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About a mistake i did to my younger cousin.
I am a 15 year old girl. I am confused on whether its my fault if i sexually assaulted my younger girl cousin but i have my reasons. My reason is because i was 10 back then and knew so little about sex that when my older brother cousin (he was 13 or 14 at that time) sexually harassed me and it made me think that touching others was normal. I feel really guilty and i did say sorry to my younger cousin but it still troubles me greatly. Is it really my fault?
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Usually whatever actions a person takes that are bad, will be forever etched in minds. However it is true to also not judge a persons character by their past and whatd they did in the past and this goes for adults too. A person can learn and change and thata obviously what you have done. My telling you that you were a child and didn't know any better may not take away any guilt. if your guilt persists, you may need a counselor for a while to help you over this. This means bringing to light what happened to you. What your cousin or brother did to you was wrong, even if just touching. Imagine in public, men being ablbe to walk up to any woman and grab her breast or feel between her legs. There are laws that make this wrong. At the same time, this male bro/cousin, whatever he is, was also under age when he touched you. If you say nothing, he won't get the help he may need. The only way a cousin might hate you is if as the older person, you know this was wrong and you did nothing to correct things. if you told the parents, they may upset hearing what the male relative did to you. So this next part is just as much for them as for you. So here is a link:
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This way you have something scientific to back you up because at age 10, your brain did not register the incident as wrong, just normal. But your brain has deve1loped more, though not done until mid twenties and now you see it as wrong. You have done all you can by apologizing to girl cousin. The issue that remains is what the male cousin/bro did to you. Now that you know it was wrong, no matter what male did this to you, it is time to un-bury the past and let the parents know. If you are bothered enough to write in here for advice, then its proof to me your situation is real and not made up by you, i hope the parents see that. I wish you well in clearing this up. Just tell them everything you said in here. Or show them what you wrote in and what I answered. This way they have to read the whole thing and have no chance
to fly off the handle halfway thru the information. I pray all goes well with you.
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