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How do you handle men & management talking about your clothes/body at work?
I'm a female. I work for a home health agency and I visit clients at an assisted living facility. Some guys were gossiping about my uniform/body and the executive director made a complaint to the home health agency I work for. Some of the guys referred to me as the girl with the big _____. Wth, isn't that inappropriate?
They didn't even get in trouble for talking about me. The executive director called my agency to tell them that I'm a distraction, and he's not sure where I get my uniform from, blah blah. I wear scrubs to work everyday, nothing inappropriate. I'm a modest person. I bought some scrubs that were elastic/stretchy. They were good quality scrubs. I don't have to throw them in the dryer and they don't wrinkle. I let them air dry.
This isn't the first time that comments have been made by men at the job and all I do is mind my business. I don't think my boss cares. They just need someone to work.
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I used to work with a home health care agency and men and women alike eventually had complaints and called the agency I worked for. Usually I had reported problems before they called as the issues were obvious, like asking me to do cleaning from ladders which was a no no and when I explained and refused they threw a fit and called my boss.
You did not say if your boss said anything to you. That is what is important. I didn't say my clients were mostly mentally ill or nentally challenged and towards the end, before I quit, just sick elderly but they can be nasty about certain things they want. Clients tried to bribe me, one even with pot theyd give me if I did what they wanted.
So I chalk it all up, even the personal dress complaints you got to uhappy, mean spirited people devoid of any good manners.
No, its not their business to complain just because you have a well endowed chest. Your boobs are not doing any of the work they need done and the boobs don't interfere. If all those men were actually blind, there never would have been such a complaint. Its not your scrubs that are inappropriate, what they really notice is how you fill it out and considering these men are elderly, most likely its been ages since they had sex and so anything that is even remotely close to what turned them on in their younger days will catch their attention and is going to be blown out of proportion because they have nothing else to do, talk about or complain about. Was the director of the facility a female? If so, perhaps she is a bitter person and /or jealous she doesnt look like you. If a male, well I imagine hes not as old as the residents and to him, he feels distracted also by your big chest, or do I have it wrong and they're commenting on the back side? As long as your boss at the home health agency has no issues with how you dress, I would just ignore the comments. However if these people don't want you back at that facility, I'd ask to be given new clients. My agency had some very difficult people whom they had not found a single care worker who lasted. The client usually said they didn't want their caregiver any more and asked for someone else. That was my first assignment and my boss said she'd understand if I didn't want to take it but I said I'd try. I barely lasted a week because the woman was verbally abusive, just like my ex, and actually even worse. So if working with such mean unappreciative people who are so rude, no manners, and complain about stuff that shouldn't even be complained about, ask to be given other clients. My favorite clients were an elderly married couple I'd see in their home but I was just fill in for their regular caregiver. Lastly, it is inappropriate as you questioned but there are so many people in the world getting away with inappropriate all the way to committing crimes and getting released from jail or never going to jail, just a warning. We live in a world where so many are rude. and yes, we find that in the work place too. When I switched to a new agency since I had moved and this was closer, they were so eager to have a new, already experienced care giver that they snapped me up in a hurry. So if your boss won't protect you and work to find you a place where you are appreciated for your skills, not distained for your cup size, then its time to find a new agency that comes with a new boss. My boss always backed me up, even when a client got upset with me, threaten to call police and I ignored her thinking shes mentally ill and won't do it. I finished my work and just as I was ready to leave the police showed up, one talked to her to calm her down and the other took me outside to tell me not to worry, I was not in trouble and they had in fact been there, called on every care giver she'd ever had and that next time if she gets in such a tizzy, I should leave immediately and call my boss. And my boss hadn't told me this new client called police on everyone before me, so they were on my side and said they would tell the client next time she called that they will not send anyone to her anymore because she had rejected and called police on every single one and they had no one left to send.
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Those 'men' are being dicks. I'm a man and would never dream of doing such a thing. Report it to your boss.
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