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Had unprotected sex a day after my period
I had unprotected sex a day after my last period in October,i didn't take any contraceptive. I'm yet to get my period now. It's been 36 days (including last period). Could i be pregnant?
I'm really scared of taking a test that eventually turns out positive.
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There is always a possibility that you can be pregnant, hun. I know it's not what you want to hear, but it's time to own up to some things.
Without knowing how your typical cycle operates, I would have to ask you some questions first. For instance:
1. Did you have sex literally the day after your period ended? Or did you have sex a few days later?
2. How long are your cycles, typically? That would give you a general idea of when you ovulate. Or are you irregular?
Remember that in order to get pregnant, you have to be ovulating first. Most women ovulate on (or around) Day 14, but that's only if you follow an average 28-day cycle. Some women ovulate earlier or later. Either way, a pregnancy could only result unless you ovulated the day after your period ended, which is highly unlikely. However, it isn't impossible...which is why you need to take a test. Sometimes sperm lingers a few days in the body. But as long as you continue to stress over it, the stress is going to prolong your period. If I were you, I wouldn't even put myself through this continued torture. Just take the test and be done with it.
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Sooner rather than later you are going to need to deal with this issue head on and find out. It's probable that you are pregnant but you need a definitive result. You need to either book an appointment with your doctor or get a test or both. You need todo it and be on top of this as it's a health concern. You also need the help of adults around you. They may not react te way you would like at first but they will assist you.
There really isn't anything to be fearful of and shouldn't work yourself up until you have the result and need to tell someone. Even then you will find help and concern. This is one of those things where you have to be responsible and get checked out. You shouldn't jump to conclusions without an actual result. You'll scare yourself when perhaps this isn't what you fear. Go get checked out and then tell an adult whom you trust most.
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For unprotected sex, no matter at what point in your cycle, the best bet is buying and taking the morning after pill Asap after the act as you only have a certain amount of days before that pill will no longer help if a pregnancy is started.
Since you waited so long, you now have to take a pregnancy test. Yes, it is scary and it will be a shock to the parents and they may initially get mad and yell, not because they hate you, not because they think you're stupid, but because they know how disruptive this can be to your life. Having a baby at your age is not as good a situation as having one as an adult. Going through abortion if need be I have heard from some people that it is more painful for a teen aged body and even adults can find it hard on them. If you take the test, do so a few days apart and perhaps different brands to be sure of the answer. If you are pregnant and say nothing, at some point the parents will think youve gained weight but after that it becomes obvious that you are pregnant. So you only delay them finding out but also delay getting abortion while the fetus is tiny, by time you show well enough that they know you are pregmant, you could be 4-6 months along. At 4 months, the baby is roughly the size of an avocado. See this size chart for fetuses:
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The longer you wait to find out, the bigger the baby is and obviously is going to be bigger than your vagina and the entrance to womb. Drs have to get tools inside you and tear up the fetus into pieces to remove...a grizzly thought but I understand in some circumstances it is the best choice, such as a pregnancy from rape, or the mothers life is at stake if she carries full term, etc. It is better to have such a procedure earlier than later. So its best to take those tests. Tell your mom. Telling Dad is so embarrassing. If no favorable reaction or help from Mom, she may be in shock. You must reach out to another female adult, an aunt, grandma and they can help with your Mom so that a Dr. can check to see if you really are pregnant, how far along and you as a family make decisions. If you are healthy enough to carry the baby to full term and put up for adoption, there is now open adoption where you choose from couples who want to adopt and they let you be part of the babies life from the start. It will know you are birth mom and the couple are the ones raising it as adoptive mom and dad. This seems to me like the best choice of all. But it is disruptive to your life. You would have to leave school, if its even open during pandemic. If going full term, the baby will need nutrients and you are a teen and still need nutrients so if you eat as normal, that will not be enough for both of you, you will need special vitamins crafted for pregnant moms. And you have to think of your safety, not getting exposed to sick people, the corona virus, chicken pox, etc... because that can harm the growing baby. These are decisions you can't do alone. I would love to hear back how you decide to go. There are homes for pregnant teen Moms where you live with other pregnant teens and are taught what to expect in pregnancy stages, or how to handle a baby if keeping yourself or giving up for adoption.
I dont know your exact age but as a young teen my period was all over the place still, shorter ones, longer ones lasting a week, 2 in one month or none the next. So it may be something like that if you've had that before. But don't rely on one test saying you're not pregnant, take a second one a few days later and see if you get same results or follow the rechecking instructions on the test you purchase. If you are not pregnant and don't want to stay away from sex, you MUST get on a contraceptive. You can ask your family Dr, make an appt and go get checked and then you will be given the prescription for the pill. Some people have reactions, side effects and if you can't handle that, my second favorite is the IUD although you may be too young or small for that choice...so perhaps the shot or contraceptive patch. I have heard some say they like the shot and only have to get it about every three months.
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