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The guy i like... i think im falling for him.
So i like this guy and we are friends. In fact i think im falling for him. I dont think i would ever be able to tell him because then i would loose our friendship. Sometimes i feel like he likes me and other times i feel like he doesnt. But another thing is he is trying to set me up with his cousin. I dont like his cousin like that. And i cant stop liking the guy i like no matter what.
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Would you set up a guy you love with a girl cousin of yours? See . . . putting yourself in another persons shoes or situation really brings clarity. Of chourse you would not recommend the one who love as a partner to someone you know. So, since the guy you like is wanting you not for himself but to set up with cousin, that should answer the question as to whether he feels anything more than friendship for you. The fact you realized you don't like his cousin 'that way' means you do recognize the fact that people can feel it with one person but not the other and the unfair thing in life I can't explain is that when you fall in love, it isn't guaranteed that the other person will ever feel the same. If the romantic chemistry isn't there, unfortunately, there is nothing a person can do to make it happen. So this mean just because you feel so strongly about him, that doesn't mean he feels the same way back. If you silently stay as a friend but are at same time tortured by seeing someone you can never have the way you want, then that is one choice but doesn't sound appeallng at all. It sounds quite painful like rubbing salt into a fresh wound. Oh, how that would sting and that what your heart would do on a daily basis.
Your other choice would be to see him as little as possible, slowing seeing him less and than less again until perhaps you don't see him at all. Him seeing you will not make him feel chemistry with you. What isn't there now won't be there later like 5 or ten years. Nope, if a person doesn't feel it now, they won't ever, never feel it.
So the only other choice is to not see him. Will this hurt? Yes, as bad as the other option. However the choice is then not between pain and no pain but pain forever or pain for just a while. See, if you hang in there as a friend, that will be that "pain forever" thing. But if you see him less until you no longer see him, then your heart has a chance to finally heal from the hurt and disappointment and this is the pain for just a while.
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