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Sexual urge in the midst of guys... What can i do to stop it?
I'm 17 years of age,am from nigeria,i do have this(sexual urge)in the mist of guys
What can i do to stop it?
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Thank you for including your age, I wish you had also given us your gender. At seventeen, it is not surprising that you are feeling strong sexual urges, and you are not alone in this regard.
Without knowing more about your situation, I can only advise you of these options:
*You can leave the situation and use masturbation to relieve your own strong sexual urges. No harm done.
*You can act out and arrange to engage in sex with the "guy" or "guys" of your choice, if they are willing. In this case, you had better be sure that you are practicing "safe sex", which means birth control if you are female, that you are with a healthy disease free partner no matter what gender you or they may be, and that you are willing to have sex without any further involvement such as first developing a relationship. Without knowing how well you know these other "guys", its difficult to warn you about choosing a partner that is also emotionally safe to be with, that is, someone who may be kind, sensitive, concerned about both of your well beings, etc.
So you see, it gets complicated, doesn't it.
To answer your question directly, i.e., what you can do "to stop it", meaning , I assume, your sexual urges, I doubt if you can do much about that. Its normal enough.
Good luck and good wishes, Dr. Stephanie
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You do not say if you are female or male but either way, you can't do anything to change it, its part of the way the human body was built to be. Finding yourself feeling sexual urges is normal human behavior. Your only response need be to learn to use self control. If you are female, this means you do not have sex with every guy that makes you feel this way. This is visual stimulation, occuring when your eyes land on certain males, and sometimes what you see begins the response in you but the perfect relationship is more than just based on sight. A whole persons make up is important, their personality, how they treat others, and much more. It tskes choosing one and dating not to show off and show others you have someone but dating at first to find out more about a person, including parts of them that they hide from those they meet.
Now if you are male, everything I've written for females to this point applies as well. The only difference is in how your mind processes this information. Yes, males being attracted to males is not the common normality that you see in society where most couples are of both sexes or heterossexual. However this does not mean that males liking males only is abnormal. It is simply not as common and what most people do not see as being a behavior of the masses of people, usually scsres them and they want to avoid it, thinking it is wrong. But farmers of livestock, know by witnessing it with their own eyes that this occurs in animals too, no matter which one they are raising. Lets say a farmer sees a male sheep go after another male sheep. He wants to increase his flock but two males can't produce young, so this is how he decides which to keep for breeding purposes and which could be sold to market if he needed the money. I grew up in a church that was very vocal about homosexuality and told us how wrong it was. Most heard is how it was a bad choice such people were making and that they should know better that it was wrong. If that is so, then why do a small group of animals do this also? Animals do not have the same knowledge that humans do and yet some seek out only the same sex as themselves. So if you are male and feeling sexual urges among males, do not feel guilty for it. Your creator loves you as much as everyone else and does not change homosexuals into heterosexuals because this mutation is not anything bad that needs getting rid of. Use self control. Be picky and decide what you are looking for in a partner. You may have to wait a while until your peers grow older to be more mature and ready for a romantic relationship, but when the time is right, you will meet someone, the same sex as you and both of you fall in love with each other and all you need to do then, is enjoy your life together. The only difference is that since you can't create a baby together, if children are wanted, you adopt.
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