crowd was men and women and everyone was being entertained by her sense of humor. As I watched, I found I wasn't focusing on her weight but focusing on her face as she spoke. I thought she actually had pretty eyes and cute lips as well as her hair. Why would I feel differently about the looks of this obese woman versus the first one? It was all in the vibes they sent out. People may not realize it but they can send off vibes that make them less approachable. I warn you to be sure you are not doing something like this, with your frustrations coming off you as vibes because that can also become a problem. At some point, if something isn't working, then it is time for something new or a new way of looking at something. I have heard it said this way, If it isn't working, but you continue to do the same stuff hoping that it will change, thats the definition of stupid. Humans are so easily trapped into that and I have too for a short while before I come to my senses. I know we don't purposely do the same things believing that next time will get the results we want. What you need to figure out is what has you seeing pretty much all women as unattractive. Apparently, the line of thoughts isn't helping. If it were me in your position, I'd want to try even analyzing myself to rule out that there aren't other possible reasons. Only then could you safely say that there are no attractive women at your college. Another thing to do is watch women who have boyfriends. Do all those women look unattractive too? If you see them all as very attractive, there may be a bit of not trusting yourself to find the right person, or not wanting to do the work yourself to check them out and so if another man finds a lady acceptable, then they are acceptable to you. If you find the females who are dating and have a boyfriend to be unattractive, then either all the males on campus are willing to date ugly women or the problem lies with you. It may help to see a counselor for a while to see if this issue can be fixed. I wish you the best!
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